Post # 1
Our venue is about 10-15 minute drive from our house. Alot of our guests will be staying at a hotel 2 minutes from the venue and we were going to stay there.
However, part of me wants to save the $200 hotel fee and take the limo home to our house and sleep in our own bed.
Then, we are home, in our own bed, our own house and noone we can run into the next morning or knock on our door…
What do you bees think?
Post # 3
@missjewels: I don’t know where you live, but is there not another hotel in the area y’all could secretly stay at? We’ve blocked rooms at a hotel for guests, but we’ll be spending our wedding night at another hotel, that will remain a secret.
Post # 4
@caits615: There actually isn’t! That is the funny part! The next closest one is about 30 minutes away!
Post # 6
Funny you mentioned this. Fiance and I are in a similar situation. We live actually about 30-45 minutes from our venue, but then we have not booked a car or a hotel (especially since all the ones in the immediate vicinity are $$$ bc it’s a resort town). We are still debating if we should:
1) Get a limo-type car and get driven home
2) Get a limo-type car and get driven to the hotel
3) Drive ourselves to the hotel
4) Drive ourselves home
Fiance isn’t drinking anyway so we can totally make it home in one piece and it seemed kind of a waste to book a hotel room (all the ones in the area that are nice were more than $450) to stay there for such a short stay. I definitely wouldn’t want to stay in the same hotel as everyone else, especially the early morning risers! I am inclined to just head home and enjoy my own shower/toiletries/bed and save the money to upgrade our honeymoon.
Post # 7
I honestly don’t think anyone would bother you and I would vote for staying in the hotel. It gives you and your new Darling Husband a morning to relax and enjoy the new wedding bliss before heading into the reality of home.
We stayed at a hotel the night of our wedding along with my entire family and half of his (37 rooms) and not one person bothered us, called, knocked etc. They all did their thing and had breakfast and got ready to leave.
Post # 8
Could you just get a room and not tell anyone which suite it is? Personally, I wouldn’t want to stay at home the night of my wedding.
Post # 9
Personally, I wouldn’t want to spend my Wedding Night back in my own bed / home.
But then again both times I’ve been married (last time and this upcoming one), we’ve had (have planned) a bit of a celebration to make the day “special”
So that there is a flow of Wedding into a Honeymoon (or mini-moon)
I think that then it is only natural that the first night as Man & Wife is spent also in a “special” place… something that IMO a Hotel can provide (pampering) a lot more than my own apartment / house etc (lol, we have a great bed… but Hotel Beds & Linens are just soooo freakin amazing)
Totally understand not wanting to stay in the same location as your Guests…
Have you thought about having the Limo take you to the Hotel aprox 30 Minutes away instead of home ?
You could then make arrangements for someone to pick you up the next day, or just skip the limo, and drive your own car away from the Reception
Lol, Mr TTR and I are Eloping to a Destination for our Wedding… and we will be staying a good part of the week at “our condo” there. But we will most definitely be heading off to another Hotel for our Wedding Night (and I cannot wait). LOVE having a great room (view to the ocean), super comfy bed, and enjoying a relaxed start to the day over Breakfast. We’ll then go back to our condo, and continue on with our day… plans include a round of golf, opening Christmas Presents, and having Turkey Dinner. Before we head off to enjoy the rest of our Mini-Moon / Honeymoon as of December 26th
Post # 10
Do you have the kind of family who will bother you? I don’t think mine would, but I had a good friend who got married and the couple REFUSED to tell their families where they were staying! The family of practical jokers would have crashed the honeymoon. There were even plots to “kidnap” the bride and make her groom come find her/rescue her! (I guess it was a family tradition, they were all a bunch of pranksters and thought it would be funny to make the groom earn his honeymoon.)
I’d rather not stay in the same hotel as my family – somebody is going to make an uncomfortable joke (about hearing you guys, whether they did or not) or about you being tired in the morning (“didn’t get much sleep last night eh?” wink wink) or about what time you guys actually leave the hotel room in the morning… family is awkward, and most have at least a few people who forget about “boundaries.”
If there aren’t other local hotel options, then go home. You can be sure to put clean sheets on the bed before you leave, have some champagne chilled & ready to go, you could even have some chocolate covered strawberries in the fridge and rose petals to decorate, if that’s your kind of thing.