(Closed) where’s the line with pets?

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think my line is similar to yours. If the welfare of my child got threatened that’s where the line would be.

We would exhaust every option, including financially before giving her up though. We’ve already had to deal with crazy medical bills with her the first 2-3 years of her life. She had demodex mange when she was born and it took almost 3 years of monthly visits to get rid of it. And thousands and thousands of dollars. Till now she still has allergies that are an issue. Money would not be a factor for us to give up our pup. Yes, we would go into debt for her just like we would for our baby.

But I don’t think I could ever give her up to a stranger or to the SPCA or anything.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@mrstilly: my thinking is very similar to yours. My dogs are very important to me but not more important to me than my real human family or people I love. I wouldnt say its that I love them less but I love them in a different way. In my mind the two just dont compare.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

My SO knew how much I love my pets before he started dating me. If he didn’t like it he needed to let me know before we got serious. So if he just didn’t like the smell, that’s too damn bad. I hate the smell of garlic but he continues to use his hands to smash it up when he cooks. I’m not going to leave him for that. That’s stupid.

only serious health risks. Even then I would try my best to find a family member that I trusted to take them.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@mrstilly:

Like you said in your original post. The line is different for everyone. For us our pup IS our family and our child. So for us we will go into debt for our pup.

I know many people will not and that’s fine. The line is different for everyone. That’s why my husband and I are really really glad that we adopted her and not the family in front of us. They had 2 young girls and I highly doubt they would have been able to stick it out for 3 years with her demodex mange and the bills. And the time it took to train her. They likely would have given her back and she would have been another older, rambunctious “pit bull” at a shelter.

ETA: And I just want to say that’s why no matter how well behaved you *think* your do is you should never leave them alone with your child! Our pup literally would not hurt a fly. But she thinks she’s a freaking chihuahua when she’s a 65lb pit bull mix! So she could unintentionally hurt a child.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@mrstilly:

@regberadaisy:

I can agree with that. Unless the animal is endangering the welfare of a family member I would exhaust every option. My parents had a nasty cat when I was young. They eventually got rid of it when the cat scratched my brother (he was 1 yr old) right across the face without being provoked (my brother was not even LOOKING at the cat, it’s not like he was pulling its tail or something). They didn’t want to get rid of the cat, but the welfare of their child was in danger and they needed to do what was right for their kids.

We ended up getting cats again when we were older and they were totally destructive (destroyed all of our furniture, tore the wall paper off our walls, etc) but they never hurt us so my parents kept them til the bitter end. 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

To me, my dog is a part of my family.  By adopting her, I agreed to take care of her and provide her the best life I can.  I love her and I will go the extra mile for her every time.  But I did recently have a friend who’s dog bit her baby, unprovoked.  In those kind of circumstances I think the only thing to do is rehome the dog.  They are a danger to kids, and also are stressed out in their home environment (hence the bite). 

With the tick situation, I’m not familiar with how that works.  IDK if there’s anything more to be done about the yard or your dog.  Different medications?  Not letting the dog roam free? But if you’ve exhausted every possibility, then yes you have to keep your son safe.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@MissCallieJean: I think thats a good way to look at it. If someone i dated was that into their pets and I knew that than I wouldnt get serious. that can work both ways and its a very good point. For those that have that menality toward their pets and say that they would never date someone who either didnt love animals just as much or wasnt accepting of the love they had for their animals there are also those that could say that they wouldnt date someone who had that type of attachment. Im one of those people and while i wouldnt date someone who was cruel or cold or harmful to animals I wouldnt be able to date someone who would choose their pet over me. Im pretty respectful of everyone’s feelings on this but I think its good to point out the flip side to things sometimes 🙂

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mrstilly: Mine lines would be like yours, too. I wouldn’t go into debt, and I wouldn’t risk my partner or my (hypothetical) kids.

Not going into debt is precisely why we’re waiting to get a pet. I really want a dog, but if something went wrong we couldn’t afford to have it fixed :(. Maybe in a few years, though, we’ll be in a better position.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would not keep a pet if asthma or allergies prevented a comfortable life in my own house (my health or my fiance’s), if it forced us into debt, or if we had to take wack hour jobs to pay the bills and the pet ended up caged for 12+ hours a day.  In that case I would find a friend or family member who could take the pet until we could get our schedule together again and take it back, but still. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@jo.lee:I wouldn’t go into debt either.. We waited a loooong time to get our cat to make sure we could afford and we now have enough “emergency funds” stashed away that we feel safe if something happens to her.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@stardustintheeyes:

I wouldn’t be able to date someone who would choose their pet over me.

Absolutely! My husband and I both love our pup like crazy. Yes, we’re crazy! But you bet we come first to each other. And when baby comes baby will be first then each other then pup. No doubt.

I think perhaps what @MissCallieJean: was saying is it’s hard for someone who is a avid pet lover to date someone who is clearly not a pet lover. Or who does not have the same pet “mentality” as you. There are people out there who think dogs/cats are just animals and it’s silly to love them.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@stardustintheeyes: I totally see what your saying, but I think part of the reason I love my Fiance so much is because he such a huge cat lover!! And now that I think about it, every significant relationship I’ve had, the dude has been a huge cat lover! I think that is just what I am attracted too!!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@stardustintheeyes: I think we already do think that way before we get serious with someone. There are always dealbreakers. But for some reason no one ever thinks about pets as being dealbreakers. That’s why so many animals are dumped on the street or into shelters. It’s sad.

Sometimes animals are treated like objects to just be dumped off at a junkyard. It’s not like a sports car that you have to get rid of to make room for baby. It’s a living breathing animal and people need to truly think about it before the get a pet.

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