Post # 1
My parents are divorced, as are my fiance’s. Our parents all get along with each other so that’s not an issue. My dad’s girlfriend is a whole other ball of wax. She hates everything that isn’t about her and manages to insert herself in things that have no relation to her. We don’t get along. She doesn’t really like me. I do not want her sitting in the front row at the ceremony.
That said, I may be SOL. Both mom and dad are walking me down the aisle. Mom will sit in the first seat (she is single), then I was thinking dad, then grandparents, my aunt, uncle and cousin and my cousin’s Boyfriend or Best Friend (they’re probably getting married, I have no issue seating him with family). In the second row, I was going to seat my paternal aunt and uncle and paternal cousins. So…should I seat dad’s GF with them? Or is this a big no-no and she should sit with dad? But then, do I seat Mom, grandparents, dad, girlfriend, aunt, uncle, cousin?
Fiance’s dad is single, his mom is not. We like the boyfriend. Still, is it weird to sit him in the front row when he isn’t family and hasn’t been in our lives as a parental figure? But, is it rude to sit him behind MIL?
Post # 3
Sorry you don’t like her, but it is your dad’s SO. They should sit together.
Post # 5
I may be going against etiquette but I only sat my mom and grandparents in the front row, no one else (small front row). My planner removed all other seats to prevent an issue. I absolutely refused to seat my mother’s boyfriend in a position that held so much importance to me.
I sat him in the second row with the rest of my very important family members. While I hated even doing that he was NOT getting more. Call me rude I really don’t care. I was nice…enough.
Post # 6
Well my dad eloped so I can’t get rid of the wrench.. butI am sitting them together as well as moms boyfriend and in lawas SO they are all sitting together. Its not huge deal.. I mean its a big deal.. but its one of those wedding things you have to take with the cake! haha
I feel you andI know it sucks.
our pews are tiny and her taki up space sucks… but. just yeah :s it just sucks.. you can always hope they break up before the weddin! =]
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
The only way to avoid her in the front row would be to separate the parents- Moms in front row, Dads in second row (I think Peggy Post said that’s how to seat divorced parents, I ignored it and put them all together since they get along.)
Post # 8
Well, if it were me, I would say second row and do parents and grandparents first row, and that’s it, everyone else is 2nd row who is family and/or ‘important’, that way she is not completely left out but still near your dad.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the feedback! 🙂
Post # 11
I have the same issue but I like his gf, she’s really nice. I might be sitting her in the second row, not because I am against her sitting in the first row but because the pews are quite tiny and if I seat her in the first row that means that someone I really would like to have there and is family would have to give up their seat. Ugh now I am working it out in my head and I still don’t have space in the front row with grandpa’s gf there (he would throw a fit if he couldn’t sit with her, at least my dad and his gf are cool with her sitting behind him). Anyway I guess in your case I would sit both your dad’s gf and fmil’s bf in the second row. I would mention it to both parents first and say that it is due to space restrictions.