(Closed) where’s the line with pets?

posted 9 years ago in Pets
Post # 77
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@regberadaisy: this. You said exactly what I was thinking in a much more tactful way. thank you.

Post # 78
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@mrstilly: that is a very good point. I was never asked if the pets were something I wanted still given my allergies. I would most definitely give it a shot if my child was old enough to say “hey mom i would still like this pet even if i have to take daily meds”. But I wont make that choice for my child the way my mom did I would actually try and ask them how they felt which was not done with me when I was a kid.

Post # 79
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@floridabride12:

hahahha. Every birthday/holidays we look at our pup and go “so -insert dog name- what did you get us this year? A bone again? Oh sloppy kisses? Awesome!”

Post # 80
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Bumble bee
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@regberadaisy: Those sloppy kisses are the best 🙂

Post # 81
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Bumble bee

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@regberadaisy:  I’m sorry, but how is that judgmental? Its a fact and the truth. I wasn’t judging based on the fact that people TREAT pets like they are people, although I don’t agree with it, but do what you will. I was mearly stating that they ARE NOT people. I do apologize for the attacking, but I’m still reeling from how people are telling her how she should treat her pets when she clearly did not ask for it…

Post # 82
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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@jjmomma: that was exactly what I thought! like why cant we just have a fish tank?! or a reptile maybe! or even a bird or something!!!! I only tried a dog again as an adult because my parents still had a pet after I was already grown and out of their house and it was a new smaller dog with really short hair and I didnt react as badly to it. I do love dogs and even though they made me miserable as a kid and I didnt want them due to that I did always feel sad i couldnt enjoy the pet. So i tried a dog similar to what my parents had and she worked out much better. Im not sure if its due to the kind of dog i have or because I am older? not too sure. But I know that occasionally it can hit me badly but for the most part im much better. I still have to take a pill daily and keep an inhaler on hand.

Post # 83
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Bumble bee

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@floridabride12: No what I was referring to was the people that were saying they would rather live homeless with their pets then give them away to somebody else. If you are able to afford to care for them, and have the time for them then no you wouldn’t give them away.

Post # 84
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

when i was 2, my family dog bit my face. i had to have plastic surgery to reconstruct my eyelid, but i was lucky because i could’ve been blinded or permanently disfigured. my parents put the dog down because he was traumatized after that as well. my parents should have been better at training the dog so he didn’t react the way he did– i loved the dog more than he loved me, and this wasn’t the first time he’d hurt me–i have a scar on my cheek from him as well, though i’m not sure if it was from the same incident or another. i was with a babysitter the day he bit me, and i think what happened was that i was standing in front of his food and tried to give him a hug, but he took that as me stealing his food or something. it breaks my heart still to know they put him down, but when your kid is in the hospital, you have to draw a line.

our dog is like our child, and any decision we make about a line with him would be absolutely heartbreaking for us. especially because of my history, i will be incredibly careful about managing his interactions with our future children. when we got him, i was also really conscientious about finding a good fit for us. this is going to sound controversial, but i mean this only because of my history and not something i think is true for all dogs in the world. but we intentionally choose a dog who’s really small (16 lbs), from a breed dh and has family “know” really well (they’ve had the same breed since fil was 6 years old), and we got him as a puppy from a reputable breeder for we could control his developmental experiences as much as possible. of course, every individual dog is different and i think that adopting shelter dogs is a wonderful thing to do in general. but for me, having been bitten and being worried about this, i wanted to control as much as i can about our dog so i can be as comfortable as possible eventually bringing a child into the family as well. we also work on his behavioral issues as they come up so we’ll hopefully do a better job mixing pets and kids

Post # 85
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Sugar bee
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@stardustintheeyes:  I just can’t imagine giving my child meds they otherwise wouldn’t need just to be a pet owner… I love them too and I really enjoyed my childhood with two beautiful dogs, but I wouldn’t medicate my child for it.

ETA Unless my child was able to decide that’s what they were willing to do…

Post # 86
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

This summer my 8 year old daughter came in the house after playing outside and had a tick on her stomach.  We kept her.

But seriously, we spend an enormous amount of money on our dog who has allergies and has to have special medications and foods.  I think there are of course times when it is in the best interest of all involved to re-home a pet.  But too many people just jump into getting pets without thinking it through.

Post # 87
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@Genuine513: I have to disagree with that though. I personally know a homeless man who has 2 dogs. Whatever money that man has goes to his dogs first and he will walk however far he has to go to get them to the low-cost/free clinics around town for their shots. He used to be a violent offender, and he admits that if anything ever happened where he couldn’t keep his dogs with him, he’d rather die. I don’t think that just because you’re homeless for whatever reason you should give your dogs up.

Post # 88
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Buzzing bee
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@finnaroo:

OMG, that is horrible. I am so sorry that happened to you!!!

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@eeniebeans:

This summer my 8 year old daughter came in the house after playing outside and had a tick on her stomach.  We kept her.

I would have spit water if I was drinking some!

Post # 89
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@eeniebeans: “This summer my 8 year old daughter came in the house after playing outside and had a tick on her stomach.  We kept her.”

Best comment today! 🙂

Post # 90
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Bumble bee

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@floridabride12: Again not what I meant, I mean the people that would put themself in debt over there pets and/or live homeless because they couldn’t find a pet friendly place then to just give the pet away to another loving home. If you already homeless and get a dog and take care of it, then all the power to you. But I would never make myself broke and/or homeless because I was too selfish to give a pet away to somebody else who could take better care of him.

If you still disagree then thats fine.

Post # 91
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Bumble bee
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@Genuine513: ok. I don’t totally agree with that (we have a credit card specifically for our dogs bills) but I see what you are saying now. I mis-read earlier and thought you meant if you were homeless and/or had debt you shouldn’t have pets, period end of story. 

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