Post # 1
Please help us decide on our future last names;
Higgins – His name, although he doesn’t speak to his birth father, his mum remarried when he was very young and his step-dad is actually his best man. For some reason I can’t get it out of my head that Mrs.Higgins does sounds a bit like a pensioner.. ha-ha! But I do like the idea of taking his name.
Harper-Higgins – My name and his name, I love my sirname it works nicely as I work in music. I’m a bit worried about the complication that can come with a double barrelled name, we also can’t officially have a hyphen in the middle because of local law, but thats not a big problem. Any double barreled bees with any advice or insight here?
We can’t considered any other names because of the laws in the country we are marrying in. My SO is very happy to go with either, I just can’t decide please help!
Post # 2
I like Harper Higgins. My background is portuguese and it’s custom to do it this way. We then also pass that on to the children, so “baby girl/boy Harper Higgins”. I think it’s nice, I couldn’t imagine all of a sudden just ditching my name!
Post # 3
Would your SO want to take your last name?
Just throwing it out as an additional option.
Post # 4
I took my DH’s name and left mine behind when I married him in October. I already regret it and wished I’d just added his to mine.
Post # 5
I think Harper Higgins is adorable! Your last names work so well together, it’d be a shame not to use them.
Post # 6
I second your FH taking your name! Sounds like he’s not that attached to it and Harper is a lovely last name!
Post # 7
If you are well known for something like music you might not want to dump Harper behind as you are known by that name (plus you seem attached to your surname). In that case, I’d keep Harper or just do Harper Higgins, no hyphen, I think it looks better and (hopefully) is legal. If it’s not legal, I wouldn’t even consider taking Higgins in there at all.
You could use Higgins socially if you feel it should be a family unit and/or future kids would be Higgins. I also love the idea of him changing his to Harper.
Then again, I did not change my surname when I married. I like it. I’ve had it for awhile. My degrees are under it, ect… My husband didn’t take mine soley because where I live he couldn’t do the married name change shortcut that’s cheaper and quicker because he’s male and my state doesn’t allow for that.
Post # 8
I’d combine if I was you. I was 100% for changing my name but as the time comes I’m a bit apprehensive about taking FI’s name. He doesn’t speak to his dad so he changed his last name to match his half sisters and half brothers. Which has nothing to do with him, it was his mums first husbands name which she divorced and kept the name. I don’t really want it, it’s his mums not mine.
Post # 9
If you can’t officially hyphenate it could make things easier but after having a hyphenated surname for 4 years which makes like difficult at times I decided to take my fis surname
Post # 10
Harper is a gorgeous surname! I’d keep that. Has your fiancé considered taking your name? Taking his shouldn’t be the only option. If you’re set on wanting to take his though, go Harper-Higgins. I’m not completely sold on hyphenated names, but Harper is too lovely to pass up. It’s too good for your career too. Definitely keep Harper, whether you add his name to the mix or not.
Post # 11
Thanks you all for your advice! We’re going to consider Harper and Harper-Higgins, theres such a long tradition of music in my family that it would be a shame to not pass it down! He’s happy to take my name so its definately an option! SO’s sister actually asummed he would change his name!
Post # 12
oooh~ I love Harper. Think he should take your name!
Post # 13
silverybee : If you love your name, why don’t you keep it? I think Higgins is good though! Honestly I am not a fan of hyphenated names.