Where/How to put “formal attire only”??

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Where to state "Formal Attire Requested"??
    On Rsvp - they will remember after sending : (1 votes)
    3 %
    On Invite - best to have all info at one place : (30 votes)
    97 %
  • Post # 3
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    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think you should put it on the invite itself. Once the RSVP is sent, people aren’t going to think about it again. I’ve referred back to an invitation to see if it said Black Tie Optional before…so it’s where most guests would probably look.

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I don’t think it’s very nice or appropriate to tell adults how to dress for a wedding. So, I don’t think that you should put it anywhere.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @red_rose: If the request is “Black Tie Optional” or “Black Tie” that is pretty widely accepted.

    Some venues are very formal and guests need to be informed of the formality so as not to feel out of place (or get kicked out if the venue is a country club or other venue with a strict dress code).

    Post # 6
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    2100 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    You can put Black Tie Optional on the bottom of the invite and it will be proper

    Post # 7
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    1433 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    Yeah, I wouldn’t use the words “formal attire only”.  What we chose to do was “formal attire, black tie invited”  – but we put those on our RECEPTION cards.  

    Do you have a reception card?  Usually it’s better to put attire details on that, then the actual main wedding invitation. 

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @KatNYC2011: Yes, but unless someone’s culture or family for some reason does not feel this way, then I would think that the vast majority of people know to not wear jeans or t-shirts, and are well aware that weddings are normally “formal attire,” and don’t need to be reminded of that fact.

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @red_rose: You may be surprised. If nobody told my Fiance what to wear to a wedding, I think he would show up in jeans and a Spiderman shirt. Tongue Out

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would put it on the bottom right corner of the invite itself.  We are considering doing the same thing, for the same reason.  FI’s uncle wants to wear tie-dye to our wedding!

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @prncss47: Put it on the invite bottom right corner and put either “Cocktail Attire” or “Black Tie Optional”.

    For some reason putting “Formal Attire Requested” sounds a little more demanding than just stating the type of attired. Not sure why, I might be crazy.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @KatNYC2011: I agree with you, but I don’t quite know why.  Smile  It’s probably because “Black Tie Optional” and “Cocktail Attire” are common and accepted phrases to include on a wedding invite, whereas “Formal Attire Only” is not.  Same idea, but different execution.

    I would put “Cocktail Attire” or “Black Tie Optional” at the very bottom of the invite (depending on what you want because they are two different things).  I have seen plenty of invites that have this, and I am considering doing the same thing for the same reason as you, @prncss47!

    Post # 14
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you’re just looking for a suit/tie and a cocktail dress, you should be putting “cocktail attire.”  Black Tie means tuxedos and floor-length ball gowns… 

    I’ve seen it on invitiations to non-wedding events, and I guess it looks okay, but I don’t really like being told what to wear.  That being said, I’d feel really out of place if I didn’t know.  So I guess the invitation would be my vote.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @abbie017: I don’t think it’s necessarily telling guests what to wear; it’s letting them know what is appropriate for the event.  Like you said, I would feel very uncomfortable if I showed up to a wedding and was severely underdressed for the venue.  I think this is particularly helpful for guests who might not be used to attending a fancier wedding and just don’t have a clue about what to wear.  They might show up underdressed, anyway (and who cares if they do?), but at least they were given a guideline to follow if they choose to.

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