Where to start?!

posted 1 week ago in Engagement
Post # 2
3369 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Congratulations! This is how we started planning:

1. General vision (e.g., private elopement or 500 person black tie affair?) 

2. Budget

3. Guest list size 

4. Year and season/month

5. Venue

6. Date

7. Vendors

8. Outfits

Post # 3
306 posts
Helper bee

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@snparlett: the first step is very roughly nailing down your approximate number (we wrote down everyone we could think of 20 minutes and assumed we missed about 20% more) and your budget so you know what places to start looking at and not wasting you time at places that don’t meet your headcount or don’t fit your budget.

Then you have to book your venue! You can’t do anything until you have a venue booked! I agree with PP on finding a vision but I’d recommend seeing all different sorts of venues and you’ll start figuring out your vision as you look at them and seeing what you like/dislike about the places. We ended up at a place that we didn’t even want to see and what I thought was my favorite place we ended up not even liking.

Once you have a venue booked the wedding seems real so everything else falls in line… You start asking your bridal party because you have a date, you start looking at vendors (most venues have a list of of preferred vendors.) I also liked googling ‘wedding at _____ pictures’ to see photographer blogs! You can even nail down the season in. Honestly this was the easiest way to nail down which vendors I wanted and vision… I stole pieces from different weddings at my place! And the photographers will usually credit all the other vendors in their blog posts. 

I also looked at my venues tags on instagram and started following different hair/makeup artists and DJs that had worked there before, which helped us nail those down. 

The photographer will help you figure out your wedding day schedule an the DJ/band will help you figure out your reception schedule. 

Once you have your vision down you can start looking for your dress… Then the groom/bridal party sort of fall in line with that…. 

Then it’s just final logistics which are usually assisted by the venue (food choices, cake, if you need a hotel, final guest list/tables, favors, etc) 

Of course this is assuming you are getting married at a place that is not really DIY and provides a lot of the services, like food, tables, chairs, etc. More power to you if you can DIY that stuff but if you had a DIY brain I doubt you would have asked this question! 

It seems stressful but I promise once you actually start things will start to naturally fall in line. It’s an exciting time. Enjoy it!

Post # 4
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2020

1. Budget + timeline (how long needed for saving)

2. Guest list (approx anyway) + pinterst for vision (size, colour, season)

3. Venue (in our case only reception, had to talk to pastor before booking ceremony venue)

4. Date

5. Photographer, any other vendors

6. Dress shopping (bride + brudesmaids) (would say putfits but his suit will take only 3 months, but my dress 6-9 months)

7. Figure out specific decor (table no., table runners, signs, favors) if not sprted by vendors, start collecting, booking or making

After that things just start falling into place as you see you need them. I made a massive checklist (in excel cause I used it as budget + check list) to keep track of everything. To be honest as long as your budget and size are consistant you can do things in pretty much any order, just gotta make sure you give yourself enough time to order stuff in/book before they are booked out.


Post # 5
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Hyatt Regency Grand Cypress

The day after we got engaged, my then fiancé let me know he wanted a super-short engagement. As in like two months. That day, we talked through the city where we wanted to get married (destination wedding) and the “circles” of guests that we wanted to invite (closest friends, immediate family, and uncles/aunts/first cousins only). We also decided that we wanted to get married at a hotel, as we’ve worked in events before and believe hotels generally do the best job at hosting these kinds of things. Plus, we wanted an “all in one” location where we and our guests (if they chose) could stay onsite. With that info, the next few days I did venue searches on Google and Wedding Wire and sent a few dozen emails to the onsight coordinators. We didn’t have a budget, so we were only limited to venue availability. I gave our expected guest numbers and asked about Saturday availability over the next few months. One of the reasons we picked the city we did was because there’s a ton of hotels there and we expected availability to be widespread, and it was! Once we narrowed down our options to two hotels, we flew down to Orlando for the day, did site visits at both and signed a contract with the second on the spot for a day four months later. That was the January 11 after our December 19 engagement, so we moved fast! From there, with our date, we were able to book our photographer, buy my dress, etc.

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