Which Bathroom For Your Kids?

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Which Bathroom?
    Father takes daughter to women's : (2 votes)
    5 %
    Father takes daughter to men's : (18 votes)
    47 %
    Mother takes son to women's : (18 votes)
    47 %
    Mother takes son to men's : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
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    11520 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    carrolltobee :  I don’t have kids, but when I’m out with my 4 year old nephew, I take him to the womens. I think that until they’re able to go independently into a washroom, they go to the washroom that matches the accompanying parents gender. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    741 posts
    Busy bee

    carrolltobee :  If they aren’t old enough to go in alone then I only really see women bring kids to the women’s and men bring them to the men’s. 

    Post # 4
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    469 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    I don’t have kids, but I have thought about this before. I’m not sure that I like the idea of kids going to the mens room and seeing strangers genitals at the trough? What if one of them is creepy and likes that kids are there? Or is that just a wierd thing to think about? 

    Post # 5
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    283 posts
    Helper bee

    If they are too young to go in alone, I think it’s definitely better for the kid to be the one in the wrong gender room. I would do a bit of a double take if I saw a man in the womens room even if he had a little girl with him. I definitely have memories of my dad taking me into the mens room. I was pretty fascinated by the concept of urinals, but it seems like you can’t actually see much unless you are peeking into the urinal itself (to be fair, I haven’t spent much time in mens rooms since). My dad just quickly hustled me in and out.

    Post # 6
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    2805 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Mine are still pretty little and they come into men’s/women’s depending on which one of us is with them. We haven’t had an issue yet. Darling Husband doesn’t take them a ton of places alone, and to be honest there is always a family restroom at the places he does take them (though not that it would ever factor in to his decision to take them places). 

    Personally I would rather have them go into a bathroom designated for the opposite sex, than go into the bathroom alone.

    The way the world is moving, I do think we are headed for more, if not all gender neutral bathrooms, so eventually this won’t be an issue.

    Post # 7
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    9819 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If they are too young to go in alone I think the child goes to the bathroom that the parent is comfortable going into.  I am not comfortable going into the man’s restroom so I’ll take my son to the womens room until he is old enough to go alone.  No, it doesn’t really make a difference when they start noticing anatomy or genitals.  At a really young age they notice it just like they notice feet or a belly button, that’s it.  My 2 year old noticed anatomy and she is obviously not old enough to be sent anywhere alone.

    Post # 8
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    70 posts
    Worker bee

    As a single mom I had no choice and took my 2 sons to the womens bathroom when they had to go or I had to go. When they reached the age I felt comfortable letting them use a restroom alone I let them use the mens… but stood outside the door and gave every man that walked in after them the “i will cut you if you touch them” look. However, everyone has their own preference, choice, in the manner and i wouldn’t judge a parent who went a different route… also so thankful for places with family bathrooms when the boys were little!!!

    Post # 9
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    487 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I don’t have kids, but I remember when I was one being taken into the ladies by my mother and on the more rare occasion (usually an emergency) into the gents by my dad.  That said, I have no problem with any dad who wants to bring his child into the ladies, especially if they are small and there are no male/separate changing facilities for tiny people.

     

     

    Post # 10
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    702 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I was thinking about this the other day…but more so, I was wondering how old is too old for this. We were at Home Depot a couple of weeks ago and I went to use the bathroom, and a mom was in there with her sons. One was younger, maybe 4. The other had to have been 7 or 8, which to me seemed too old to be still going to the opposite gender bathroom with a parent

    Post # 11
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    11520 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    bellsprout :  so true – haven’t been in many mens washrooms, but the ones I have been in didn’t have changing tables. If I saw a dad in the womens using a changetable, I wouldn’t be the slightest bit concerned about it. Might be a little more werided out if he was there with an 8 year old, but as long as no one is being creepy, who cares!

    Post # 12
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    6691 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    carrolltobee :  Age definitely makes a difference.  I entered my SS’s life when he was 5yo.  At that point, he was going into the men’s bathroom by himself as I stayed close to the door of the restroom.  Any younger, and he would have been going into the women’s room with me.

    Post # 13
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    9216 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    most places these days have family bathrooms but if i was out with child of opposite sex than me and he couldn’t go independently, i would take him to woman’s room.  at least with the woman’s room, everyone is in a stall with a closed door.

     

    i remember a time when my brother and i were little and my parents took us to a kiddie water park.  i think i was 6 or 7 and my brother was 3 or 4.  he is disabled and has medical needs and it was just easier for my mom to do it plus men’s rooms didn’t have changing tables like they do now.  my dad took me to the mens locker room to change, he put a towel over my head so i couldn’t see anything. i remember the boys in the locker room kept asking if there was a girl under there and why i was being hidden. 

     

    carrolltobee :  also ….gender is how you identify, sex is what organs you have. so in your question: When your out with your kids of the opposite gender…

    if you are a mother with a son who identifies as a girl, the opposite gender would be the men’s room.

    Post # 14
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    1192 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    My son comes into the women’s bathroom with me if we are out together.  My question is: When do I stop taking my son into the women’s bathroom when I have to go but he doesn’t?  He is almost three so it is fine taking him with me now, but at some age I’m going to have to leave him outside alone and I’m scared for that day.  I don’t like him out of my sight in public places.  I’m sure I’ll get more comfortable once he’s older but it is hard to imagine now.

    Post # 15
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    799 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    My son is 6 and I make him go to the woman’s restroom with me. I’m not sure at what age he will be able to go to the mens alone, but I don’t think anytime soon. One of my nephews I would make go with me to the ladies restroom until they were 9/10. I don’t care if I got strange looks. Until I felt comfortable with him going alone that is what worked for us. To many crazy people in this world. Better safe then sorry. 

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