(Closed) which date to choose!? help!

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

It nice of you to be considering their weddings too!  But if you want your wedding to be a fall wedding, then go for it – just dont choose a weekend too close to either of theirs.

Post # 4
4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I go for the sandwich wedding! Just make sure nobody’s burned out or on their honeymoon. 🙂

Post # 5
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think it’s considerate for you to worry about your friends and the possibility of it being too much, but if you want a fall wedding, you should definitely go for it! If it’s a close circle of friends, I doubt they’d say no!

And think of it this way: don’t you think it would be fun to plan along with your two friends?  None of my close friends are married or engaged, so I’m on my own! I wish I had something to do things with!!

Post # 6
674 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

You know I think either would be fine. But you have to ask yourself what you would like more…

to feel more special, the only bride

or having the date you want

If the date matters more, then don’t worry about it being too much. It’ll be fine.

But if it matters more to not be lost in the hustle and bustle of two other weddings then go with June.
Going with June you also have the option of a nice beach honeymoon and not having to worry about jackets 🙂

Post # 7
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

i’d say the fall wedding in terms of timing. i agree w/ fiftyfootbride. just make sure no one’s on honeymoon, etc.

i guess my concern may be with your 8 friends that you say are going to be in all 3 weddings. being a bm 3x in 4 months, with the attendant duties, is going to be really challenging. do you anticipate needing a lot of support from your bm, ie anything beyond the shower/bachelorette party / day of duties? if the other brides do too, your bms might end up feeling torn / you may not feel like you’ve got the support you need.

just something to think about

Post # 9
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ithink you should go with the fall wedding, you have plenty of time to plan things around the other girls, and what an awesome way to help the other 2 girls plan their weddings right alongside yours!! 

Post # 10
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I say go for the fall wedding. You will want to have enough time to plan without feeling rushed. As another bride said, be sure that none of your girls are on their honeymoon so they don’t miss out.

It is very nice of you to consider your friend’s feelings in making your decision. So what does your groom want though?

Post # 11
2641 posts
Sugar bee

I think it would be st to keep an open mind about a couple of scenarios.  It sounds like you really like fall, so work on that.  However, lots of venues and vendors are book a year in advance.  So what happens if you have a hard time finding a venue you love?  (Probably trying to book for June of 2010 would be even harder.)   So look into the venues and be ready to be flexible if necessary.

But I don’t think it would be bad to have your wedding in between the two weddings.  But I agree it might be a lot to ask of all the girls.  Are you sure everyone will be in all the weddings?  I’m not sure if the other two brides have already asked them.  But since you are the last one to get engaged (not sure by how much), perhaps consider paying for their dresses.  Even if you don’t plan on needing them for much, time wise, the cost is enough for them to put the brakes on it.  (And that puts them in a hard spot.  “Do we say no to everyone? Do we say no to the last person to ask us?  Do we try to suck it up?”) 

Post # 13
2342 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Go for the fall, especially since thats what you want!! Have a wedding marathon, It’ll be fun for everyone!

Post # 14
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

First of all, congrats! But I think you should go for the fall wedding. The last thing you want is to not have enough time to plan. (You’ll need every minute!) Good luck 🙂

Post # 15
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would sandwich the wedding too. Keep in mind that some of the girls may get overwhelmed so try to be understanding.

Post # 16
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i think you’ve already made up your mind, so just go for it!  A fall wedding will be fabulous and think of all the fun you and your other 2 girlfriends who are getting married will have planning together.  It will be nice to have friends getting married at the same time that you bounce ideas off of and ask for guidance & help!

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