(Closed) Where's your SO?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AB Bride:  I think you could politely say that while he’d love to be here, he was busy. You dont need to make the bride look bad by saying he wasn’t invited. 

Post # 4
1737 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Sheepshead:  x2


I think it’s a pretty common question if you are out and about and curious friends and family want to know where the hubby/FI/boyfriend is! It wouldn’t annoy me at all.

I might get creative for the fun of it. “He’s auditioning for The Bachelor, but sends his best regards!”

Wait, what? 🙂


Post # 5
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I haven’t been in that situation, but if I had been I would tell the truth.  It is not up to me to make excuses for the bride and groom.

Post # 6
9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You said…

This happened to me when my DH and I had only been dating a few months. I found the question a little awkward and annoying!

I understand the frustration…

But as you have posted this on the Etiquette Board (if you weren’t aware already), you should be aware that not inviting one’s SO when one isn’t Married, Engaged or Living Together is quite common (and OK etiquette wise).

More so if you’d only been dating a few months… The Bride may very well have organized her Guest List, Ordered the Invites etc many many months earlier (before you were even in the picture)

Most Brides who are having a good sized Wedding, say that one of the greatest challenge is finding ways to trim the Guest List… PLUS ONES for those Single Guests, is certainly one of the easier ways.

As to what to say to those who pose the Question… yes having a sense of humour is the best remedy.  No reason to make out like the Bride has committed a big faux pas by not inviting your Date, because she truly hasn’t

Hope this helps,



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