Which Do You Prefer: Buffet or Plated Dinner?

posted 5 days ago in Food
Post # 2
281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Personally? I’d prefer a buffet, but it’s definitely not formal like a played dinner would be.

Post # 3
1412 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Definitely plated. You’re right, it is fancier but also more convenient (no waiting in line for your food, being the last table called for food, carrying around plates of food in heels and fancy dresses). I have watched enough Four Weddings to believe that most wedding guests would prefer plated dinners 😉 

Post # 4
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

josie7 :  Plated, but mainly because I hate having to queue.

Post # 5
1414 posts
Bumble bee

In general I prefer a plated dinner, especially at large weddings because the buffet becomes crowded and alot of the best food runs out. I also think they can be quite chaotic with everyone pushing past each other with food sauces and wearing heels. But it also depends on what you would serve for the buffet and what your wedding style is like. I would be very happy with a BBQ buffet style at an outdoor wedding, or a buffet with different serving stations. If your wedding is more traditional or you dont have alot of space between tables I would go for the plated dinner. 

Post # 6
1930 posts
Buzzing bee

I prefer plated. I think buffets are a tad gross. The handles get touched by people, food can get everywhere, people are breathing on and touching everything… 

I get the kitchen staff is touching the food and plates, but there are definitely more regulations than for guests. 

Based on concept, I love the idea of a buffet, but with large groups I just get the heebie geebies. And if it’s anywhere near flu season, I’d probably avoid touching the buffet utensils all together. 

But I’m usually in the minority on these things, so, take all that with a grain of salt.

Post # 7
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

Buffet, hands down. Especially with 150 people, they’ll be able to get through the line fairly quickly and then you don’t have to worry about everyone getting the right order, having you guests remember what they specified on their invite card (if you plan on doing this), and the ability for those with larger appetites to get more.

My cousin had a buffet wedding with 250 people and it worked out just fine, food was good and everyone was happy.

Post # 8
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Plated definitely comes across as fancier, but personally I prefer buffets. I definitely get why others don’t, but I’m unfortunately a very picky eater so I find buffets make it easy to load up on sides I like so I can actually get my fill. 

Post # 9
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

I’ll also add I think the enjoyment of buffet depends a lot on how you serve it. Your caterers should make sure there’s enough for everyone, and having multiple lines makes things a lot easier.

My cousin had one long table with food, accessable from both sides and multiple serving silverware in each dish. This made things a lot easier.

Post # 10
1914 posts
Buzzing bee

What about family style? 

Post # 11
6249 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

josie7 :  plated. I have a number of issues with buffets: queueing,carrying plates of food inn heels and a nice dress, hygiene, cross contamination (I don’t eat meat), difficulty maintaining correct temperature, etc.

However I do like plated meals to have a range of options to choose from.

Post # 12
632 posts
Busy bee

Basically whichever that has better food. A couple of time I went to buffet version, the food is already dry because it sit on the burner too long and not that good. I feel with the plated ones I went to, the caterer seems to put more effort (or I might be bias because the couple also paid more). It feels fancier too.

So if you asked me, I’d choose plated due to previous experience.

Post # 14
235 posts
Helper bee

I prefer plated or family style.

Post # 15
3798 posts
Honey bee

Plated. I don’t want to have to wait in line, serve myself and carry my food across a ballroom in high heels and a silk dress.

Multiple food stations with small plates and no lines are better. I think a buffet is fine for a casual event such as bbq but I’ve rarely great formal food from a chafing dish. 

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