Post # 1
I want to have my BM’s each get their own blue, knee-length cocktail dress. My idea is to do deeper blues, i.e. navy, cobalt, royal, indigo…
My sister (one of my BM’s) pointed out that if I were going for a variety of shades like that, I’d want to make sure there was an actual variety, not 4 or 5 of my BM’s with navy and 1 or 2 with some other shade, which might just look sloppy. (At my brother’s wedding, 2 or 3 BM’s had one shade of purple, and one Bridesmaid or Best Man had another shade, so it really just looked like she had missed the memo or something.)
So I’m considering two options: The first would be having them all get navy blue cocktail dresses in whatever style they want. I think I’m leaning towards that option – it would be cohesive and simple – and it’s easy enough to find navy blue, right?
The second option would be to give them a range of shades as stated before and suggest that they coordinate amongst themselves to avoid a situation where it looks like one girl just missed the boat and got a different shade than everyone else. Maybe suggesting that 3 of them wear navy and 3 wear royal or some other shade. Or something. I like this idea less because, frankly, it sounds like it would be a pain in the ass for them. But part of me does like the idea.
Post # 3
I think I would have them wear one shade of blue and just let their dresses be different.
Post # 4
I am telling my BMs the colour, and they can pick the dress themselves.
Post # 5
I would tell them the shade of blue that you want, and let them choose the dress. I think you will still get some variety, as even shades of navy blue can be different.
Post # 6
So you have 6 bridesmaids? You already have four color: royal, cobalt, indigo, navy. Pick two more, sit down with them and have them each pick one color. Or have them pull colors out of a hat to keep it simple. Lol. I think this could look really beautiful.
Post # 7
Appreciate the input, guys! Looks like the votes are pretty even so far. I think I am still leaning towards just telling them all to get navy and leaving the rest up to them.
@MademoiselleL: I was thinking this, too, about slight variations even between navy blues – they’re always different depending on the fabric and the designer.
Post # 8
I think that the same colour of blue will look a lot more cohesive. Different shades of blue might look like everyone wasn’t on the same page.
Post # 9
@GreenGables: I’m having an elegant wedding inspired by the ocean (chapel ceremony, reception on a yacht) and I’m actually GOING for different shades of blues to make it look more like the shades of the sea when hit by the sun… either that or champagne dresses inspired by the sand! haha
I think it can work if the dresses work well together… you don’t want to make them all look like they’re guests standing in a photo. I was thinking about adding a champagne sash to the dresses to set them matching a just a bit!
Post # 10
I think it would be difficult for the BMs to coordinate amongst themselves to make sure that the colors all went together. I have my BMs in designated colored shoes, two BMs in each color, and even THAT has been difficult when they only have to check with one other person. More often then not they contact me instead.
Post # 11
i would choose a brand/fabric and then assign them a shade, like navy or royal or whatever. That way they can pick the style that suits them best and there will be a range of shades but it will still be cohesive.
for example, everyone buy a knee-length dessy dress in the lux chiffon fabric– bm’s a,b, and c buy navy, bm’s d,e,f buy royal.
i think its helpful to give some direction.
Post # 12
I would give your girls a swatch of the color you are thinking (one person’s navy may not be someone elses navy!
Post # 13
I agree with what has been said. I think you should somehow assign colors so everyone is on board for sure, and then make sure to send them a reminder with an example of the shade you would like them to get.
Post # 14
I definitely agree with the prior posters who noted that not all navy (or any other color) blues are created equal. I absolutely would select a specific manufacturer and specific fabric so that you will be guaranteed to not have any blues that clash with each other. I would either assign two bridesmaids to wear each of three, specific, different, colors of blue within that specific line and fabric type OR I would select one specific color of blue from one specific manufacturer and fabric for all of the bridesmaids.
Post # 15
I say tell them navy and then if they have slightly different shades it won’t be noticed and will look like you planned the mismatched look anyway.
If you make sure they all have slightly different fabrics then they most certainly won’t be the same shade.
Post # 16
Speaking from personal experience (doing different shades of pink because different pastels in the same color scheme was too difficult to coordinate), I would expressly say which color you want each Bridesmaid or Best Man in.
I think it’s up to you which variation you like better. I personally like the look of different shades. But make sure you explicitly say which kind of fabric, too. You may even want to send some options for each girl.
Things can quickly snowball when you do something like this lol, so be prepared to field lots of questions. It can get tricky.