(Closed) Where were you this time last year? Reflection on progress.

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
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Bumble bee

@Starshollow: I am in a totally different place. This time last year I was with my ex and we were shopping for rings and trying to finalize the budget for the wedding. I found an email saying he was going to pick up the ring on December 22. Well, as time got closer for him to make the big step he was making excuses and seemed indifferent. I took it as a sign he was not ready and not the man I would spend the rest of my life with. We broke up and I am dating again. I would never in a million years thought this would happen. He wanted a wonderful girlfriend and I wanted a faithful husband. I guess we wanted different things but he would never be honest and say he didn’t want to be married because he knew I would leave. Bummer, what a waste of time. I am looking forward to what 2012 brings…I’m excited!

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well I’d like to say there is progress and I suppose there is, we are much better off financially, which is the first step but…. The truth is he makes me feel like it is right around the corner, but that is EXACTLY how I felt this time last year. Last yearI was so sure it was going to be for my birthday in october, it wasn’t, so then I knew it had to be Christmas, but it wasn’t, then it hit me, of course, new years, it is my favorite holiday, we always have a big party surrounded by friends, what could be more wonderful? clearly he was going to propose on New years, I was 100% sure of it, guess what, didn’t happen. I couldn’t hide my dissapontment, it was terrible.

Now here I am almost a whole year later, thinking there is progress, but not able or willing to believe it. He says things, but he said things last year, the same things, around the same time of year, the things that ruined my entire holiday season last year, I am not going to let it ruin this year.

 

In my head I know there has been progress, but in my heart, I have to block it, I’m still licking last years wounds from dashes hopes. =/

 

Post # 34
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This time last year, I feel like I was in the same spot I’m in now with regards to a proposal, but I was less anxious about it.  I was ready for it but it didn’t have the same urgency that it has now.  Now, I want so badly for it to happen before the year is over and I’m nervous about how quickly time is flying.  I’m just not sure it’s going to happen financially with other huge commitments that need to be taken care of with strict deadlines and especially with the holiday season coming up.  I think it would be better if I didn’t know that every single one of my friends and family is sitting waiting for me to get engaged…. that definitely doesn’t help things.  I am thinking that if it doesn’t happen by the end of the year, I should just let him know that I don’t need a ring to be engaged.  I’m really at that point….. sigh.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Same position as where I am now, living with SO, same job.. except I don’t think he realised I was “waiting” as such back then! He does now πŸ™‚

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This time last year I was living in another part of the state going to grad school, in a program I’d dreamed about getting in for 2 years.  It was the first time I’d moved out of the house.  Since then, I’ve started out in the field, and am doing an internship halfway across the world.  My first professional assignment appeared in several publications worldwide!  Also got my driver’s license (which was a big deal, as I was 25 at the time).

On a less good note, this time last year I really wanted a timeline, got sick of waiting for the bf to bring up marriage, so I did…and things have been a roller coaster ever since.  I would have liked to have been engaged months ago.  Still no ring.  Boo.

Other than that, looking at what I’ve written, I have to admit, my life’s gotten pretty friggin’ fabulous in the last year.  If only the bf would propose by the end of the year, it would just be the icing on the cake!

Post # 37
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Bumble bee

I was still in school this time last year and of course still waiting.  However I’m finally in my last semester and I finally have a job. I think I’m closer to getting engaged than last year. I hope it will be next year. My SO and I talked about wedding  plans and such so I’m hopeful.

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

This time last year I was still waiting, but I wasn’t expecting anything to happen. We had just moved in together and were trying to figure it out. I think our relationship is much more developed now and a lot deeper. We’ve learned to communicate even more than before (: This is our third year together and our relationship is a lot more “real”. He’s my best friend, but this time last year I didn’t realise that. We’re also a lot closer to being engaged, he said before the end of the winter so we’ll see what happens πŸ˜‰

Post # 39
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666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Last year, I was really hoping that a proposal was coming during the holidays but it didn’t happen πŸ™ We have actually looked at rings now and he knows the ring that I absolutely love the most. Still hoping for a proposal before the end of the year but trying not to set myself up for disappointment like last year. He has said that he hopes to do it before the end of the year but if not for sure early next year.

Post # 40
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Worker bee

I am right back where I started from- but it’s a good thing. This time last year was when I first started seeing marriage as a serious possibility for us. We were content and everything was lovely, I thought that it was sure to happen. We hadn’t talked about it, at all. Then, he dropped the ‘I don’t believe in marriage’ bomb on me. I spent the next several months reconfiguring my perception of the relationship. It went from being something sure to something uncertain. It was a few months before I was able to talk to him about it again- we discussed it when we were both feeling level-headed, instead of in the middle of an argument. We’ve had a few serious discussion afterwards, and were both on the same page.

I can’t really do it justice by describing how we changed things. Sometimes, all it takes is one moment to make you open your eyes and see the person who loves you. Now, I feel like we can get through anything. it’s wonderful to be back in my state of mind last year- happy, and in love.

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

This time last year I wasn’t even engaged, lol,

Now I’ve been married for almost 6 months!

I was working–I’m not at the moment.

I was in a different house and church.

I was a virgin πŸ™‚

I’d never been to a serious concert or to Yosemite.

I’d never seen a TON of the movies I’ve seen in the last year (DH is a big movie buff).

 

so yea, what a difference a year makes.

Post # 42
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Newbee

This time last year I had been broken up with my ex (that I had been engaged to for three years and with for five) for a little over a year and with my current SO for 10 months. I made the mistake of telling my current SO that I didn’t even feel close to being ready for marriage, and I wasn’t sure if I was going to feel ready at all in the next several years. 

This year I’ve proposed to him. We’ve been to look at rings and I’m expecting a proposal sometime early 2012, and we’re hoping to get married in Sept.

A lot changes in a year.

Post # 44
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1425 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

This time last year I was starting to actually think I was ready for marriage.  I was living alone in the big city, working at a job I hated but that paid well, and around the holidays was the first time he asked me what kind of rings I liked.

Now I am living with him, waiting for him to be ready for marraige, working at a slightly better job that pays terribly, and just wondering when we’re going to take the next step.

Post # 45
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376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently! This time last year I was single and casually dating. I didn’t meet my current Boyfriend or Best Friend until Feb. I never would have imagined a year ago, that today I would be with the love of my life, in the condo I bought myself! I’m definitely in the waiting stage, but I must remind myself that we have plenty of time…because as I think we’ve all realized, you never know where you will be in a year! This past year has me feeling very blessed πŸ™‚

Post # 46
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273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This time last year we were just starting out!  We were so giddy around each other!  Our first date was scheduled but we spent every hour we could together!  He actually ended up meeting my parents on our first date, and I met his BEFORE the first date.  

Now a year later I am planning a wedding!  It won’t take place for another 2 years, but at least I have my shiny to keep me company! πŸ™‚

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