Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been looking for a venue over the past month, and the topic of where to stay the night after our wedding came up. His response really surprised me. Initially we were looking at an out of town venue and would have to stay at the hotel it was attached to, however last weekend I found a local venue that I absolutely fell in love with and want to book. The venue I love is in our city, and probably a half hour drive to our home. I assumed that we would get a hotel room for the night, at a nicer hotel, to celebrate our new marriage; however, my Fiance seems to think that we would just come home. Going home didn’t even cross my mind… now I’m wondering if I was ridiculous to think we’d stay over at a hotel.
So my question is, what did you do or do you plan to do on your wedding night, particularly if you live in the same city as your venue?
Post # 2
I would absolutely want to stay in a hotel! Fiance and I aren’t living together, so it’s a bit of a moot point for me, but if we were, I wouldn’t want to have to be worrying about whether our room was picked up and the bathroom clean! I think staying in a hotel, especially if you make the decision to splurge a bit, would be really nice and special.
Post # 3
It’s totally up to you guys! I would recommend staying in a hotel. There’s something nice about going to a hotel and having someone else clean up after you. And then wake up late and get a late breakfast!
BUT I have seen other people who regretted staying in a hotel because they didn’t get there until very late at night, and then for some reason or other had to leave in the morning, and they felt that it ended up being a waste of money. Just do what you guys want to do and whatever fits in your budget. (:
Post # 4
In a nearby hotel. It’ll be more special, and you won’t have to worry about transportation.
Post # 6
How close to the venue? i’d still want a hotel. It feels more festive, “official”, fun, sexy, formal, etc etc etc. If I lived next door to the venue and the closest hotel was furtherl…. hmmm. maybe. But hotels are romantic! My husband and I really got to decompress when we got back to our hotel room… we ate leftover catering food, opened our cards, talked about our different experiences at the wedding. The nice hotel room was the perfect backdrop for that, like the “in between” space between wedding and “wedding over”. I’m not a drug user at all but the analogy is good– coming down from being high is better gradually and not a hard crash.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
We went back home, but our venue was only 10-15 minutes away. We’ve been married for 3 years now & it’s actually one of things we still talk & laugh about.
We left at the end of our reception, went through the drive thru at Jack in the Box, and then ate our tacos on our couch in our home while reminiscing about the day ..while still in our wedding attire haha. #classy
We left early the next morning for our honeymoon & since we lived so close to the venue, a hotel seemed like a waste to us. It worked out for us & we definitely do not regret it or feel like we missed out on anything!
Post # 8
We spent the night at home because we didn’t live together before we got married. It was special for us to come home to “our house”. If you already live together though I could see wanting to stay at a hotel to make it a little extra special.
Post # 10
we’ve lived together for the past two years which is why I thought a hotel would be nice. I could definitely see it being very different if our first night living together was after the wedding.
thanks everyone for the responses. I am more of the romantic in our relationship (clearly haha) and I think he sees a hotel as being unnecessary. But it would be nice to go somewhere special especially since we won’t leave immediately for a honeymoon.
our venue would be 10 mins away from the nearest hotel at most, and across the city from our home, which would probably be about half an hour at that time of night.
Post # 11
Yeah, just put your foot down on this. You’re the bride and if you want a hotel room on your wedding night, you’re getting it! How much could it possibly be in the grand scheme of your whole life, $150?!
Post # 12
Hotel room all the way! It will be a nice finish to what promises to be an amazing night. Going home afterwards could just feel anticlimactic, especially if you have your heart set on a certain feel. My Fiance and I live together in a town other than the one we’re getting married in. But even if it was down the road from our place I’d do a hotel room.
Post # 13
I definitely vote hotel room! Our wedding is local and Fiance and I live together, but we think it adds a special end to the night. We will be spending the wedding night and the night after at a hotel 🙂
Post # 14
Hey, I meant where in Toronto is your venue. I’m from Toronto too so I was hoping to help you with ideas, but I don’t know where this venue is (Toronto is huge)!
Post # 15
We were quite happy coming home after the wedding. We expect to be dancing until gone midnight anyway. Our venue is in our city – about 20 mins in a cab
BUT as a totally surprise engagement present, a few friends clubbed together and booked us a room at a posh hotel. We had our first date in the bar of this hotel so it’s extra special. And now I’m really looking forward to it!
we are going to enjoy a lie in and then gather for lunch at the hotel with friends and family who wish to join us. And then go back to our home afterwards. I think it will be a great way to extend the celebrations.
Do the pros of this appeal to you or can you imagining yourself just wanting to cuddle up in your own comfy place?