(Closed) Which is your priority? God, your marriage, children, yourself?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 48
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

1. God

2. Marriage

3. Children

4. Myself I guess. I would realistically just insert myself between all those things. Like grab your “me” time and make it important but I wouldn’t prioritize myself over one of those things.

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Not sure how to look at the question so I will just put it this way:

Son:  I would die for him.

God:   I am Lost with God but I would burn in hell for my son.

ME:  I choose me over my fiancé because if I died who would take care of my son, and he has lost his father and both grandparents on his father’s side already dramatically and a few friends in tragedies…death as been in my sons life way too much for his age, he thinks I am all he has me left.

 My Fiance: Poor guy, but I think when his dogs were alive he would have picked them over me hee hee

 

I want to add when I say I would burn in hell for my son I mean like if someone werhe to ask me to take the mark of the beast or watch my son starve to death, I would take it! 🙂  

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

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@phillygirl629:  I think both. In day to day life just try to align your life to God’s plan in all things. Also dedicate a little bit of time for God everyday, even if it’s just 10 minutes reading the Bible or 1 minute to pray. A little goes a long way. Basically, just keep your relationship with Christ going. You need to put effort in to a friendship to keep it. 🙂

Post # 52
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@UpstateCait: 

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@MissBoPeep: 

That’s what I was trying to type but couldn’t haha, so I’ll just refer others back to your posts.

 

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@Mrs.Lonestar:  Yes. I get up and pray each morning that God help me through my day and lead me down His path, not my own. Fighting is tough because obviously your mind is on the subject at hand and not putting God first but I do my best. It’s always going to be a daily struggle of putting God before your flesh but I pray and do everything I can. I still get pissed off and want to punch people in the face but I’m learning to stop and ask God to help me before I say something I shouldn’t. My mindset has really changed so much within the last six months.

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Me. Marriage. Children. It takes a healthy marriage to keep a family together and putting my child’s needs above mine and my husbands isn’t how I feel it should work in my household. My son is my pride and joy, but that does not mean I will put him above all else. 

Post # 55
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Bee Keeper

@texasgirl29: for me personally, and I cant speak for anyone else– my relationship with God makes me a better person ( daughter, soon to be wife, hopefully mother)… so when I say I put God before anything else it overflows into other areas of my life— it is not just a ” what would Jesus do in this situation” type of reaction ( although that certainly is not bad) but more of an almost automatic response of living my life as Christ like as possible ( which I am NOT even close to that so it is always a work in progress!)

Post # 57
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

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@Mrs.Lonestar:  Yes. God and my religion is in every single aspect of how I live my life every single day. It influences and is the reason for almost all of my decisions, big and small. I’m not Christian, btw. 

Post # 58
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

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@mixtapehearts:  Me. Marriage. Children. It takes a healthy marriage to keep a family together and putting my child’s needs above mine and my husbands isn’t how I feel it should work in my household.



Pretty much that. It’s the whole put your own oxygen mask on first on the airplane. And honestly, a lot of divorce comes from putting the kids first. The kids take priority and the spouse feels neglected. Or the kids move out and the parents don’t know how to just be there for each other anymore. Every marriage/therapy article I’ve ever read says to put your marriage first. Seeing a stable, happy relationship between the parents, in turn makes the kids feel happy and stable. 

I would include God in mine too, but I don’t know where. Kind of an over-arcing thing I suppose. 

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Can I ask what might be considered a stupid question?  How do you go about putting God before your husband?  I’m an atheist so I don’t really get how this works in practice.  Does this mean you’re spending time at church or praying instead of being with your husband?  Sorry if this sounds stupid.

Post # 60
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

There are time when a child does come before the marriage, a parent will naturally do that sometimes. Both parents might do that together. But in my personal opinion and experience I believe putting a child’s needs first in the household does create more entitled children. I am not trying to put that on anyone else, as I’m sure all of the moms on the bee are FANTASTIC, it doesn’t even matter how they answered this. I’m just explaining my reasoning for putting marriage before kids in my own life. 

Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@Future MrsB:  Not a stupid question at all! I believe that it’s about putting what God wants from you before what your husband wants. Trusting in God’s decisions before your husband.

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