- 6 years ago
The following sh*t just went down at our wedding this Friday because of our kid choices…!
We had an uber strict headcount max. Because of the size of the room, and the venue said the kids would count towards the headcount. It was so hard getting the guest list down and we were at a point where if we did invite kids, the type of people we’d be striking from the list were friends we’re close enough with that we’d just been on holiday with them a few months earlier. For this reason we decided on a kid-free wedding but we really wanted my husband’s nieces and nephews there (the kids of his two sisters).
So we came up with what we (and his younger sister!) thought was a perfect solution! We hired out a room in the venue as a creche, filled it with toys and hired a couple of event nannies for the day. This meant that whilst the nieces and nephews couldn’t be in the ceremony (20 mins) and the sit down meal (2 hours) they were still able to take part in the rest of the day, but also that if their parents wanted a break for the rest of the day they could leave the kids with the nannies (and as it turned out as soon as the kids saw the toys and games and had the nannies to play with they had no interest in their parents and of course just wanted to play with the nannies all day!).
The nannies were amazing and the kids were so happy! I mean, what five year old wants to be told to sit there silently for two hours when he/she can be off playing?? Everyone loved the set up, except my husband’s older sister who was so offended that her children were “excluded” in any way that she:
- scowled through the entire ceremony (caught on camera!)
- when the camera person asked during the drinks reception if she had any happy words for the bride or groom she said “I have nothing to say” and walked off
- bitched about us and our wedding loudly in the toilets in front of my bridesmaids
- didn’t get us a wedding present (not something I’d normally notice or care about but in their family gift-giving is massive deal so it was clearly a massive, passively-aggressive, F you!)
- and then finally deleted us both off Facebook the day after the wedding
If anyone has done a creche/nanny set up at an event you’ll know it’s not cheap. It cost us well in excess of £400 ($625) and given our limited budget, similarly-priced things that initially didn’t make the cut in favour of the creche were: flowers of any kind including my bridesmaids’ and my OWN bouquet, a wedding cake, any decorations beyond homemade bunting and chair covers, a video camera for recording the wedding, private use of the venue’s pub garden attached to the ceremony/reception room. Fortunately in the end my amazing, generous, super-kind parents stepped in to give us additional money for these things so we got to have our cake and eat it 😉 but these are examples of the kind of things we would have sacrificed because it was important to us that her kids were at the wedding and enjoying the day. In hindsight I really wish she had just not come…