(Closed) Which name or initials to use? First Name or Middle Name

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Your going to have soooo many names lol.


Your officiant should address you as your real first name as your real first name you will have to sign on the register.

Your invitations could have either your real first initial or your preferred initial. If it was me I would have the initial that everyone knows me as on the monogram and inside I would have typed Miss Charlene Latoyah “Toya” Smith or whatever your last name is. Don’t be afraid to use both names on the invitation as it will make some people think “Wow I never knew her first name wasn’t Toya”, I think this is a good thing 🙂

Post # 5
9950 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ok lets see if I can clear some of this up for you.

1- Officiant, more than likely will say your complete LEGAL NAME (a requirement in most jurisdictions) when getting married

2- Monograms on Invitations, Decorations, Wedding Cake etc… for the Invitations they generally use a most formal salutation… so all your given names (same as what the Officiant will say)

Everything else, you can do as you please.  Personally, I’d opt for “T” for Toya as that is what everyone knows you as. If your last name is Brown… it would therefore be TB (informal) or CLB (formal)

So for example… naming situations…

Toya & Paul = T&P = Mr & Mrs Paul Jones = Toya & Paul Jones = TJP (couples monogram)

Your formal married monogram could be… CLBJ or a long variety of other options… see this interesting recent topic by MRS SNOW CONE on her personal Blog = http://strawberryblondelife.blogspot.ca/2012/03/no-monogram-love.html and also a follow up that she links to = http://monogrammomma.blogspot.ca/2007/02/reader-requests-four-letter.html

Between them, I believe they have all the possibilities covered

Hope this helps,

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