(Closed) Which invite?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Which Invitation?
    A : (45 votes)
    54 %
    B : (38 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Both invites are beautiful, but I love the simplicity and elegance of design 1!

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Because of Etiquette (and who is listed where on an Invite) the Question of who is Mrs Janis ___ is a natural one here…

     

    Post # 5
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    definitely A. I’m a graphic designer so you can trust me.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Delete “and” before mrs. Janis, “on” before Saturday, “and” in the year, and “at” in the time line. Also, I you go with #1 (my vote) add the apostrophe in “o’clock” 

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    You also do not have to put the street address of the church, it may make it look cleaner. 

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m a writer and lit professor-I see copy edits in my sleep! 🙂 Yours are actually the most common edits I see on the bee! Great job, btw!

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Thanks for the clarification.

    Ok, I am a bit of an Etiquette Snob (due to my career) and I have to say you did pretty good as a first run thru with so many challenges to face.

    OK if I am to understand correctly, then the two couples listed are your Mom & Dad (remarried)

    So… here is what I’d do (with some help from The Post Institute of Etiquette, and the book “Wedding Etiquette”)

    And based on the formality that you have chosen…

    Mr. & Mrs. Bridesfamily-1

    Mr. & Mrs. Bridesfamily-2

    and

    ___ (Groom’s Mom) ___

    request the honour of your presence

    at the Nuptial Mass uniting

    Brides Name

    to

    Grooms Name

    in the Sacrament of

    Holy Matrimony

    Saturday, the eighteenth of May

    two thousand and thirteen

    at one o’clock

    St. Malachi Church

    Cleveland, Ohio

    — — —

    NOTES

    1- Women are listed before men.  So the first line would be for your Mom & her Hubby

    2- Line two would be for your Dad & his wife.

    3- Blank line is where your Hubby’s Mom would go…

    As a Widow, when it comes to traditional Etiquette she’d be Mrs. Robert GroomsFamily

    BUT if she prefers she could just as well be Mrs. HerName Groomsname (although not “technically correct” it is ok if that is what she prefers)… this however can be confusing to some, as socially this combo usually means that the woman is divorced not widowed.

    As this is the most formal of invites in style… date should be written as I’ve shown in my example… and likewise the time (no need to say in the afternoon… as that is naturally assumed)

    According to the Post Institute… you are correct with the AND in this case seperating the two sets of Parents (Bride’s from Grooms), and using the AND in the date, and AT in the time.

    Agree with BrooklynWife:  though that there is no need to put in the Street Address of the Church.

    — — —

    Now the inclusion of all 3 Parents is nice, but it also assumes that all of them are Hosting the event (putting in financially)… OR that the one who is paying the most is OK with that assumption / presentation being made on the Invites.

    If this is not the case, then you’ll have a whole other set of Etiquette Rules to contend with.

    Hope this helps,

     

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee

    Since both families are hosting, you should write both your and your FI’s name the same way. You can include last names for both (Elizabeth Jane Bridesname to Robert Joseph Groomsname) or neither (Elizabeth Jane to Robert Joseph), but I wouldn’t leave off your last name when his is listed. That’s only applicable if the bride’s parents are hosting alone, because then the bride’s last name is mentioned while listing the hosts, but the groom’s isn’t. In this case, both the bride’s and groom’s last names are mentioned while listing the hosts, so there’s no need to treat the bride’s name differently from the groom’s. Since there are three sets of parents involved, it might be clearest to include both bride’s and groom’s last names.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @This Time Round Interesting. 

    The copy of Emily Post’s Weding Etiquette, the Cartier wedding invitation etiqutte guidlines brochure I have open on my desk,  the professional invitation designeer and engraver, my editor, Grammar Girl, and the Emily Post website (see under Time and Date section: http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/wedding-invitations-and-announcements/335-wording-formal-wedding-invitations) must ALL be wrong then. 

    All of them say to leave the “AND” out of the date. Also, how do you say the year out loud? “two thousand thirteen” or “two thousand and thirteen.” I say the former. The latter is okay for British English, but the OP is from Ohio. 

    All of the above also say that using AT before the time is not needed, but may be used if the hostess wishes. 

     

     

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I love the second one, I think it is just a little more light and fresh looking.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I personally prefer the 2nd one

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