(Closed) Which of the following expenses did you cover for your bms

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Which of the following expenses did you cover for your bms?
    dress : (21 votes)
    16 %
    hotel : (4 votes)
    3 %
    transportation : (12 votes)
    9 %
    hair : (29 votes)
    22 %
    makeup : (22 votes)
    17 %
    other : (11 votes)
    9 %
    None of the above- I only got a gift : (30 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5784 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    None of the above

    You should update the poll so you can select multiple choices

    Post # 4
    Member
    5668 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’m not sure what I’m covering yet, but you may want to change the format of your poll to allow the more generous Bees to select multiple options.

    Post # 5
    Member
    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I need to be able to vote for more than 1! I voted for hair, but I am covering hair and lodging for my girls.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1934 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m from your area as well, and I’m not covering anything either.  

    Post # 7
    Member
    2086 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

    I paid for the dresses since I live near the J. Crew headquarters and could get them for a steal (got three dresses for $30 each and spent $100 for one more).

    We’re a little older and I don’t think my friends will want hair and makeup done professoinally.  Everyone else has short hair.  🙂

    Post # 9
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    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I had a few BMs that were very well off, I only gave them a gift (it was a big gift). I had two BMs that really were struggling so I paid for flights/dressed/hotel rooms for them. I think it depends on the person.

    I didn’t want anyone to not be able to come because of finances.

    Post # 10
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    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I didn’t have a wedding party – so I can’t comment… .but – I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man for about 6 or 7 weddings… for only one 1/2 my dress was paid for… the rest, we took care of our own everything (including paying lots of $$ for throwing showers and bachelorette parties).  Being a Bridesmaid or Best Man is expensive!!!!  Typically, with dress, shoes, alterations, hair, parties, wedding/shower/bach gifts, hotel (on occasion), time of work for rehearsals, etc…. it’s about $2K to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

    Post # 11
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    3975 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I’ve not thought a great deal about it but it is customary in the UK to cover all the costs.  A bridesmaid shouldn’t have to pay for the brides day! That said, I probably wouldn’t provide transportation for them, but they’d be no more out of pocket than a usual guest.

    Post # 12
    Member
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    My BMs paid for their own dresses (I picked the most inexpensive one I could, it was $98), and they will be paying for their own alterations if they need them. I paid for their coordinating footwear and shawls. I am also paying for their hair if they want it done, and I’m doing my own makeup so I expect them to do the same. My Fiance and I paid for lodging for our whole bridal party for the night before the wedding, but they are responsible to pay for their own transportation (our wedding is 5.5 hours away) and their own lodging for the night of.

    Post # 13
    Member
    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I paid for their hair and makeup, and got them gifts (including their jewelry). Dress/alterations were on their own, but I was able to get them a 10% discount on them.

    Post # 14
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    1061 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    All of my BM’s were local, so lodging wasn’t really an issue.  They traveled with me all day.

    They paid for their dress and I said to wear any black pumps (which they all had already).

    I paid for their pashmina, jewellery, make-up and 1/2 of their hair.

    Post # 16
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    679 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I picked none of the above, just gift.  I’ve been a bridesmaid many, many times and none of those items were paid for for me, just received gifts.  Sometimes it’s a regional thing, because it’s just assumed that the Bridesmaid or Best Man pays for her own stuff and that the bride gives them a gift.  (sometimes the gift is a gift certificate to the salon)

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