Which meal would you prefer? Vegetarian wedding

posted 2 years ago in Food
  • poll: Which menu?
    Menu 1 : (152 votes)
    63 %
    Menu 2 : (25 votes)
    10 %
    Menu 3 : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Menu 4 : (19 votes)
    8 %
    Menu 5 : (25 votes)
    10 %
    Menu 6 : (20 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 76
    3501 posts
    Sugar bee

    eirlys :  I like the starter of plate 1. However, I absolutely HATE mushrooms and olives, so I would be very unhappy with the second course. So I chose option 6.

    ETA: never mind, I wouldn’t eat the lasagna with beans in it.

    Post # 77
    1220 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I love mushrooms – I find it weird that so many people feel so strongly about them :-p

    my cousin and his wife picked their favourite foods for their wedding – lasagne, garlic bread and salad, followed by crème brûlée. Was it an unusual wedding choice? Maybe, but it was delicious and memorable! 

    I personally think a lot of carrot soup is too sweet, but definitely not gourmet or weird for a wedding starter. 

    I can’t believe the people on here who say they would leave the wedding to go eat somewhere else – you’re celebrating the love of your friends or family with a free meal – suck it up, be grateful for what you’re given and eat on the way home if you must. 

    Post # 78
    469 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    eirlys :  i can’t believe all the negative feedback. Im a meat eater and think any of these sound fine, and menu1 sounds amazing! People can survive 1 meal without meat. 

    Post # 79
    1056 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1995

    TinderBoxx :  I don’t recall saying someone would break out in spots for not having meat at meal, so maybe you’ve tagged the wrong person, but I think a huge part of this has to do with the OP being from the UK and my family being from a farming area.  Everyone here eats meat and pototoes for meals.  They raise cattle and eat meat.  It’s midwest US.  That is what is standard.  Cultural differences. 

    Post # 80
    6533 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    redwinetime :  for most of us it’s not the part where the meal is vegetarian, it’s just what the meals consist of.  Lots of people don’t like mushrooms.  Many aren’t into the texture of beans (my mom, for one).  It really cuts a lot of options down.  Additionally the meals just don’t sound all that hearty.  There is so much fantastic vegetarian food out there that I think we’re all hoping she finds another caterer and some better options to choose from.  Curries and Samosas, spinach artichoke ravioli – things that make a nice, filling meal and leave you ready to stick around, not looking at google maps for the nearest fast food joint so you can fill up.

    I do hope OP comes back and shares what she’s thinking about after getting this feedback – I keep reading to see if there’s been an update of some kind out of curiosity.

    Post # 81
    1387 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My husband has an allergy (not intolerance) to dairy so all the cheese options are out. He is also highly allergic to mushrooms so those are out – plus anything creamy. He’s a hard sell – so for him he wouldn’t be able to eat a thing. Just something to think about – but if you don’t have people with these allergies and interance #6 would be the best one. 

    Post # 82
    6999 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Honestly, there is nothing there I’d be interested in eating. All of it just sounds odd. Like there are maybe one or two elements of certain dishes I like, but once I kept reading I was like “nope, wouldn’t eat that”. I actually LOVE mushrooms, like can’t get enough, but out of my circle I’m like the only one who eats them. While I can be a picky eater I am pretty adventurous and will try a lot but I would likely leave your reception early to go grab dinner. My Darling Husband likey would read those options and wouldn’t even attempt to try it.

    Having read your update, and seeing your dad is a chef makes a little more sense why you’d be open to such an “off the wall” menu. That being said you sort of have to keep your audience in mind – and it’s likely most of them are not as adventurous or used to eating like that.

    I’m a firm a beliver that the reception is a thank you to your guests for attending your ceremony and celebrating with you, so that you should keep them in mind when planning. I would still provide some sort of a meat, but that’s just me. Even without meat I think you could find some more “normal” veggie dishes that your guests would appriciate. I think (as a wedding vendor myself) way too often couples are all about trying to find something “different” or “unique” when it comes to their wedding/menu – but honestly your guests would rather have something yummy and filling than unique. I can promise you the only thing your guests will walk away from dinner remembering is weather or not they enjoyed the meal….not even really what it was.

    Post # 83
    85 posts
    Worker bee

    eirlys :  Love that you’re doing this!! I don’t eat meat other. Big chunk of advice, avoid soup at all costs. It’s liquidy, it’s easy to spill, if there are kids they will spill it on the table or on someone. I never want to eat soup walking around either- I hate when places tray pass soup! But this sounds like the seated part of the dinner. I would choose Menu 1!!! And congrats on having a veggie wedding!


