(Closed) where’s the line with pets?

posted 9 years ago in Pets
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Like other posters, our dogs are our kids. We have insurance on them, so that does help with some medical bills that come about, but we’ve also spent several thousands of dollars on our puppy due to allergies, a parasite he got from the dog park, and currently he’s at the vet and we can’ figure out what is wrong with him since we haven’t been able to go 30 days without him being seriously ill to add to our pet insurance.

We don’t currently have kids, but our dogs have all been socialized around kids of all ages and are excellent around them. When we do have children, our dogs will have plenty of time to acclimate to the kids and we won’t be getting rid of the dogs because of baby. That actually infuriates me. Fiance and I both volunteer with local rescue groups, and we see a lot of people giving up dogs for rediculous reasons. 

Post # 33
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@quiche: “By making the commitment to adopt our dog, we are in it for the long haul – financial, health, in/convenience, temperment, etc.”

Agreed.  The only way I would give up a pet is if they became vicious and a danger to those around them AND every avenue had been pursued to deal with it without success.

Post # 34
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Sugar Beekeeper

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@regberadaisy: Agreed, debt wouldn’t be an issue for the health and welfare of our pet. Again as an avid pet lover I consider my pups to be my four-legged children so there isn’t much that would convince me to rehome them.

I do agree with the PP that if for some reason my pups were endangering the welfare of my family then perhaps that would be a reason to look for alternatives.

My Future Brother-In-Law has a pit bull that is and has ALWAYS BEEN very agressive and has a county record of attacking other dogs within the area as well as biting him severely on both hands when he tried to break up a fight. Needless to say I myself am not comfortable around the dog it is far too agressive and tries everything it can to get out and attack. They have tried behavioural changes and training and it hasn’t worked so I would say in this situation, especially as they now have a baby, that I feel action needs to be taken.

 

Post # 35
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@mrstilly:  oh wow.  I think my line is drawn at my sanity and safty of the human members of the family.  I know a lot of people have the mentality of pets are (like) family, but for me, I’m just not quite there.  if at any point I felt the well being of my children was questionable because of a pet, I’m sorry, but the pet has to go, especially if the risk factor for lyme is so high in the area.

Post # 36
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Busy Beekeeper

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@MrsWrangler:  yup that is EXACTLY how we see our cat too.  I tell my friends the best way to handle being around her is to IGNORE her!  But there are times when they are like “we didn’t do anything and she hissed at me!” But i know in my cat’s mind, they did do somethig, whether it was just move in her general direction or what not. We actually think anxiety meds would be good for her, but haven’t looked into it yet because like i said, its not everyday we have people over.  And when we do, we put in her our bedroom where SHE is happy and so are our guests.  When we have a baby though, it might be a different scenario.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee

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KristenGettingMarried: I agree with all of you.

The one thing that ticks me off are people that believe they are the only ones in the world who can take care of their pets and that anybody else in the world would just abuse them. Yes there are tons of horrible homes out there but there are also tons of wonderful perfect homes too and it is selfish to believe any different.

I had to sell my horse last year due to financial reasons, I had him 8 years, it broke my heart, I cried for weeks, but I made sure he went to a loving home where is spoiled and cared for, does that make me a horrible owner, No. I adopted my rabbit from a family that no longer had room for him, he came from a loving family and they made sure he went to a good home, does that make them horrible owners, No.

While I understand that it is important to do everything you can to take care of your pets you can’t predict the future. To say if you ended up homeless you would still take your pets with you, how is that fair to your pets when they could be with another family in a home that loves them just as much as you do.  Or if your job changes and you now are gone all day long, is it fair to leave your dog locked up all day instead of finding another home where he could play all day. People don’t give animals enough credit for adjusting to life changes. Yes moving to a new home is stressful but they will adjust to it and move on, it is people who dwell on the past.

To say that everyone who gives away a pet is a horrible pet owner is just rude, you don’t know their circumstances, you don’t know how many options have exhausted, and you don’t know how hard it on them emotionally to make that decision. I volunteer at a minature horse rescue, so yes I see the horrible abuse and negelect that happens, but as fast as these horses come in there are just as many people with wonderful homes lining up to adopt them. They have had 80 horses go through there rescue in the just two years, some abused, some negelected, some surrendered by owners that just couldn’t keep them anymore, they have all found wonderful new homes, have a little faith in people.

