Post # 1
So we found the perfect venue and finally got in touch with the lady to discuss dates. The date we wanted is not available, so any help would be appreciated.
A little about the venue/location: It is in a historic site in the Watchung Reservation in NJ. The Watching Reservation is a nature reserve with lots of hiking trails and this little “deserted village”. The village is from the 1800 and has a barn that was restored in 2011. This is where the wedding would take place. The barn is beautiful and holds 120 guests seated. We plan on having about 85. It comes with all the tables and chairs and has natural wood inside and exposed beams and Edison lights hanging. It is fully functioning bathrooms and electric outlets, heat for the winter, no AC but a dehumidifier system that keeps the building pretty cool. The ceremony spot is outside next to the barn in a wooded area. It has wood benches to fit 100 guests and a wood arch. Outside around the barn is paved area. We plan to have the wedding take place half inside and half outside with some games and food trucks. We are going to have 2 food trucks for about 3 hours where guests can just go and get food when the want, a beer and champagne food truck, and a dessert food truck to come later in the evening. We are going to hire servers to help with cleaning up and to assist in case someone doesn’t want to/can’t go to the truck to get their food.
If it rains the ceremony would have to just take place inside the barn with guests seated at their tables (I know this isn’t ideal, but it will have to do). We would have some pop-up tents set up outside and offer some umbrellas if guests wanted to go to the food truck, or we would have a system in place for servers to help with food delivery.
Here are the dates that are available and some details on each date:
4/4/2020- FH’s parents anniversary & FMIL’s birthday the next day temps range from 39 degrees F to 61
6/27/2020- nothing really big, but most likely school will be out and it is a public park. also no AC temps range from 63 to 91
9/5/2020- Labor day weekend, we began dating 9/6/2015 temp range 56 to 78
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2020 - Clarksville, VA
I would go with Labor Day weekend, but send out save the dates ASAP so people can plan for if.
Post # 3
Do one of the summer dates. 4/4 will be cold and rainy, possibly snowy
Post # 4
Are you basing the Labor Day weather on the average for the month of September? I don’t live far from NJ and it’s almost never that cool in early September. I looked up the weather for last year in early September and some days were as high as 95. That’s higher than what you predicted for June. I’m guessing the June & september dates have equal chances of hot weather making the barn uncomfortable. All things being equal with weather, i’d much prefer the June date as a guest. Long weekend weddings are difficult for guests. More expensive travel and standing holiday plans can be frustrating for guests. Even if they don’t complain to you openly, they are definitely complaining about it to each other. I’d go with June.
Post # 5
I personally would not pick Labor Day, but I absolutely despise holiday weekend weddings.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!
I’m leaning towards 4-4, but only if his parents are supportive. Since there’s heating, you can always do it exclusively inside if it’s too cold. However, if it’s too hot, there’s nothing you can really do about that. Travel will be the cheapest for guests, and you’ll have a cool date!
Edit: Also, isn’t the risk of rain highest in June in NJ? Did you consult the farmer’s almanac or something similar for your area? We decided on September over June partially for that reason.
Post # 7
I actually lean towards June. School will be out for most people then, and it’s respectful of the no-holiday-wedding stigma that is still really prevalent. It won’t be TERRIBLY hot in NJ in June, probably mid-to-low 80’s on average (though you might be lucky and have 70 and perfect like I did for my June wedding in NY). Depending on the time of day, this should be fine for most people, though make sure you have attendants on-hand for the elderly, just in case.
April is rainy and gross for the NE region like 50% of the time, which isn’t a majority, but it’s high enough where I wouldn’t risk it (though I prefer this over September). School is still in session in April, and most high school kids are doing important tests at this time that will definitely keep them out, not to mention it’s competition time for lots of sports.
September is just a really unpredictable time for families, though I can appreciate the sentimentality of the date. However, it being Labor Day weekend outweighs literally everything. I think holiday weekend weddings are really presumptuous.
Post # 8
littleanchor : I am pretty sure I looked up that date and came up with those ranges, but that might have just been last year. Future Mother-In-Law said she feels like Sept 5 would be really hot and humid more so then June. I honestly do not really want to wait till Sept. I feel like I have most things planned and I am one of those people that will over think everything and drive myself crazy if I wait that long.
I think we are leaning more towards June 27. April would be nice, but we are both really active people and would feel cooped up if we were forced to stay inside the entire time. FH also admitted he likes June better and just kept saying 4/4 because that’s what he thought I wanted. I said a little prayer to my Grammy and flipped a coin between 4/4 and 6/27 and it landed on 6/27
Post # 9
I think june would be good. It’s an outdoorsy setting so people can enjoy it more in june than in april. Labour day is expensive, and many people have long weekend plans.
Post # 10
Congrats on your decision. 😉
Post # 11
I picked the Labor Day weekend date!
We got married on a Labor Day weekend date in 2016 and it has been awesome having an anniversary date around a 3 day weekend, we always get to have extra time to celebrate, also Labor Day is nearing the end of summer and the weather is generally awesome!
I see that you flipped a coin, so good luck in whatever you decide!
Post # 12
We got married 6/21 in PA right over the delaware river (across from NJ) and it wasn’t hot at all! It was really comfortable.