(Closed) Where would you seat this person?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Based on what you have written, I would wait until the last minute to decide.

Post # 4
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Yes, I would wait to seat them.

Post # 6
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

If it’s not a problem to wait, I would. Maybe come up with a Plan A and Plan B so you’re not stressing about making the seating chart last minute.

Post # 7
433 posts
Helper bee

Find two tables where she would fit well (the guys tables, and another table) and leave room for an extra seat. After their trip I’m sure she’ll give you an update and you can ask her where she wants to sit.

Post # 8
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I would wait it out, and as the wedding gets closer, why not consider them a couple and seat them at the same table? If by then, it’s fizzled out, then you can seat them on opposite sides of the room!

Post # 10
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Quietserenity: if the trip doesn’t end until the day of your wedding, i would just go ahead and figure out seating beforehand.  that’s the last thing you want to worry about on your wedding day.  i would just put them at the same table.  they are adults, after all.

Post # 11
1892 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would do as PP suggested and wait to seat her.

Do you have another guest that is coming as a single that would be comfortable sitting anywhere? You could always swap her with such a guest at the last minute if things don’t work out on her weekend trip. Good luck!

Plan A: She sits at the guys table

Plan B: X guest sits at the guys table and she now sits where X guest was seated.


Post # 12
5271 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

At first I was going to agree with others, but then after reading your last post, that the trip ends right before the wedding, changes my opinion.

I agree w/ Ms. Meowerson just seat them next to each other, its not like they are at a table alone, there will be other people to socialize with too, and if anything I would think it would be more awkward for them to sit apart, when people knew they were traveling together just that same day.

Post # 13
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I completely agree with leaving an empty seat next to one of them.  If it goes well, then they can fill the seat.  If not, it’ll just be an empty seat.  Maybe you can tell one of them that there will be an empty seat next to them for this purpose?

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