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m very much a beleiver that a pet is a lifelong committment.

It would take A LOT for me to give up one of my pets. I would thoroughly exhaust all options first (professional trainers if the dog has behavior problems; if the dog has a health problem I would spend quite a lot to help them, unless the dog’s quality of life was low and the dog was in constant pain).

As far as ticks, that’s not a reason I personally would give up a pet; it’s a very-low-risk and temporary problem. Dog ticks don’t carry Lyme, that’s deer ticks. And if your dog is picking up ticks outside, humans can pick them up just as easily from being outside. I grew up in the country; every night during the summer, my parents would do “tick checks” on my sister and I.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee

I agree that dumbing in a shelter is incredibly wrong, but even still you don’t always know the reason behind it.

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The only thing I can even remotely think of, is if my (future) child had an extreme/untreatable allergy.  And in that case, my sister would take my cats.  I would absolutely never bring them to a shelter.  By the time I have kids, they would be older, and would not be the greatest candidates for adoption. 

This goes both ways…I have agreed to take my sister’s cat if such a thing ever happened.

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

To say if you ended up homeless you would still take your pets with you, how is that fair to your pets when they could be with another family in a home that loves them just as much as you do.

I can understand your view point but I disagree because I would never burden my family with asking them to take in my dog. I got him knowing that regardless if anything happened, I will always find a way to take care of him myself unless im absolutely unable to. I work closely with some homeless organizations; I know its possible to be homeless and still have a happyhealthy pet. Perhaps not all circumstances but its doable in some. I can see the viewpoint of wanting to rehome him if that situation ever arose but he would have to literally be starving on the street before I ever got rid of him. Some ppl arent that passionate about it but my dog means more to me than anything in the world. Literally. Where there is a will, there is a way!

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@dynamic_duo:Yeah, for example my mother hates her because she picked her up and put her face in the cat’s face. So the cat hissed and swiped at her (didn’t even connect, so Mom was lucky actually). How many times and how many ways do I have to tell people to IGNORE. THE. CAT.?! Drives me up a wall. We do put her in our room when we have 7 people over once a week, but when my SIL and her BFF come to visit for 3 days in a row, I tell them to suck it up, stop screaming like little girls and scaring her, and they will be fine!

Never thought of anx meds… but that might actually be a good idea. We won’t have kids for at least another 7 years though, so I’m not worried about it until then.

 

ETA: Also, so glad someone else has this problem… somtimes I feel like I got the most monstrous cat ever because my fam and friends are constantly picking at her. Sometimes in a funny way, but sometimes in a really hurtful way and it makes me crazy!

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

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@Genuine513: that isn’t true of all pet people. Unfortunately not all people choose to go the route you did of finding a loving and caring home for their pets. Shelters are full of pets that people just didn’t want anymore because it was inconvienent. 

My friend got a dog that she wanted, the dog was abused and took way more effort than she wanted to give to it. She ended up leaving it with her SO’s parents and the dog died because it was sick. She said that they would have gotten rid of the dog when they had kids anyway. I love my friend dearly but that is ridiculous. Don’t get a pet if you plan on getting rid of it once you start having kids. That is not fair to the pet. 

Post # 45
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

For me a pet is a pet, and is not in anyway the same as an actual child that I gave birth to or adopted. If the pet was causing harm to my children, or causing problems for my partner then I would definitely have to reconsider it.  I dont have any pets currently and the only pet I plan to get in the future is a tank with some fish. I think too many people buy dogs and cats without really  thinking it through all the way. Its easy to love them but its also easy for them to become a problem from you financially and otherwise

Post # 46
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Bee Keeper
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@hotchildinthecity: just out of curiousity are you saying that if the allergy was treatable you would still keep the pets even if it meant that your child would have to take medicine on a daily basis or use an inhaler or something? im really curious about that because i know with my son if having our pet made him uncomfortable or unhealthy in any way i would not keep that pet. I wouldnt just dump it anywhere either but rehoming would be necessary. Even if the allergy was treatable with medication on a daily basis if i knew it was even requiring that of my child im not going to keep the pet.

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