(Closed) Which bridesmaid should I choose? So hard to decide…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Maybe ask the second bm to be a coordinator since she seems to be so organized? 

Post # 4
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If the 2nd friend is doing all of those things, it actually might be difficult (if not impossible) for her to do them AND be your Bridesmaid or Best Man.  I get how you may want to ask her as kind of a “thank you” for what she is doing for you, but it might actually work against you if you do so.  Maybe decide what is more important for you to have that friend do & then decide if it still makes sense to ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Post # 5
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I say ask both of them, so what if the numbers look odd. I think it be sweet to have both of them in your Bridal Party. Specially since you do want both of them in there. If its a money thing and you can only have 6. I would choose the girl who is helping you out a lot in the wedding, because in her helping you out she is really being a good friend.



Post # 6
1566 posts
Bumble bee

I feel like picking one is very likely to upset the other, so it’s kind of a lose-lose for you. Why can’t you ask them both? If it’s because your Fiance only has 6, I might reconsider, since it’s not a huge disparity. 

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