Post # 1
I’m trying to get an idea of what is normal. If you are from a country other than the US and it is customary to pay for items that are traditionally not covered in the US (i.e. dress) then please mention that in your response. Also, if you are voting, please do not include bm gift under “other.” For the purposes of this poll I am assuming a bm gift Thanks
Post # 3
None of the above
You should update the poll so you can select multiple choices
Post # 4
I’m not sure what I’m covering yet, but you may want to change the format of your poll to allow the more generous Bees to select multiple options.
Post # 5
I need to be able to vote for more than 1! I voted for hair, but I am covering hair and lodging for my girls.
Post # 6
I’m from your area as well, and I’m not covering anything either.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
I paid for the dresses since I live near the J. Crew headquarters and could get them for a steal (got three dresses for $30 each and spent $100 for one more).
We’re a little older and I don’t think my friends will want hair and makeup done professoinally. Everyone else has short hair. 🙂
Post # 8
@LGenz: done. bees may now vote for multiple things. Thanks
Post # 9
I had a few BMs that were very well off, I only gave them a gift (it was a big gift). I had two BMs that really were struggling so I paid for flights/dressed/hotel rooms for them. I think it depends on the person.
I didn’t want anyone to not be able to come because of finances.
Post # 10
I didn’t have a wedding party – so I can’t comment… .but – I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man for about 6 or 7 weddings… for only one 1/2 my dress was paid for… the rest, we took care of our own everything (including paying lots of $$ for throwing showers and bachelorette parties). Being a Bridesmaid or Best Man is expensive!!!! Typically, with dress, shoes, alterations, hair, parties, wedding/shower/bach gifts, hotel (on occasion), time of work for rehearsals, etc…. it’s about $2K to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 11
I’ve not thought a great deal about it but it is customary in the UK to cover all the costs. A bridesmaid shouldn’t have to pay for the brides day! That said, I probably wouldn’t provide transportation for them, but they’d be no more out of pocket than a usual guest.
Post # 12
My BMs paid for their own dresses (I picked the most inexpensive one I could, it was $98), and they will be paying for their own alterations if they need them. I paid for their coordinating footwear and shawls. I am also paying for their hair if they want it done, and I’m doing my own makeup so I expect them to do the same. My Fiance and I paid for lodging for our whole bridal party for the night before the wedding, but they are responsible to pay for their own transportation (our wedding is 5.5 hours away) and their own lodging for the night of.
Post # 13
I paid for their hair and makeup, and got them gifts (including their jewelry). Dress/alterations were on their own, but I was able to get them a 10% discount on them.
Post # 14
All of my BM’s were local, so lodging wasn’t really an issue. They traveled with me all day.
They paid for their dress and I said to wear any black pumps (which they all had already).
I paid for their pashmina, jewellery, make-up and 1/2 of their hair.
Post # 15
@oracle: Yeah. I have NEVER had my hair,, transport or lodging covered. Ever. On one occasion the bride covered my makeup, but that was in lieu of a bm gift.
Post # 16
I picked none of the above, just gift. I’ve been a bridesmaid many, many times and none of those items were paid for for me, just received gifts. Sometimes it’s a regional thing, because it’s just assumed that the Bridesmaid or Best Man pays for her own stuff and that the bride gives them a gift. (sometimes the gift is a gift certificate to the salon)