(Closed) Which job do I accept??? I miss my family…LONG

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Wow! That is a lot to consider, but I’ve feel like we all come to large decisions in life like this at some point. I think you have to accept that each decision involves some pros, cons, risks, and benefits, and decide which one is worth the risk. I think you can get used to being away from family if you need to, but it sounds like you’d rather be away from your SO than your family (which is definitely the opposite of how I’d feel). Maybe even look into some other job possibilities, you never know.

Post # 4
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is a tough situation and one I haven’t figured out myself. I would eventually like to move closer to my parents in the Midwest but I’m currently living in Los Angeles with SO.  He just started a masters program here in town so for the next five years, if I want to be with him, I’ll have to be here- but I’m looking for a job and not sure if I’ll find something nearby.  

The only thing I would say is that you shouldn’t feel locked in with the LA job.  I think that with first positions out of school, the job hopper thing isn’t a big deal, especially since a lot of entry level positions tend to be contract.  If you’re there for a year and still employed when you start looking for new positions, all you have to tell the potential employers is that you’re moving to their city so need to find a new position.  It’s more suspicious if you’re looking within the same city, but it sounds like that wouldn’t be the case.  I think people get tagged as job hoppers when there are several short positions in a row.  From what you’ve said, the LA job sounds the best since it’s stable if you end up wanting to stay in the area, and it doesn’t lead to the Gulf jobs.  With the other one, you’re going to have to start looking for another job in less than a year and imo, your odds of you AND SO both getting jobs at the same time in the same area, esp if it’s not where you are already living, are lower than if one of you is established and can help the other out while they are looking.  Also, in my field a lot of employers throw out resumes from out of state candidates- not sure if that is true in yours.  

Are there opportunities for advancement? I’m really hoping to get a substantial pay jump when I find a new position so that I can fly home more than 1-2 times per year.  

Sorry I can’t help that much- it’s tough.  Just remember that as long as you have a job when you start looking for your next one, whether it’s a year from now or longer, your chances will be better. 

Post # 5
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Pittsburgh… It’s what you want right now and SO supports it.

Post # 7
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@paperclip55:  If I were you, I would absolutely NOT put career advancement on hold at this point in your life. I’m presuming you’re still in your 20’s? And you’re not engaged, right? Girl, do not base your career future on a whole series of what-ifs!

You said it yourself that there are not very many jobs available in your field, you’d get the experience you’d need to move forward in your career, your other option is probably the Gulf, whcich you do not want, and there’s no chance this job will be available to you next year. The economy is not about to improve greatly anytime soon, FYI

If I were you, I would not hesitate to take the job in LA and just make it a point to set money aside for plane trips to the east coast. And don’t worry about being a “job hopper”. That’s not the reality of the workforce these days. As long as you’re somewhere for a year, you won’t be tagged a job hopper.

So give it a year, at least! Give yourself a date to revisit your feelings about it.


Post # 8
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Good luck! and you should feel lucky to have two solid offers especially if your industry is a tough one.  In this economy, I would pick stability over location every time.  

One other thing though is that I took a 6 month contract right out of college and two years later I’m still working there.  I got a second contract and then a career position.  Unfortunately the company’s now being dissolved, but a lot of industries (not sure about yours) are using temp/contract positions kind of like long term interviews and it’s possible that you might get rehired.  

Post # 9
3256 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

“doing east coast job doesn’t make sense for my long term goals”

Take the other one.

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