posted 5 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: Engaged for 1 yr already while in grad school. Original plan was 2018 wedding, but....

    2 year engagement is ideal so start planning for 2018 wedding ASAP.

    3 year engagement with a wedding in 2 years after graduation with a little more financial stability.

  • Post # 2
    35 posts

    I’m in a similar situation, currently in my third year of undergrad (but he graduated last year and is now in the army/going through hiring for state police) and I want to roll right into a dual Masters/J.D. program.  We just got engaged in November, but I want to get married in 2018 after I’m done undergrad.  I think at the end of the day it’s whatever you guys want! Fiance and I are super eager to just be married already (and I’m a neurotic planner), but if you guys are happy right now then I don’t see a reason to rush it.  Have you talked to him about finances, etc. to see what he’s comfortable with?

    Post # 3
    124 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    I am in the same boat, I will be applying to nursing school in July. And I have just planned most of wedding over winter break. I buy things like flameless candles, decorations, things like that a little at a time when I see something. We have decided on a small wedding, very small just closest friends and closest family. I would start by picking a venue first it’s easier to pick decorations when you know what you are working with. We could wait until I’m done with school but we would rather not, I’m okay with simplier things, and I don’t like being the center of attention so a small wedding will be perfect for us. 

    Post # 4
    568 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Download wedding planning apps such as TheKnot or WeddingWire. This is the time you all should decide if you want a big or small wedding, guest number, an inside or outside wedding, confirming a wedding date, booking venues, if y’all want a religious ceremony and if so booking those, wedding colors/themes. The Knot’s wedding checklist is extremely helpful and will give you a month to month guide of what be done for each month.

    Post # 5
    7 posts
    • Wedding: January 2017

    I first started with the venue and date. I knew that would be the hardest, as so many places are booked out far in advance. Also consider the size/theme of your wedding as this will help guide what venues to look at. The worst thing to do is panic – you have plenty of time. Just tick off the big items which need to be booked in advance, to avoid you missing out. 

    I don’t believe there is a good average or guide for how much to spend. Everyones wedding budget will be different, and will have their own justifications for spending that amount. Just budget for what you are comfortable in spending. Get plenty of quotes, and work out what is the best option for you. 

    Post # 6
    2470 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

    Guest list and budget for starters.  Work out how much you can save by the date you want and how many people you want and that will give you an idea of what you can afford in terms of a venue – ours came to about 70% of the total cost of the wedding (that included food, alcohol, linens, crockery, cutlery, tables, chairs – basically everything within the four walls of the venue).  If you can’t find a venue which works with your budget, either rework the budget, move the date or cut the guest list.  Go from there!

    Post # 7
    1449 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Figure out your budget first. This is the first step. 

    Next come up with a rough guest list/numbers of guests. 

    Now, you can figure out what type of wedding you can afford. Dinner, lunch, cocktails and appetizers? If the type of wedding of you want doesn’t fit your budget, either change your vision or cut your guest list. 

    The above is the first steps. From here you can start looking for venues/vendors/etc. 

    ETA: personally I think 2018 is plenty of time but only you can decide is you want to wait. Really, I think summer 2017 would be enough, but I’m not a fan of long engagements. 

    Post # 8
    478 posts
    Helper bee

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    penny15 :  Figure out what type of wedding you want, and your budget. 

    Small and intimate, abraod, large party, etc…

    Then researching venues that match that criteria will help you develope a budget… which will help you pick a timeline. 

    Post # 9
    74 posts
    Worker bee

    You’ve got plenty of time to plan a 2018 wedding if you want to still! But waiting is OK too! My fiance and I are in the same boat. I started grad school at the same time as you, but he started after me & we were torn about what to do. We were going to wait until he finished school (2019) but we decided we did not want a 4 year long engagement, so we decided to get married while we are both still in school with the understanding that he probably can’t help me plan much. As far as what everything will cost, that is totally dependent on what kind of wedding you want and your budget. Consequently, My advice is to sit down with your fiance and do the following, which will help you decide what your priorities are, and then go from there. Here is a handy step by step guide to help you start:

    1) sit down with everyone who is paying. how much are you all willing to spend? Ideally? Max? Putting it all together, what’s your total budget? Also, WHERE is the wedding taking place? And what time of year do you prefer?

    2) download an app like WeddingWire that has a built in budget estimator and will estimate the cost of everything you could possibly want and create categories for everything for you if you put in your total cost. 

    3) rough out a guest list. The idea is to estimate how many people you think you may need space for in your venue. (E.g. small and intimate, everyone you know invited, eloping…Etc)

    4) You and your fiance (and potentially anyone else who may be paying) should each make a list of your top 3 priorities for what you want at/for your wedding. Then sit down together and figure out where you can compromise and what you absolutely have to have. This will help you figure out what kind of venue and services you need, and what you don’t, which will help you for step 5…

    5) Go through the template budget you made in step 2 and customize it to match the priorities you came up with. Use a website like http://www.costofwedding.com to look at average costs for wedding services in your area as a guide. Delete anything you don’t need from the template and assign that money elsewhere. Shrink the amount to spend on things you don’t care about as much and add more money to things that are important, if necessary. 

    Once you’re done with all of these steps, you should have an idea of what you want your wedding to look like, and a rough idea of what you can spend on everything. Keeping this in mind, it’s on to step 6:

    6) Research possible venues in the area you are getting married. Use websites like The Knot and Wedding Wire to make it easy. Look at pics and websites for any that interest you. If you’re interested, write the place down. If not, move on. Once you have a list of places you’re interested in, contact each venue on the list. If there are a lot, elicit help from family and friends. For each venue find out how many people they allow, their price range, food and beverage rules, and any other info you can about hosting a wedding there. Rule out any that are outside your price range, don’t fit your guest list, or don’t fit your priorities (ex: it was important to my fiance we get married during warm weather. So any venues not open during summer I eliminated). Go visit any venues that are left after this round of cuts. Take your fiance or other people with you who can help you make decisions when you visit.

    7) With your fiance, narrow down the venue list to your top 3 based on all the info you’ve collected and what you thought during your visits. Sit down and price them out. Then it’s time to make a decision! Rank the venues in order of preference.

    8)Come up with potential dates and call the venue to book. If vendor #1 doesn’t have any dates available for you in your preferred range, either decide to move your date or move on to vendor #2.

    9)Repeat steps 6-9 for every other vendor you need to book. I suggest downloading the LadyMarry (my fav) or WeddingWire app to help you create a timeline and stay organized. Then every month just make it a goal to check off each thing it says you have to do and voila, you should be good to go!

    I really hope this helps! I totally get that planning can be overwhelming, especially with school, but you got this!!!

    Post # 10
    9 posts
    • Wedding: August 2017

    My tip is to start saving! 

    Post # 11
    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

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    penny15 :  I’m in my last year of college and I will graduate in May and we are planning a March 2019 wedding. We are doing this for both financial as well as the fact that our wedding will be on our 7 year anniversary. The over 2 years will give us time to save and since we live 3000 miles from our parents it will give everyone time to make plans. We figured that this gives us time to save as much as possible, he has a great job and I’m looking for a full time job. Do what feels best for YOU and your future plans!

    I would reccomend the Knot and pinterest to help with all the fun planning things!


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