Which Do You Prefer: Buffet or Plated Dinner?

posted 11 months ago in Food
Post # 31
126 posts
Blushing bee

I prefer plated dinners, especially ones where you order your meal tableside. I can never remember what I ordered on a RSVP card by the time the actual wedding comes around. I prefer to be dancing until my meal arrives to my seat instead of going up to a buffet. However – I do prefer buffet style desserts!

Post # 32
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

As a vegetarian, I would prefer a buffet. If you serve me a plated meal of mushrooms as the main thing, I wouldn’t eat it because I don’t like mushrooms. But I can pile my plate with the veg and carbs. And seconds!

Post # 33
213 posts
Helper bee

We are doing family style!  I hate waiting in buffet lines.  However, plated dinners really limit your options.  I love the idea of letting everyone pick what they want, but letting them sit at the same time.  I was shocked to learn from my caterer that family style, buffet and plated were pretty much the same price.  

Post # 34
1518 posts
Bumble bee

Buffet all day errrday!  I love buffets.  I love variety and choice.  I usually don’t eat plated because I really am very picky and have weird preferences.  

Post # 35
2511 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I like buffet just because plated wedding meals are usually super fancy with things that I am probably too picky to eat. At least with a buffet I can find a few things to eat.

Post # 36
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

josie7 :  I prefer plated as well for the same reasons others have stated 

Post # 37
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Personally I prefer buffet. Plated is fancier sure but I like selection.

Post # 38
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I definitely prefer plated meals as a guest. I think buffets are fine for small and mid-sized events, but plated meals are so much easier, nicer and more sanitary than buffets, and they don’t involve crowding into a line or carrying a plate in heels. 

Actually, Darling Husband and I recently attended a wedding with 150 guests and one buffet table. We were the last table called, and we ended up waiting over an hour to get our food while we sat there watching everyone else get up to wait in line and eat. People were starving and frustrated and grumpy, and by the time we got there everything was all messy and dry. The rest of the wedding was lovely, but dinner sucked. 



Post # 39
9352 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

josie7 :  

Plated, absolutely.  I hate standing in line and waiting.

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Post # 40
44 posts
  • Wedding: July 2018

I prefer plated. I have never seen a buffet that has blown me away. The food has always been beliw average. But I’m not a fussy eater and will eat whatever is given to me. It’s a shame to see a beautiful meal go to waste when people refuse to eat it. 

Post # 41
2199 posts
Buzzing bee

Definitely plated. Everything about buffets is gross to me. The queuing, the arsehats who jump back in line for seconds before people have even had one visit, the grossness of the food being all out. I also hate being inconveniently dressed and having the responsibility of carrying a plate (lol), and I have never once had a really really good buffet at an event. Also with coeliacs I can add my allergy requirements and I trust I will get what I need. There is too much cross contamination in buffets, plus not knowing what is in everything, and having to ask all the time is embarrassing. 

I do think if you’re going to do plated you can’t be a dick though. Not the time to show off your advanced palate or your love of truffles. Choose food that everyone loves. We did plated and everything was demolished. I had a couple of guests tell me several months after my wedding that they loved our dinner, were super full, and were still eyeing up other tables to see if anyone had leftovers! 😂

Post # 42
446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I would prefer plated out of the two options, but I’m not a fussy eater. We actually did shared platters, which I think must be the same as family style. It was great as it meant we could choose additional dishes, and we were promised that main dishes would be replenished if they ran out on any of the tables. 

Post # 43
966 posts
Busy bee

Plated 100%

Post # 44
2199 posts
Buzzing bee

pbubs :  This happened to us recently! The last table called! B&G also skimped on canapés, and only had one option for allergies. Thank goodness we stopped for McDonald’s chips between the ceremony and reception! Between the ceremony and us getting dinner was 4 hours, and during the two hours they had as ‘cocktail hour’ I had one single rice paper roll. Also thank goodness my mum took us out for brunch before we left, because we travelled 3.5hrs to get there so had to skip lunch! To then be offered a substandard buffet dinner had me ropeable! 

Post # 45
1338 posts
Bumble bee

Plated!! I hate lining up for food like its the school cafeteria. Plated table service is much more relaxing and enjoyable as a guest. If it’s a buffet sometimes I get too distracted chatting and mingling etc I miss out on the food and starve.

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