Post # 1
I’m having major anxiety over something I thought would be more fun than I knew what to do with. I happened to fall in love with a blush gown and subsequently disappointed several family members/friends who thought it was a lovely evening gown but just not a wedding gown. I, on the other hand felt stunning…probably the most beautiful I have ever felt. While I know that my opinion is the most important, it was still heart wrenching not to get the reaction I always dreamt I would get from those most important to me.
Enter dilemma #2: My sweet love and I don’t actually have a venue yet. Here’s what we know for sure: we are getting married in Italy next Fall (most likely Florence)…and that’s about it! I found this gown while we were in negotiations with a beautiful and ornate hillside villa overlooking Florence. Negotiations fell through and now I feel like we are even more limited in finding a venue because the gown I love is so formal. I am worried the gown I love won’t be appropriate for the venue we choose. It is very important to me that everything pulls together for one cohesive look and feel.
We are struggling to make the pieces fit and I’m starting to wonder if I need to let this dress go. The entire wedding can’t revolve around the gown can it? I feel like I have fought for this dress since I found it…maybe I should start over and just let everything fall into place and happen naturally? Forgive me for being long-winded, to say that I’m a little light-headed with worry would be an understatement.
Post # 3
What a beautiful dress. I bought my dress first then came the venue and things just fell into place after that.
Post # 4
@MsGingerHoneycutt: I had a similar experience, but kind of opposite lol. We had an outdoor wedding and I fell IN LOVE with a light, airy gown that was perfect for the venue (we picked the venue first). However, it didn’t fit me and alterations would have been ridiculously expensive. So, I had to let the dress go and eventually I found one that was actually the total opposite of light and airy. We still had the outdoor venue, and I worried that it was too heavy, but I went with it anyways. I think that if you look for a venue in conjunction with the dress (don’t make any big decisions or deposits until mulling it over a bit), it all comes together in the end. Good luck!
Post # 5
I have my dress too. The venue is still “out there” somewhere! LOL
Post # 6
Normally, I would recommend selecting your venue first, simply because there are more gowns available than there are venues on the date and day of the week that you desire to be married. However, if you have already fallen in love with a specific dress, I think you should order the dress you want and not stress at all over whether or not it will be too formal for your venue.
For what it’s worth, I LOVE the gown you chose! I think it is absolutely gorgeous!! Stunning!!
Post # 7
@MsGingerHoneycutt: OMG your dress is beautiful!!! Who is the designer of your dres???
Post # 8
You’ve definitely got a “WOW” dress! If you love it that much, then just go with it. The dress I knew was right for me was not something I would’ve thought fit into an outdoor, garden wedding~ but it did.
Post # 9
The venue came first. But I knew what type of wedding I wanted (formal, in the winter, our home city) so it wouldn’t have mattered anyway if I had bought a dress first. I also don’t believe in letting the venue dictate your dress – wear what you want, who cares if it’s too formal? You only do this once right? Have the dress of your dreams!
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
The venue– although I already had a good idea of what I wanted out of my dress… I just procrastinated for another 6 months before going shopping.
Post # 11
To be honest, I think you could get away with that dress at any venue (as long as it wasn’t super-duper tiny). You’ll find your venue but don’t worry too much about it matching your dress!
Post # 12
The dress is beautiful and I love blush. I think the blush in Florence is just breathtaking. Ok, I know, it’s the idea of Florence you don’t have a venue yet. But honestly, I think I found my dress before the venue and unless you’re really at extremes – planning something super casual or planning something super formal – then mostly everything can fall into place. I have seen other brides who got married at my venue wear dresses that are WAY different than mine, but it wasn’t the venue that complemented the dress, it was their flowers and decor and colors, etc.
Post # 13
That dress is awesome! You’re getting married in such a beautiful, romantic, lush place- that dress will look fantastic there.
Post # 14
It was dress for me. I was unsure of what type of wedding I wanted, but fell in love with a dress before anything was set in stone. Now I’m having second thoughts about the dress I fell in love with because it feels like it’s too casual for the venue I have now booked.
But omg that dress looks amazing on you!
Post # 15
I forgot to ask, who is the designer/what is the name of your gown?
Post # 16
OMG, that dress is GORGEOUS! LOVE IT! I know the color isn’t traditional but it’s not very very very pink/blush so I think it works.
Anyway, for your question, we got my dress first. In fact, we got it even before he officially proposed. Then we got the venue. We were fairly particular about what type of venue and atmosphere we wanted, so purchasing the dress wasn’t a problem. We are not the super rustic “barn” type so my more formal, dramatic dress suited our venue/event just fine.