Post # 1
Ok, I’m due in November and at the very latest, I will have a Thanksgiving baby. I’m the first one of my friends to have a baby so they are all excited about it – but I think they are more excited about the baby being out and getting their “friend back”. They want to do all these super fun activities in December and January and they keep saying, “just bring the baby with you!” Also, my parents live far away from me. While my mom is staying with me through the holidays, my dad, grandmother, and the rest of the extended family won’t be able to meet LO unless I go out there so they want me to make a trip while I’m still on maternity leave.
So here is my question for all you mamas out there: Which of these things would you be willing to do with a 1-2 month old?
Post # 3
@bijou214: My son was early but, honestly, I was barely up to go to a restaurant for a few hours or grocery shopping until about 3 months. But, I may be alone.
Post # 4
So long as you are feeling OK I would think it’s fine! I felt great and took advantage of my maternity leave to do a lot of fun things! I even took him to see some movies – he slept or I nursed him (it was dark, I just covered up). There was only one time that he awoke and was slightly crabby, I just walked in the lobby for awhile.
Flying is sometimes hard on their ears but you’ll enjoy having had the time with your baby and being able to go out – as long as you feel good!
Post # 5
We’ll, at 1-2 months, we were out and about with our twins, no problem. Babysitter for stuff like the movies and shows (bit loud for little ears, plus distracting for others if they cry), but we just cart them along on everything else. It’s a massive morale booster to put on some makeup, pop them in the pram for a nap, and head out for a bit of adult interaction. Darling Husband and I take them everywhere, even on dates to restaurants (not super nice places, mind). At this age, they mostly just sleep so we can get on with whatever we’re doing! I think the UK is probably bigger on getting out with babies from the early days, though.
Post # 6
@bijou214: I might consider a road trip to meet the family, but I’d be very hesistant to take a 1-2 m/o baby out in a crowded public place (airplane) for an “optional” outing. Grocery stores and other places you need to visit dailys/weekly are one thing, and certainly a date night at a restaurant with the babe would cheer me up, but beyond that, I’d be super-paranoid about germs, especially since a baby that age isn’t fully vaccinated.
Post # 7
@bijou214: as soon as I felt better (3ish weeks) baby did everything I did. I brought her to movies, long car rides, grocery shopping everything….her first plane ride was at two months and I had no issues.
Post # 8
Between 1-2 months we kept it to short outings that I didn’t feel bad leaving early. Things like a backyard BBQ, dinner at a casual restaurant, walks in the park, attending a street festival. I had some serious tearing from delivery and it took me a while to be comfortable walking sitting etc. While I enjoyed getting out to see people I definitely left events early. So I avoided things with expensive tickets where I would feel bad leaving early, long car trips (they don’t recommend keeping infants in carseats for long periods), and anything I thought was too overwhelming for me and little man. I was still able to reconnect with friends and introduce the baby to everyone.
Post # 9
I flew with my daughter to Boston (1hr flight) when she was 6 weeks old. No problems.
Post # 10
@bijou214: I dont have any kids. But my dad and stepmom had a baby at the beginning of the year. When he was 2 weeks old they brought him to see me, and that was a 10 hour drive. We also went to a sit down restaurant with him. As long as you arent alone, I’d think its possible to go places.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I voted for “It’s flu season”. Then again, we are the cautious type. We’re also quite content to stay at home now, without a baby, so it wouldn’t be a change for us.
Post # 12
I ticked party and short flight. I only didn’t tick theatre and movie because of concern about baby crying and causing a disturbance, but I’d definitely take baby to one of those baby friendly sessions. I didn’t tick road trip because it would be hard on me, I’m sure baby would be fine. Babysitting wasn’t an option for me due to breastfeeding.
Things I actually did when one of my babies was 1-2 months old: visited friends and family, went shopping, took oldest to kindergarten, went to church, went to a wedding.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I’m in a similar situation wiith family. I’m due December 1, and my dad can’t travel. We’re looking at a 16 hour trip at the end of January because I don’t feel comfortable flying with her. In terms of the other stuff, personally, I’ll be staying away from movies and the like with her– I think it’s torture to her and the other people in the theater. I’d probably take her to a holiday party, though. We could leave whenever we wanted, so I think that;s okay with me. I do think babies can go a lot of places, but there are some places that it’s better they skip. And mom and dad could certainly use an evening out together, so getting a babysitter isn’t a totally bad idea 🙂
Post # 14
I have a 2-week-old right now and we’ve gone out for dinner a few times, we go shopping, and we’ve gone to some family events.
I don’t think a movie would be a good idea, but only because it has the potential to be disruptive to other people trying to enjoy the movie. Things like restaurants or family BBQs are easier because you can deal with a fussy baby better.
More importantly, I think you need to tell your friends to cool it. IF you feel up to doing these things, that’s great, but those first two months are about you and your baby. If you feel like a bag of smashed assholes for a while, don’t force yourself to be social for their sakes.
Post # 15
My family doesn’t take new babies out so I picked none. I think she went out to dinner once at three months and besides that we didn’t take her out too much.
Post # 16
I don’t have a child but of that list I would probably only do the holiday party.