(Closed) Which do you prefer (seating)?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Which is better?
    I prefer Assigned seating : (81 votes)
    85 %
    I prefer Open seating : (14 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    3125 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    With no table openings, and if you and your fiance couldn’t logically put people together without having ppl left over, your guests on the day of will fare worse. It’s one thing to be an odd person out but at a weird table.. another to be the odd person out having to ask people you don’t know at the odd table if you can sit there. A little too confusing for me! Especially if you have a cocktail hour beforehand! I like to know where I’m going at weddings, I guess.

    Post # 4
    677 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Considering how tight your guest to seats ratio is I think you’re going to have to struggle through the seating chart. It’s no fun but it will be even harder for your guests to sort out at the beginning of the reception.

    Post # 5
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Can you add one more table and then have a few of the other tables that aren’t totally full.  We ended up having a couple mroe tables than we absolutely needed in order to accomodate convenient seating groups.  The other girls are correct in saying that if you can’t figure it out in an organized manner then your guests will have a miserable time of it.

    Post # 7
    326 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think it depends on how well your guests know each other, too.  We are having a very large wedding, but we are not doing a seating chart because most of our guests know each other.  Plus, assigned seating at weddings around here just doesn’t happen, so people would probably be more confused if we did a seating chart.  Talk with some of your guests, talk with your family, see what people prefer.  It’s easy for the wedding to instill an over-planning sense in people, where everything needs to be perfectly planned.  But the truth is, on the day of you’ll probably be missing some guests, and some extras will show up that “thought” they rsvp’d yes.  I’m not saying anything negative about seating charts, I know I’m in the minority on this site in not having one, but I totally understand some situations where they are necessary, but not everyone’s situation fits the bill.  Trust your judgment and talk to your guests, only they can give you truly accurate feedback.

    Post # 8
    431 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    could you move the extra chair to the table your aunt’s daughter is at?  so you’d have a 7 person table and a 9 person table?

    Post # 9
    436 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I had an assigned seating chart but didn’t have the same number of people sitting at the tables.  The tables had anywhere from 7-10 seated.  I grouped more of my younger friends at tables together since I figured they would mingling around and had fewer numbers sitting at our family tables.  It all worked out in the end.  Is your aunt’s daughter young and small? If so just make that one table a little fuller that the others.

    Post # 10
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

    I would definitely do assigned seating, especially if it’s already complicated for you! I agree with @melissabegins – I like to know where I’m sitting and that I won’t be scrambling for a seat, possibly without my friends, come reception

    Post # 12
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    You can usually fit one extra person at a table for 8 without much trouble.  I say make your aunt who turned down your parents table offer the 9th person at her daughter’s table, and let your parents have a table of 7.

     edit: oops, just saw your update.  Glad it worked out!

    Post # 13
    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I hate not having assigned seating!  I think your seating plan sounds like it will work.  Just let your cousins know to look out for your coworker. 

    Post # 14
    990 posts
    Busy bee

    In my opinion, if you leave seating open, people will only sit with those they want to or know. Then the room is divided, no one is mingling, and then you’re thought of as patrial by spending more time on one side of the room than the other lol. Seating chart is rough, but the best option I think.

    Post # 15
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Talk to your venue.  A table for 8 can easily become a table for 9.  We were told we had to have tables of 12 but when our count came in and we found out we had 3 people over for our set # of tables our venue manager told us that she could easily adjust the table sizes for us, so we have mostly tables of 12 but one of 9, one of 13 and one of 14 so that we could squeeze everyone in.  Especially if you really just need to add one more person to a table they should be able to help you.  

    Open seating, especially if you need every seat in the house can be awkward for your guests.  Imagine the one single coworker you mentioned standing there trying to figure out where to go!  Help a girl out!  You can do it!

    Post # 16
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    i used to be upset when at a table with people i didn’t want to be with. but after going through putting seating together, i will never complain again. it’s hard! pretty much impossible to make everyone happy. we finally decided not to stress, people will have to live where they get sit. and if they don’t like it, they can move themselves somewhere else. i wouldn’t ask people where they want to sit, just put them there.

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