- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
I have it! I FINALLY found it! A dress that I LOVE is hanging in my closet!
Well, there are actually FOUR wedding dresses hanging in my closet right now! I know…usually a bride only has 1 or 2, but I went off the deep end! I almost lost my sanity for a brief period of time there, but I’m back and I am SO happy that I Finally found what I was looking for.
(sorry this is so long!)
I got engaged in February of 2008 and we set our date right away (June 27, 2009). I went dress shopping about 2 weeks after getting engaged, just to look and to try on some different styles. It was such a whirl-wind and before I knew it – I was ordering a Champagne wedding dress with pick-ups and my 2 BM’s that were with me had latte colored dresses on order. As soon as we walked out of the door I started to panic. What about the hot pink flowers that I have always wanted? Those certainly weren’t going to go with the latte dresses that they had picked out. And would I even feel like a bride since my dress wasn’t white or ivory? And what about those pickups? Would my dearly beloved even like that style of dress? Would I even like it in a year? It all happened so fast, that I don’t even remember how I ended up ordering it! But I did…and we all know that sales are FINAL in dress shops! My 2 girlfriends convinced me that I made the right decision and all would be fine. Well…..it wasn’t fine. I didn’t sleep a wink that sunday night – and I called in sick to work that monday morning! I felt like I was going to throw up….what the heck was I thinking ordering a champage dress? I didn’t WANT a champagne dress! I wanted an ivory dress. And when did I ever dream of my bridesmaids wearing latte dresses? Never! I wanted them in black dresses with fuchsia sashes around their waists. Who’s wedding was this anyway? It certainly wasn’t mine!
As soon as 9am rolled around on that horrible monday morning, I was on the phone with the bridal shop. The woman on the other end was so sweet as I explained my situation. Yes, of course I Could change my order from champagne to ivory. Sure, the girls could change their dress order also – we’d just have to come in to pick something out. The 3 of us were back on our way to the store the next day. I switched my dress to ivory and the girls tried on about 10 different dresses. None of them really screamed out to me, but we HAD to pick something because they couldn’t just get their money back, it was a store credit only. So, we settled on something that I didn’t really like, but was the best option that they had (and NO, they weren’t black with fucshia sashes….they were celedon!)
Fast Forward about a month….. Oh crap….now what the heck did I do? I wanted black dresses and fucshia flowers. That would just not look right with those celedon dresses! Another sleepless night….another trip back to the bridal shop. This time I told myself I would not settle for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress that I didn’t really want, so I ended up buying the store credit from my BM’s and purchasing 2 not-so-dressy dresses for myself to wear to rehearsal dinner and on the honeymoon.
OK, so on to finding the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses I always wanted. A couple months later all of the girls ordered their black dresses with fucshia sashes around the waist. Now why did I need to make that so hard on myself.
Now we are in March (2009). My ivory dress came in many months ago and has been hanging in the spare bedroom closet ever since. I pull it out one night to try it on. NO!! It’s SO NOT ME!!! It’s not my style, it’s not the style of my wedding, it’s just not right for me! It’s a georgous dress…..but just not me. I shouldn’t have bought this dress…but it’s too late for that and now what am I going to do? I can’t even exchange it for "store credit" because I am way past that stage as it’s been hanging in my closet for 6 months by this point! Yet another sleepless night and another "sick" day at work. I’m back in the shop while I should be at home resting. I am here by myself because I don’t want to drag my BM’s through yet another trip (and I really don’t want them to talk me into another dress that is more their style than mine.) I tell the woman that I just don’t think this is the right dress for me and she’s looking a little peeved at me because I don’t think she really wants to help me try on ANOTHER 20 dresses! But she does anyway and I decide on a dress that’s more my style. It usually takes 15 weeks to come in, but I am getting married in 14 weeks so I pay extra to have it rushed in just 2 weeks and shipped directly to my home. The dress arrives lightening fast and I am nervous as I open the box. Did I make another bad decision while in panic mode? I put the dress on…..and yes, it is beautiful…it is georgous. But something isn’t right. It’s taffeta. Hmmmm…was the dress I tried on in the store taffeta? I don’t know, but all I do know is that this dress is not THE dress. Oh man….now I have 2 dresses hanging in the closet!! 11 weeks til the wedding and what the heck am I going to wear? Neither one of these dresses are ME.
I go looking online and buy a dress that I think I’ll like. I order it because I need to find something NOW. I don’t have time to order a dress that will take 4 months to come in! The dress arrives and I call one of my BM’s over. She doesn’t like the dress on me – she thinks it’s too traditional for me. I have to agree with her. Again, a beautiful dress, but just not what I am looking for. If I could somehow roll all 3 of the dresses hanging in my closet together, I would have what I am looking for. But each dress on their own is just not ME.
I search online again for something else. I know I need to order something online because of my time crunch. I look at all of the websites with dresses for sale (preowned, once wed, ect). I know I want a never-wed dress…and there are tons of them for sale on these websites (as it turns out, there are quite a few 2 dress brides out there!). I thought I knew what I wanted, then changed my mind. I came across many many beautiful dresses and sent out many many emails inquiring about dresses for sale with hardly any replies! (I am now thankful that many of those didn’t reply as I probably would have wound up with another dress that wasn’t just right!!) And Finally, I found it. I heard a song in my head when I saw it, I envisioned myself walking down the aisle. I had to have it. But wait…..don’t make another irrational decision in the heat of the moment. I actually waited this time! I waited a few days! And then I bought it. I anxiously awaited it’s arrival. I could hardly handle the anticipation as I drove to the post office to pick it up on the day of it’s arrival. I wanted to open the box as soon as I had my hands on it! I drove straight home and tore into the box & put it on. I L-O-V-E it! It is perfect!! It is exactly what I wanted all along!!!! I put it on and jumped up and down! I twirled around and ran around the house in it!! I am so excited. There are all emotions that were lacking with the other 3 dresses, so I am sure this time. This is it! I hear "At Last" by Etta James when I think about the dress! YEAH!!! I am not ordering another dress, nor even looking at any other dresses – because I finally have THE ONE! She’s the Pronovias Ademuz, and that’s what I will be marrying my awesome man in!!!
Now I just need to sell my other 3 dresses!