Post # 1
I’m actually a bit confused on what would be the the best step in going about this, and wanted to see if you ladies could provide some insight.
Fiance and I are both Catholic, and intend on receiving the sacrament. However, his family is from DE, while my family is in North Jersey, and we are located in NYC for the next year. Because of the high cost of having a wedding in NYC and North Jersey, we’ve ruled those areas out, considering South Jersey as a potential area, because it would be halfway between the families.
Have any bees gone through something similar? I know that you are supposed to book the church before the reception, but I don’t know even what location within South Jersey would be best. Do I just look at reception locations and then once I find something we like, go to the area church and talk to their priest?
Post # 3
If you don’t have any particular association with a church, I would do it by proximity to a venue that you like. That way you can narrow it down. But I wouldn’t book anything until the church is done first though, and if you do, definitely don’t tell them (although this could all just be me, the wedding coordinators at my church are a little “touchy” we’ll say). Keep in mind that the price for the church if you are not a parishioner is a lot higher. A girl in the orientation with me is paying about $1,000 more for being a non-parishioner. And also, be ready with like LOTS of documents, baptismal and confirmation certificates, letter of permission from your home parish, etc. At least that’s been my experience so far.
Post # 4
GET A CHURCH FIRST!!!
Catholic churches tend to be more inflexible when it comes to dates and times than other churches, so get a church first! Cause if it doesn’t work out, you don’t have the option of going to the Methodist church down the street or just deciding to get married at the venue. Our church had us give them our options of dates and times and then they told us what was available. Luckily we were just having the reception at my parent’s house, but I’m sure letting the church tell you “okay you have april 11th at 2 pm or april 18th at 11” when you’ve already booked a venue would be quite upsetting.
Post # 5
You book a church and a reception venue at the same time.
In your situation, I’d find a reception venue first. Don’t book it but ask them what dates they have available. Right after that, go and visit some churches and talk to them about the ability to marry in their church (pricing, rules, etc). When you’ve settled on a church, you then contact the reception venue to update their availability then work with the two of them to find the first date that both are available. If you’re far enough ahead (18 months or so), it’s usually not a problem.
You can then work with the church you currently attend to complete all of the pre-cana and paperwork at home then have it sent to the wedding church. It’s not really a big deal.