Which date would you like better? – Poll

posted 2 months ago in Beehive
  • poll:
    4/4/2020 (FH's parents anniversary, FMIL's birthday next day) : (12 votes)
    17 %
    6/27/2020 (Nothing really just hot and summer is starting) : (28 votes)
    39 %
    9/5/2020 (Labor day weekend/ our anniversary weekend) : (32 votes)
    44 %
  • Post # 2
    528 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2020 - Clarksville, VA

    I would go with Labor Day weekend, but send out save the dates ASAP so people can plan for if.

    saucysara :  

    Post # 3
    423 posts
    Helper bee

    Do one of the summer dates. 4/4 will be cold and rainy, possibly snowy 

    Post # 4
    2107 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Are you basing the Labor Day weather on the average for the month of September? I don’t live far from NJ and it’s almost never that cool in early September.  I looked up the weather for last year in early September and some days were as high as 95. That’s higher than what you predicted for June. I’m guessing the June & september dates have equal chances of hot weather making the barn uncomfortable. All things being equal with weather,  i’d much prefer the June date as a guest. Long weekend weddings are difficult for guests. More expensive travel and standing holiday plans can be frustrating for guests. Even if they don’t complain to you openly, they are definitely complaining about it to each other. I’d go with June. 

    Post # 5
    2080 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2019

    I personally would not pick Labor Day, but I absolutely despise holiday weekend weddings. 

    Post # 6
    549 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

    I’m leaning towards 4-4, but only if his parents are supportive. Since there’s heating, you can always do it exclusively inside if it’s too cold. However, if it’s too hot, there’s nothing you can really do about that. Travel will be the cheapest for guests, and you’ll have a cool date! 

    Edit: Also, isn’t the risk of rain highest in June in NJ? Did you consult the farmer’s almanac or something similar for your area? We decided on September over June partially for that reason. 

    Post # 7
    1718 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I actually lean towards June. School will be out for most people then, and it’s respectful of the no-holiday-wedding stigma that is still really prevalent. It won’t be TERRIBLY hot in NJ in June, probably mid-to-low 80’s on average (though you might be lucky and have 70 and perfect like I did for my June wedding in NY). Depending on the time of day, this should be fine for most people, though make sure you have attendants on-hand for the elderly, just in case. 

    April is rainy and gross for the NE region like 50% of the time, which isn’t a majority, but it’s high enough where I wouldn’t risk it (though I prefer this over September). School is still in session in April, and most high school kids are doing important tests at this time that will definitely keep them out, not to mention it’s competition time for lots of sports.

    September is just a really unpredictable time for families, though I can appreciate the sentimentality of the date. However, it being Labor Day weekend outweighs literally everything. I think holiday weekend weddings are really presumptuous. 

    Post # 9
    6605 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think june would be good. It’s an outdoorsy setting so people can enjoy it more in june than in april. Labour day is expensive, and many people have long weekend plans. 

    Post # 10
    1888 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    Congrats on your decision. 😉

    Post # 11
    309 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I picked the Labor Day weekend date! 

    We got married on a Labor Day weekend date in 2016 and it has been awesome having an anniversary date around a 3 day weekend, we always get to have extra time to celebrate, also Labor Day is nearing the end of summer and the weather is generally awesome! 

    I see that you flipped a coin, so good luck in whatever you decide!

    Post # 12
    1017 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    We got married 6/21 in PA right over the delaware river (across from NJ) and it wasn’t hot at all! It was really comfortable.

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