(Closed) Which address for return address on invites?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

do you mean the return address on the invitation envelopes?

or the mailing address on the RSVP return envelopes?



Post # 4
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would do whatever you think makes more sense. I’m having our invites mailed to my parent’s house because we will be moving. 

Post # 5
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Do whatever you feel you would rather.  I would personally use my address if we weren’t living togther.  To be honest, guests probably won’t save that address as a future address to send cards, mail, etc to.  So, I wouldn’t worry about that aspect.  Especially since you’ll be following up with thank you cards after the wedding which will (presumably) have your new address on it.

Post # 8
5073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@physicsbride:  they don’t have to be the same.  .

which address would you want the invitation returned to if the invitee’s address is wrong?

who is collecting the RSVPs?  They should go to that person’s address


Post # 9
16194 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Gifts mailed ahead of the wedding will likely be mailed through whichever address you specified when you were registering (assuming you have a gift registry, that is). If you do have a registry, gifts will be sent to the address on file.

Post # 11
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would use my address because I’m a control freak and I loved getting the RSVPs in the mail!

PPs are right – gifts will likely be sent to the address you have on file with your registries.  Also, you can use your new address on thank you cards and/or put it on the back of the program.

Post # 12
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Technically, since this is on the etiquette boards, you should be using the address of the hosts. Who issued the invitations? My mom issued ours, formally, even though we addressed and mailed them; we had RSVPs go to her and she called every few days and read them off to me adn kept them all together so I could double check them like the paranoid control freak I am every time I was home. If I was coming home in the enxt few days, she didn’t open then so we could have that joy some also.

Post # 14
1 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

Hi Physics,

Here’s how we handled the situation:

1. We spoke to Mom and Dad about the RSVP’s. They did not want the responsibility. Despite the fact that they were hosting, they’re more than fine with us using our address.

2. Decide between the two of you who wants to be responsible for trakcing/ logging/ organizing the RSVP’s. Depending upon the size of your guest list this can be quite the undertaking…

3. If you’re concerned about future correspondence you can solve that on your Thank You’s. Get address labels made now that reflect Mr and Mrs (or whatever name(s) and titles you’ll be using) with the address that you’ll be using as a married couple. Most people know that you’re not living together now and will notice the new, joined labels on the Thank You’s. 


Hope you’re getting the advice you needed



Post # 15
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My Fiance and I don’t live together either. We put his address on everything because his address will be our address after the wedding.

Post # 16
622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i would definitely want the rsvps to come to me (control freak as well!) but i think it makes more since to go to your Fiance. that’ll be your permanent address and likely the one people will hold on to.

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