(Closed) Where to seat the racist?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3969 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@discokitty:  Has she RSVP-ed yes? Seat her as far away as possible lol

Post # 4
2872 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh how horrid.  Is there anyone she does get along with?  (or anyone else you don’t like that you can stick her with? lol) 

Good luck!!


Post # 5
7272 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@discokitty:  Unfortunately, I would sit her with her kids and/or siblings. It’s gonna suck for them, but at least they know her and won’t start a fight. 

Post # 6
9057 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree.  Stick her with her closest family member that can handle/tolerate her. 

I had my uncle and his family sit with my other consistently drunk uncle so he could keep him in line.

Post # 7
1796 posts
Buzzing bee

@discokitty:  this is probably bad advice, but I’d do the pre-emptive thing if she RSVPs yes:  “Aunt Helen, we’re so glad that you’ll be able to share our day with us.  We know you have some strong feelings about certain topics and we’re hoping that we can have a politics free day.  I hope you understand and can respect our request to avoid political and hot button discussions just for this day.  Can’t wait to see you!”  

Post # 8
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Outside in the parking lot? 🙂

Post # 9
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

lol. sorry this cracked me up bc I have same sorta problems.. and yeah, i agree, near a family member and not near anyone you work with! i think most people understand that everyone has one (or a few) people that just are impossible social factors… make sure not to put her near anyone who’s easily offended

Post # 11
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

The balcony or a porch? Maybe a nice seat right next to the ladies room?

Post # 12
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Yep, definitely put her with family members. At least they’ll know what to expect, I can’t imagine being some poor wedding guest and having that come out of nowhere!

Post # 13
3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@discokitty:  Tell her there’s no room at the table, but she can stay in the barn.  Then send someone else to the barn to argue with her about which one of them is allowed in the barn.  She should appreciate the irony.

Post # 14
4705 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Tell her outright that she is not to talk about controversial subjects at the wedding. Hire a plain clothed security officer to sit right next to her. If she starts, she gets removed. No joke we did something similar with a family member who was an officer. The other racist bigot that was an issue was simply not invited. No loss

Post # 15
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@discokitty:  haha i was about to say out side b.c i cant stand ppl who are racisit but family is family sadly … i do like that invite ppl you don’t like idea lol 


ok i am so not helping am i lol hmmm, can anyone talk to her about it?

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