(Closed) Which is worse?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Which is worse?
    a pre-printed, photo-of-the-bride-and-groom, generic thank you card : (12 votes)
    7 %
    no thank you card at all : (149 votes)
    93 %
  • Post # 3
    3526 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010


    Married since August and still have not sent out Thank You Cards. They are sitting in our office. The plan is to start them this week.

    I really do have a very good reason!

    Better late than never? Laughing

    Post # 4
    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think not receiving a thank you card at all is worse. It’s unfathomable to me.

    Post # 5
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    If I received a picture thank you card with no message I would be a little miffed. But if I didn’t receive a thank you card at all I would be very upset because I would feel as if the bride and groom don’t appreciate their guests.

    Post # 6
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    No thank you at all!

    As PP said above – I would be upset at the lack of effort from the couple if they sent a generic card but that is more effort than an ungrateful couple that didn’t send one at all and so I think the no thank you card is worse!

    Post # 7
    1843 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would be more upset at not getting a thank you at all. 

    We actually just had this happen.  Attended a wedding in August and never received a thank you (worried that they possibly didn’t get the card with the money but then was told they didn’t send out thank you’s to anyone).  Extremely rude, if you ask me.

    Fiance was a groomsmen in a wedding in October and we received a photo “Thank You” card with nothing else written on the card.  I felt this was VERY impersonal (especially considering Fiance was in the wedding AND we gave them an expensive, sentimental gift).

    Still…I would rather receive some sort of thank you versus none at all.

    Post # 8
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    If i never get a card at all, at least I pretend you wrote me a lovely note and it got lost in the mail.  If you just send me a “here’s a picture, aren’t we cute card” without a note, then I know that I’m just not important enought to you to warrant a note.

    Post # 9
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    No thank you at all for sure!


    @Gerbera: YES better late than never! You could even include a little something about “sorry this is so late”

    Post # 10
    2321 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Some thank you is better than no thank you.

    Post # 11
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Receiving no Thank You card is not okay but I actually wouldn’t be offended if the couple sent a generic Thank You. If it wasn’t “the T word” I would totally order a bunch of generic TY’s and just customize each one to say something like “We really loved the toaster and we can’t wait to use it!”. Heck of a lot easier than re-writing the same opening on 50 TY’s. 

    ETA: While we’re on the topic of TY’s… I was a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding a few years ago. I single handedly threw her shower, got her a very nice gift for it, PAID for a few aspects of her wedding (yes, you read right. I paid for some of the things at her wedding) and Fiance and I gave her and her new husband a very generous monetary gift. All together I invested close to $1500 into her wedding (including buying my dress). I never got a Thank You for the shower OR the wedding. Actually, I never even got an invitation to the wedding!

    Post # 12
    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    generic thank you > no thank you


    Post # 13
    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Oh how I hate those damn picture cards.  Honestly, if you’re sending someone a thank you card, or a holiday card or ANY CARD at least make a passing attempt to personalize it.  You are not a celebrity.  Merely sending a picture of yourself will not suffice.  I feel very strongly about that.  Hell, I personalized my STDs!

    Even given my strong feelings towards those awful photo thank you cards, I still think they’re better than not getting one at all!

    Post # 14
    3182 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Oops I voted for the wrong one! I think not sending one is worse. 

    Post # 15
    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Oh, I’m HORRIBLE with thank you cards.  Of course, I usually thank the person profusely when the gift is given to me, too!  

    HOWEVER, I’m gonna do my darndest to improve if/when we get presents.  Even if it’s an email or FB message thanking them profusely for coming and the gift they gave (if they gave one…).

    Personally, I’d rather have a written thank you, even if it’s on the picture card, than a picture and the words typed on it.  Heck, I’d even take an email or FB message over a generic thank you picture card.  At least it would mean they took the time to write A message of SOME SORT!

     But I wouldn’t be angry if I didn’t get one because, well, I’m horrible at it, so I sure can’t fault someone else for something I’d probably do.

    but.. just between us… no thank you is worse than a generic card…. 

    Post # 16
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Definitely no thank you card at all.

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