(Closed) Which is less awkward?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@hyperJulie:  Put it in his school mailbox, haha.

Post # 4
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would hand deliver it, personally. Doesn’t seem that awkward, plus hey! One less stamp to buy!

Totally feel you on this issue though, I’m inviting a couple of my college professors that were incredibly important to me, but I live 500 miles away from them now. I think I’m probably just going to be lame and send them to their campus mail boxes.

Post # 5
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@hyperJulie:  Just hand deliver it and say something short and sweet like “You don’t have to say yes/no right away, of course, I just didn’t know your home address and thought I should deliver it in person”, and then move on. Or leave it in his mailbox at school. That’s what I would probably do, but then again I do avoid face to face interaction as much as possible 😉

If you’re feeling a bit uncomfortable asking for his home address, though, are you sure you want him at your wedding?

Post # 6
8472 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would send it to his job’s address. 

Post # 7
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@canarydiamond:  Couldn’t have said it better myself!

Post # 8
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@hyperJulie:  You could also try to look it up on your county property tax assesor’s website. If they own a house then their address should be listed.

Post # 9
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think either way is particularly awkward. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with hand-delivering an invitation to someone you see very frequently. I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with saying, “FI and I were making our guest list and would like to invite you. Could I get your address?” Do what you’re most comfortable with! 

Post # 10
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I plan to invite coworkers – some of whose home addresses I don’t know. We are close at work though, so I will just give them their invites in person. 

Post # 11
7406 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Use the Whitepages web site to look up his address.  Unless he has a super-common name he should come up.

Post # 12
7738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@hyperJulie:  Absolutely do not ask for his home address. Give it to him in person. That’s what I did with the only work colleague I invited. Another alternative, you could post it to his work address (either via internal university mail, or the normal post system).

Also, it makes no sense to say, “Can I have your home address so I can invite you to my wedding?” when you can just as easily say, “I would ike to invite you to my wedding”. Common sense trumps etiquette, IMO.

Post # 13
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You could give it to his assistant and ask him/her to address and mail it?

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