Post # 1
We’re having a family and close friends to the ceremony and then ‘everyone else’ kind of thing to the reception, 83 in the day and then another 29 in the evening.
The weddings not until July, we had to send the STDs out a while ago because it’s a weekday, but now I’m getting the awkward questions! People I know, but not well enough to invite ‘oh where’s my invite, haven’t had it yet?’ Or ‘when’s the wedding, I need to book it off?’ Etc. I know some of it is said as a joke by some people but others are deadly serious 😐 I can get away with it at the moment by saying ‘nobody’s had their invite yet….’ because technically they haven’t but I can only do this for so long!
Stretching the guest list is unfortunately not an option, like many bees we’re paying for it all ourselves and can’t see the point of getting a crapload of debt for one day….any advice on answering the awkward ones?
Post # 2
I started really early, like way before we even got engaged, that we would be having a small wedding consisting of our family and closest friends when the time came. It helped me to get it out there as early as possible so people would know. Just be honest! People have to respect your wishes for a small wedding. I’m sure I hurt some people’s feelings, and probably still will as we are now engaged and planning but this OUR day and WE get to choose who we want to spend it with.
Post # 3
I guess all you can do is say that it’s a close friends and family only day.
Post # 4
All you have to do is say it’s a small gathering of friends and family and you couldn’t accomodate everyone you’d want to be there, but you appreciate their excitement for your marriage.
Post # 6
I’d go a step further and say it is a “mostly family wedding”. Someone could theoretically take offense to being told they didn’t make it to the “close friends” group, but nobody can argue that they are family (or be upset at you for only/mostly inviting family)