Can't decide on a last name! help!

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Which Last Name Should I Choose?
    Higgins : (17 votes)
    30 %
    Harper-Higgins : (39 votes)
    70 %
  • Post # 2
    151 posts
    Blushing bee

    I like Harper Higgins. My background is portuguese and it’s custom to do it this way. We then also pass that on to the children, so “baby girl/boy Harper Higgins”. I think it’s nice, I couldn’t imagine all of a sudden just ditching my name! 

    Post # 3
    9961 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    Would your SO want to take your last name?

    Just throwing it out as an additional option.

    Post # 4
    1459 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I took my DH’s name and left mine behind when I married him in October. I already regret it and wished I’d just added his to mine.

    Post # 5
    260 posts
    Helper bee

    I think Harper Higgins is adorable! Your last names work so well together, it’d be a shame not to use them. 

    Post # 6
    290 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I second your FH taking your name! Sounds like he’s not that attached to it and Harper is a lovely last name!

    Post # 7
    391 posts
    Helper bee

    If you are well known for something like music you might not want to dump Harper behind as you are known by that name (plus you seem attached to your surname).  In that case, I’d keep Harper or just do Harper Higgins, no hyphen, I think it looks better and (hopefully) is legal.  If it’s not legal, I wouldn’t even consider taking Higgins in there at all. 

    You could use Higgins socially if you feel it should be a family unit and/or future kids would be Higgins.  I also love the idea of him changing his to Harper.

    Then again, I did not change my surname when I married.  I like it.  I’ve had it for awhile.  My degrees are under it, ect…  My husband didn’t take mine soley because where I live he couldn’t do the married name change shortcut that’s cheaper and quicker because he’s male and my state doesn’t allow for that.

    Post # 8
    316 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I’d combine if I was you. I was 100% for changing my name but as the time comes I’m a bit apprehensive about taking FI’s name. He doesn’t speak to his dad so he changed his last name to match his half sisters and half brothers. Which has nothing to do with him, it was his mums first husbands name which she divorced and kept the name. I don’t really want it, it’s his mums not mine.

    Post # 9
    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    If you can’t officially hyphenate it could make things easier but after having a hyphenated surname for 4 years which makes like difficult at times I decided to take my fis surname 

    Post # 10
    2123 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Harper is a gorgeous surname! I’d keep that. Has your fiancé considered taking your name? Taking his shouldn’t be the only option. If you’re set on wanting to take his though, go Harper-Higgins. I’m not completely sold on hyphenated names, but Harper is too lovely to pass up. It’s too good for your career too. Definitely keep Harper, whether you add his name to the mix or not.

    Post # 12
    33 posts
    • Wedding: April 2017

    oooh~ I love Harper. Think he should take your name!

    Post # 13
    867 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    silverybee :  If you love your name, why don’t you keep it? I think Higgins is good though! Honestly I am not a fan of hyphenated names.

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