Post # 1
For this to make sense, first I have to tell you a story.
My best friend in the entire world (but who is not in our bridal party–she doesn’t “believe” in weddings, and said she didn’t want to feel awkward) will be at the wedding.
She’s currently having this “thing” with one of FI’s coworkers. Keep in mind that they live in different states, and have met each other once. (She came to visit us in Ohio, and stayed with FIs coworker. Partly because we didn’t have space for her, and partly because they are damn cute together, and we meddle.) But they spend a lot of time on the phone.
Anyway, they’re both coming into the area early and taking a road trip together to go see chicago, and spend the night there.
So, if the trip goes really well I’d want to seat her near him, since they live so far away from each other. If it goes poorly, well…I’d want to give them some space from each other.
Obviously this could be filed into the folder of “things I’ve thought way too much about” but I don’t want either of them to be uncomfortable. Should I just wait until the last minute to decide?
Post # 3
Based on what you have written, I would wait until the last minute to decide.
Post # 4
Yes, I would wait to seat them.
Post # 5
As an aside to this–I’m really curious how this works out. She’s never even dated, so to go from no dates to an overnight trip with a guy? that’s a huge jump.
Post # 6
If it’s not a problem to wait, I would. Maybe come up with a Plan A and Plan B so you’re not stressing about making the seating chart last minute.
Post # 7
Find two tables where she would fit well (the guys tables, and another table) and leave room for an extra seat. After their trip I’m sure she’ll give you an update and you can ask her where she wants to sit.
Post # 8
I would wait it out, and as the wedding gets closer, why not consider them a couple and seat them at the same table? If by then, it’s fizzled out, then you can seat them on opposite sides of the room!
Post # 9
@2PeasinaPod: their trip will be over the morning of the wedding, so I’ll only have a few hours to figure it out 😛
Post # 10
@Quietserenity: if the trip doesn’t end until the day of your wedding, i would just go ahead and figure out seating beforehand. that’s the last thing you want to worry about on your wedding day. i would just put them at the same table. they are adults, after all.
Post # 11
I would do as PP suggested and wait to seat her.
Do you have another guest that is coming as a single that would be comfortable sitting anywhere? You could always swap her with such a guest at the last minute if things don’t work out on her weekend trip. Good luck!
Plan A: She sits at the guys table
Plan B: X guest sits at the guys table and she now sits where X guest was seated.
Post # 12
At first I was going to agree with others, but then after reading your last post, that the trip ends right before the wedding, changes my opinion.
I agree w/ Ms. Meowerson just seat them next to each other, its not like they are at a table alone, there will be other people to socialize with too, and if anything I would think it would be more awkward for them to sit apart, when people knew they were traveling together just that same day.
Post # 13
I completely agree with leaving an empty seat next to one of them. If it goes well, then they can fill the seat. If not, it’ll just be an empty seat. Maybe you can tell one of them that there will be an empty seat next to them for this purpose?