Post # 1
I’m 14 weeks pregnant with our first baby and will most likely not get a shower. My family is thousands of miles away and from a culture where baby showers are not custumary, and my MIL has made clear numerous times that she hated and despided anything baby shower related. I only have a couple of friends around, most of them with limited income and I don’t expect that any of them will have time to organize anything. No one in either of our families has had any baby recently so nothing to “inherit”. So we are most likely going to have to cover everything baby related, which is perfectly fine.
We are trying to figure out which items are worth buying new and which ones to get from a 2nd hand store. I’m really hoping to be able to breastfeed and we are planning to do cloth diapers both for financial and ecological reasons. We want to get a car seat new for safety reasons, but we are pretty open about the rest. Any experience from moms out there? Any good ressources?
Post # 2
Secondhand cloth diapers are a great way to go, at least to start! Strange as it sounds to non-CDers, there is a thriving aftermarket for cloth diapers, and if you’re just starting out with them, it’s a good way to build a stash for less $$$, and to try them out to see if you even like them and want to continue/figure out what kind you prefer. You can always add more new diapers into the stash down the road, and if you decide CDing isn’t for you, you can probably recoup your whole investment.
For clothes, toys, furniture, etc, there are lots of kids’ consignment shops (such as Once Upon a Child). Craigslist also has some good deals, although you may need to vet things carefully.
If you plan to buy a breast pump secondhand, make sure it’s a closed-system/WHO certified model such as Hygeia or Ameda. Medela pumps are not WHO code-compliant and are not designed for more than one user. You’ll probably see a lot of them for sale, but if you want a Medela, buy new. (See, too, if your insurance will cover a pump – it should as a result of the Affordable Care Act, if you’re in the US.)
Post # 3
I agree with used CDs. You may get lucky and get almost new ones like the 36 my SIL bought when she saw mine and than didn’t use. Haha!!
Things that MUST be bought new are carseats and cribs. For safety reasons. Anything else buy used! We found an amazing glider on the curb after a flood. Refinished and new cushions and it’s amazing! Turns out it’s a Dutailer that costs $800 brand new!! Crazy!
Post # 4
Definitely look into a used swing or stroller if you’re interested in those! Especially the swing, they don’t get used that long.
I have a used crib and dresser/changing table (it wasn’t used much) that was a great deal.
As PP said, there is actually a really big used CD market. Look for a local buy/sell/trade facebook group for cloth diapers. You can find great deals and barely used things on there. Also look for local facebook groups that are created for selling and purchasing used items, there are always lots of baby stuff on there.
The only things I’d make sure to buy new would be a breast pump (if you need to buy that is) and a car seat.
Post # 5
-Car seat and base (it came with stroller as well)
-Breast pump (if in USA, insurance should help cover cost under Obama care, but call and see)
-Crib (easily buy used though)
-Toys and books
-boppy (you can buy a cover. but everything can be washed)
<br />My list could go on and on… but essentially most things can be used. They’re used for such a short time period, and sold for dirt cheap afterwards.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
New: car seat, mattress, crib (the one we wanted that we know was up to code was available on craigslist, but it was easier just to pick it up at IKEA.), pump. Health items like thermometer, etc.
Check out cosignment sales (I’ve picked up a bunch of stuff), eBay, Craigslist, and local Mommy Facebook groups. (I received a free tub and bouncer from two local moms who just wanted the stuff out of their homes.) I’m on two FB Exhange/consignment groups- great resources. I bought a swing off Craigslist which I should be able to sell back for what we paid for it.
Post # 7
A few things you will definetly want to get new are the car seat for safety reasons, mattress, pacifiers and bottles for sanitary reasons, first aid items like thermometor and nasal aspirator.
