Post # 1
My fiance and I are debating about whose address to use as the return address for the invitations. Right now we’re doing the Save The Date mail out, but we’d like decide now in order to stay consistent for with invites. My fiance and I don’t live together. In fact, we live in separate provinces (Canada). I will move to join him, so his current address will become mine after the wedding.
Here are our thoughts on the 2 choices.
– Bride’s is probably more conventional
– I will be excited to recieve the RSVPs! I think it would be fun to get the mail.
– Guests will probably use save this to use for any future communication (cards after the wedding)
– Guests choosing to mail gifts will probably use our return address. We’d like them sent to the province that we’ll be living in.
My fiance is doing the mailing, so he’s totally capable and organized enough to recieve the RSVPs, no worry on that front. We’re leaning towards using his address. Thoughts?
Post # 3
do you mean the return address on the invitation envelopes?
or the mailing address on the RSVP return envelopes?
Post # 4
I would do whatever you think makes more sense. I’m having our invites mailed to my parent’s house because we will be moving.
Post # 5
Do whatever you feel you would rather. I would personally use my address if we weren’t living togther. To be honest, guests probably won’t save that address as a future address to send cards, mail, etc to. So, I wouldn’t worry about that aspect. Especially since you’ll be following up with thank you cards after the wedding which will (presumably) have your new address on it.
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Post # 7
@MsAmandaAnn: Thanks! My concern is about guests who mail gifts ahead of the wedding. We’d rather not have to ship them to another province afterwards if it can be avoided.
Post # 8
@physicsbride: they don’t have to be the same. .
which address would you want the invitation returned to if the invitee’s address is wrong?
who is collecting the RSVPs? They should go to that person’s address
Post # 9
Gifts mailed ahead of the wedding will likely be mailed through whichever address you specified when you were registering (assuming you have a gift registry, that is). If you do have a registry, gifts will be sent to the address on file.
Post # 10
Thanks for the tips. If the address for the registered gifts can be set at the stores, then this won’t be a worry. I might still get them sent to my fiance’s place, just because he doesn’t share his mailbox with anyone. Less potential for lost mail…
I was really looking foward to reading all the replies though!
Post # 11
I would use my address because I’m a control freak and I loved getting the RSVPs in the mail!
PPs are right – gifts will likely be sent to the address you have on file with your registries. Also, you can use your new address on thank you cards and/or put it on the back of the program.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Technically, since this is on the etiquette boards, you should be using the address of the hosts. Who issued the invitations? My mom issued ours, formally, even though we addressed and mailed them; we had RSVPs go to her and she called every few days and read them off to me adn kept them all together so I could double check them like the paranoid control freak I am every time I was home. If I was coming home in the enxt few days, she didn’t open then so we could have that joy some also.
Post # 13
@mrsSonthebeach: Yes, I agree with you there. The “hosting” (ie paying) is split between my parents, his parents, and us. We haven’t decided on the wording of the invitations yet (this mail out is the Save the Dates), but it will probably be of the “Along with their parents, ” variety. That is, we’ll indicate that all 3 couples are hosting.
I also wanted to see the RSVPs, I love getting mail. My address is my parent’s address right now, as I just moved back into the country. So maybe our address is the way to go.
Post # 14
Here’s how we handled the situation:
1. We spoke to Mom and Dad about the RSVP’s. They did not want the responsibility. Despite the fact that they were hosting, they’re more than fine with us using our address.
2. Decide between the two of you who wants to be responsible for trakcing/ logging/ organizing the RSVP’s. Depending upon the size of your guest list this can be quite the undertaking…
3. If you’re concerned about future correspondence you can solve that on your Thank You’s. Get address labels made now that reflect Mr and Mrs (or whatever name(s) and titles you’ll be using) with the address that you’ll be using as a married couple. Most people know that you’re not living together now and will notice the new, joined labels on the Thank You’s.
Hope you’re getting the advice you needed
Post # 15
My FI and I don’t live together either. We put his address on everything because his address will be our address after the wedding.
Post # 16
i would definitely want the rsvps to come to me (control freak as well!) but i think it makes more since to go to your FI. that’ll be your permanent address and likely the one people will hold on to.