    Post # 84
    5951 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think some people who are saying it’s not enough food are missing the point that it’s a mid-afternoon meal with pizza &/ or a chip truck being served mid-evening.

    And absolutely OP and her fiance should not feel obligated to serve meat. 

     eirlys :  I think these menus sound delicious, especially #1 & #5. I’m not a vegetarian myself but I have several family members who are, plus I like many of the vegetarian recipes and I’m a bit of a foodie/ love to cook. 

    Though I think these menus are fine, if you’re open to additional suggestions: 

    Menu 1: I love the shared platter….but if you’re serving hummus and olives, perhaps toasted pita triangles in addition to the rustic bread

    I love mushrooms, but since they don’t seem to be a popular choice in this thread, maybe more people don’t like mushrooms than I realize?? Perhaps half the filo parcels could be spinach and feta (like a traditional Spanakopita)?

    Menu 2 sounds exotic. I love trying new foods so I’d be happy to try these options 

    Menu 3 & 4. You need to make sure none of your guests have a nut allergy and accommodate those who do. Menu 4 doesn’t have a lot of protein and may not leave much choice for someone who doesn’t like mushrooms. Could a stuffed pepper option work? Add a side of beans and rice as this option seems much lighter than the others (even though I realize portobellos are big, if it’s a single portobello as a main dish a side would be nice)

    Menu 5. Tagine sounds delicious, this one I’d leave as is. 

    Menu 6. I love beans and I love lasagna- but I don’t love them together. If you want to serve a vegetarian lasagna, eggplant and spinach lasagna is delicious. 

    I think some difference of opinion here is regional. I make homemade soups all the time, but carrot and coriander is a little unusual (to me). I like coriander and I’d be happy to try the soup. If you say it’s a common soup in the U.K. then this should be fine- other suggestions would be minestrone soup, lentil soup, or since you and your Fiance like Indian food (me too!) but hesitate to base the entire menu on it- a nice chick pea & cauliflour curry soup? 

    Pasta as a wedding course is common to me, and there are lots of ways to do pasta dishes vegetarian. Baked ziti is a good choice, veggie penne. Also risottos, (risotto balls are delicious, we had breaded risotto balls stuffed with mozzarella at our wedding), Mexican fare like enchiladas verde, black bean and salsa quesadillas are easy to do vegetarian. Perogies could be served as a main or in smaller portions as a filling side. Garden salad, veggies and dip. 

    A canapes platter from different cultures would also be delicious & filling- and something for everyone: Spanakopita (Greek); Pea and potato samosas (Indian); brushetta (Italian), tapas (Spanish); spring rolls &/ or potstickers (Asian)

    Post # 85
    1003 posts
    Bumble bee

    eirlys :  We also had a vegetarian wedding.  I think a lot of these meals sound delicious – BUT I do think they might be too exotic for some guests.  Are you only offering one option?  Is it possible to offer a second option of just a basic pasta with tomato sauce?  

    Post # 89
    5951 posts
    Bee Keeper

    eirlys :  ugh @ the nuggets, I hate that children’s menus tend to be processed unimiginative crap, regardless of whether meat based or vegetarian. 

    I don’t think an Indian food menu would be inappropriate if you both love Indian food. I think it’s only cultural appropriation if you treat another culture’s traditions like costumes and themes, not simply because you offer food choices from regions other than your own. 

    Post # 90
    718 posts
    Busy bee

    Haha, I’m getting a whiff of carnivore privilege. 🙂

    Meat-eaters are almost always catered to at events, and most people don’t spare a thought to vegetarians. My expectations when attending events are tempered by past experience, so I know as a vegetarian my pickings will be slim, often limited to sides, and overall not very filling. And that’s okay, not every diet can be catered to at an event involving multiple people and preferences. A wedding meal is not a restaurant meal, after all, and you can’t always get exactly what you happen to be craving at that point in time. 

    So why meat-eaters would expect to be served meat at every meal is beyond me. And what if you don’t get your meat of choice? Would that be a problem too? 

    The kinds of people who can eat nothing but meat at a meal are few and far between, and most folks, whether they are vegetarian or not, can usually eat and relish a good vegetarian meal. 

    And as to the OP’s menu options, I think it all depends on execution, so I’d give all these options a chance and decide after a taste test. I think many people here tend to think of vegetarian food as being bland and flavorless. Heck, in even some of the nicer restaurants in parts of Ohio (where I lived) vegetarian options were pretty awful because there is an assumption that just because you’ve given up meat, you’ve given up on flavor and life in general. Thankfully most good restaurants in the Bay Area do great with veggie options, which are bursting with flavor. 

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