Post # 1
Hi everyone! any insight to this situation would be greatly appreciated. So my SO and I have been together for 3.5 years. We shopped for rings in February and March, and I found several I liked- and left it at that. I am not 100% sure if he has it, but Im pretty sure he has one. So, since early this year I have been waiting for a proposal. There have been several opportunites, that I thought it was going to happen, and they just pass on by- no proposal. The thing is, although I keep feeling excited, my excitedness is being overrun by frustration and resentment. Does anyone else feel this way? I mean– from my perspective, if you have a ring, and you know you want to marry someone, then what is the hold up? We want to buy a home and have kids but none of this can happen until we are married(per my wishes- and his). Every weekend that approaches now, I just feel myself fill up with frustration when I see him planning nothing romantic at all- any help ladies? Thanks its sooo appreciated. 🙁
Post # 3
He could be planning something lovely, or waiting for a particular date – have you got any significant dates coming up?
Or the ring be being sized, he could just be super nervous now that he’s got a ring (if he has) and be building up his nerve!
Post # 4
He is probably just waiting to surprise you when you least expect it, or waiting for a special day that means something to you both. Hope I could help.
Post # 5
@PoppyRose: Thank you for your reply! I think that may be the hold-up- but I wish he would just go ahead and do it already! haha.. I can’t think of any particular dates, but, who knows, he may have one in mind. thanks- it helps to get some reassurance !
Post # 6
Just curious, what makes you think he has the ring?? Also do you think he would ask your parents for their permission? A few guys I knew we’re so nervous to talk to her parents so it delayed the proposal.
Any vacations coming up? Maybe your 4 year anniversary?! hopefully soon 🙂
Post # 7
@luvstoshopsd: I am so in the same boat. We started looking at rings early this year. More recently, about a month ago I finally found a couple that were perfect and I loved (wedding bands included because he didn’t want to do this twice). He jokes here and there about having to ask my dad AND stepdad. He makes it sound like he definitely hasn’t spoken with them.
He recently got a huge payout of unused vacation time (almost the exact price of the ring) and told me he was hoping to use it to buy them. We just got back from a beautiful trip to Florida where we had multiple romantic moments. No dice. Every new “opportunity” that passes has a huge build up then a huge let down. My 25th birthday is in a week. I know its not coming then. I know he’s the one, he knows I’m the one—I reiterate to him all the time that I don’t need a grand event proposal. I feel sort of lost and hopeless. How else could I convince him that we’re right? How much more amazing could we be together to make him feel like he can’t wait another day to ask me? I just don’t know how to squash this feeling.
I feel ya girl.
Post # 8
I feel your pain.. ring was purchased last year in November, at the moment we are saving for a house together but he knows that we wont be living together until we’re engaged.. so i have no idea why nothing has happened yet 🙁