I would try and get everything else used to save money like the crib, bassinett, change table (if you have a low dresser use that instead and just buy the pad from Target or other department store), swing (these can be so expensive and are used for such a short period of time), bouncer, play mat, exersaucer, jolly jumper, high chair. Check out kijiji or Once Upon a Child for clothes and toys. I wouldn’y invest too much in newborn clothes, their in it for such a short time period. My daughter was in it for 2 weeks before we had to put her in 0-3 month. Buy on clearance. My daughter was born in June, so when all the summer stuff went on clearance for as low as $2 I bought in the size she’ll be in next summer.
Post # 8
Like everyone else said, new things would be a car seat, mattress, pacifiers, bottles (even though if money was really tight you could buy them use and get new nipples), thermometer, and a baby bath (they’re cheap new so it just seems more sanitary, though used would be fine).
Used: swing (I got a snug a bunny swing for $50 used and she hated it so I’m glad I didn’t spend the $100+ originally), play mat, toys, clothes.
Pretty much most things used will be totally fine since they get used for such a short time when they’re infants. Furniture is fine, just make sure if complies with current safety regulations (like no drop side cribs, slat spacing, etc). We bought a used Pack N Play to use at daycare which is totally great and less than half the cost, we had a used Rock N Play sleeper, used jumperoo, used play table, a bunch of used toys, sound machine second hand, and some bottles from my sister. I think if we hadn’t gotten things from my showers that I would have bought most stuff used.
Post # 9
Hirondelle: Carseat and stroller system: brand new. Everything else used or given to us. Almost all of my daughter’s clothes are second hand from other friends and families or bought second hand. She doesn’t care. We buy new diapers. But other than that most of her stuff was secondhand.
Post # 10
We got almost everything second hand, and since it’s used so briefly, everything is in great condition. Check if there are local parents groups/listservs. I found one, and it’s been amazing how much free or very cheap stuff I’ve gotten from them.
Post # 11
Hey everyone! Stupid question here. Why can’t you buy a used car-seat? I understand that you wouldn’t want one that’s a decade old because safety standards have changes. But, if it was only a year or two old, wouldn’t it be up to safety codes? Do people get new car seats if they have a second child, or do they ust reuse the one from a previous child – is that okay?
Post # 12
JenGirl: You *can*- but technically you don’t know if it’s ever been in a crash.
We had an accident and one of my son’s carseats was in the car- there was absolutely no physical damage to the seat- but the other person’s insurace bought us a new one- and we would have replaced it anyway due to recommendations. Sometimes the internal structure of the seat can be compromised in a crash and you wouldn’t be able to see it.
That said- if you can find one from someone you know you trust….someone bought my son’s infant seat. It had never been in any accident– and I wouldn’t have sold it if it had been.
But now that we’re having a baby (six years later), we bought a brand new seat.
Post # 13
Hirondelle: My friend has found soe great, like-new clothes at Goodwill- and they are priced amazingly.
I have never been a big fan of Once Upon a Child- they only want brand name, newer items- they pay the seller very little (at least from what I’ve heard from friends)- but then charge a discounted, yet relatively good-profit-for-them-price. Now I know they need to make money in order to stay open- but I feel like they get to profit a little *too* much.
I sold a lot of high-end baby stuff on craigslist for very reasonable– and the person always had the chance to decline the purchase if they didn’t like what they saw when we met up.
I would always buy mattresses new, FYI. I have heard of people who had infestations in thier home- and then sold the mattress to others!!
Post # 14
MrsEME: Thank you! That makes total sense! I was thinking more about age and use, but didn’t think of damage from an accident. This is why I need you guys!
Post # 15
JenGirl: Oh- and every car seat has an “expiration date”- so if you have your second child- and that seat has never been in a crash- you can totally use that seat as long as it’s not expired. Part of the reason there are expirations dates- is because after a seat is in the car 24/7, in hot, hot car– they want you to replace it so materials don’t break down from the heat/sun. They probably do updates to safety, as well.
When you’re in need of baby seat, I highly recommend Chicco for an infant seat, and Britax for a convertible!