Post # 1
Ultimately my fiance will be making the call on this, but I wanted to see how people outside of our immediate families felt about these two options.
Our catering package includes a dessert course, and we will also be serving wedding cake. The cake will be served with cream and fruit. We are trying to decide whether to opt for a classic dessert (like a cake or tart) on top of our wedding cake, or whether to substitute the dessert course for a cheese platter (with cheeses, quince paste, candied nuts, crackers etc). If we opt for the cheese board, we will serve larger slices of cake.
Our priorities are avoiding duplicity, ensuring that people don’t feel short-changed, and getting people to eat the cake. We have some people in our families who don’t each much sugar… and we also have some who are dessert fanatics.
What would you choose?
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2019 - City, State
Hands down, I’d want the cheese plate. Dessert fanatics still get cake, and people who don’t like desserts have an option that might be more appealing to them.
Post # 3
I would absolutely choose the cheese. It will let people who are low-carb/low sugar have a nice after dinner treat and give you some flavor variety as well. A tart would just be more sweet on top of the other sweet.
But – full disclosure – I’m always going to choose cheese in any given situation. If it comes down to sex or cheese, pass the Havarti.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
Cheese plate for me, thanks!
Post # 6
I looooove dessert, but I have to agree with the others and say the cheese platter. A great option for people who may not want cake/that much cake.
Post # 7
Cheese plate. I don’t like cake but I love cheese.
Post # 8
Agreed that the cheese plate is the better call!
Post # 9
I’m a cheese lover, but the one thing I love more than cheese is dark chocolate. I wonder if you might consider having a dark chocolate dessert for the dessert course, like a flourless chocolate cake, a dark chocolate mousse, or a molten lava cake. Those would be quite different than wedding cake!
Post # 11
What are the specific dessert options the caterer gave? If the choice was wedding cake and another type of cake….well that’s a lot of cake! But if they give other dessert options (there must be a list of choices), 2 desserts might work. I love cake/sweets, eating cheese after a meal wouldn’t be something I would choose. Also, what flavour is your wedding cake? And why does your fiancé get the final say?? I need more info 😂
Post # 12
WillowBee33 : I was doing all of the wedding planning and my fiance wasn’t feeling involved, so he’s now taking on the ownership of organising the cake (and some other things too). I will still be involved too, especially for tastings .
Our caterer has a seasonal menu, so the dessert options won’t be released until much closer to the date – well after we need to sort out the wedding cake. The amount of cake we order will depend on whether it’s the primary dessert or not. The wedding cake will likely have at least two flavours – one which is fruity and not overly sweet, and then probably some variant on a dark chocolate mudcake.
Post # 13
amongclouds : I’m torn because I frickin love cheese, but I also love dessert. Are you serving cheese as an appetizer? If you have a cheese board as an appetizer, I would probably pick a second non-cake dessert option. If you aren’t having cheese as an app, why the hell not I’d go with the cheese.
Post # 14
Daisy_Mae : No cheese as an appetiser!
Post # 15
I love cake. But I also love cheese.
Without seeing the actual dessert options, I would say with 90% certainty cheese plate.
Pretty much the only thing that would sway me is if the additional dessert option was creme brule or bananas foster. But otherwise just another cake or tart that I can probably pick up at any bakery? Pass. I prefer things I am not inclined to do for myself at home or can pick up at my local bakery.