(Closed) Which one is worse??

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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628 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think they’re both equally worse. I would go insane if I knew he had the ring, but then again I’m in the same boat as you I have no idea if has has the ring or not and I’m still going insane.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My Fiance and i were dating for 5 years when he proposed, I was envious of everyone who got engaged and sad it was not us. When it did finally happen I was so overjoyed (100% surprise) and honestly waiting to have that moment was worth all the sad/jealous/grumpyness i felt along the way. Chin up pretty lady, I am sure it will happen soon. Ps. I found out after the proposal that he wanted to propose on the 3rd year but everyone -family & i admit myself- were bugging him too much about it and he got cold feet. My best advice is not to talk about it and enjoy the dating part of your life, because when you’ve been married forever the dating portion will be just a tiny blip of time in your relationship. Good luck!! xo

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I think the worst is knowing when its coming. We did go ring shopping together a few times to narrow down on the exact ring I wanted and that’s only because I said thats what I wanted to do and he knows how indecidive and picky I am! :O) I was completely caught off gaurd when he proposed and I am SO happy I was! It made my experience exactly the way I wanted it! Even looking back it now makes sense why he was rushing me home from the his works Christmas Party. They throw some amazing parties at some of the best venues in downtown Toronto area. He said he wanted me dressed up to the nine’s and he wanted to be in a suit thats why he chose that day. He popped a bottle of champage at his condo and we toasted to our year and how we’ve gone through so much together as we were in a Long Distance relationship.(Still was clueless) I lived in NJ and he lived in Toronto, we now both live in the Toronto area. It was just the two of us and he was Romantic and cute and sweet and I bursted out in tears when he brought the ring out. It was the perfect shock value for me! He knows me all too well! ;o)

I say suggest going ring shopping and then when u find the ring, dont even think about it anymore! Let him take care of it from there! I read all these stories on here of girls that were expecting a ring and would cry when they didnt get it that night or that vacation. Dont do that to yourself! 

Post # 6
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9659 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I think it was slightly worse when i knew he had the ring, and was waiting for the proposal. he gave me a three month timeline, he proposed within a month, but i went crazy waiting!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Each is worse it it’s own way. I’m jealous of thebees who’s men bought a ring and havn’t been sitting on it for over a year.

Post # 9
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578 posts
Busy bee

I actually like knowing that it is coming! I know my SO has bought the ring. While it does drive me crazy from thinking about it all the time, wondering when it’s coming, I am so glad to know that it won’t be much longer at all until I’m engaged πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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9659 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@stillwaiting88:  it is still romantic, trust me πŸ™‚ i picked the ring myself, he ordered it a week later, i knew down to the hour when the proposal was coming (i saw the ring box bulge in his pocket – he thinks i didn’t notice, i don’t want to burst that bubble!) but i still cried and was incredibly overjoyed, yes i knew about it ahead of time, but it was still the most romantic moment ever πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

For me it would be worse not to know.

I don’t really have the type of relationship that I could leave it all up to my SO.

He is clueless when it comes to weddings, engagements etc. I had to explain everything to him and we made decisions together.

I know he has the ring and the general time he will propose. I have 8 more days of waiting then we go on our vacation. We never get to spend quality time together ( we don’t live together) so this is the time that would be the best to get engaged. I don’t know the exact date or how he is doing it though. There will still be a suprise element.

 

If it’s really bothering you I would say just bring it up to your SO. Just so you really know that it’s actually going to happen.

Good luck!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Each is hard in its own way, but I prefer knowing a proposal is coming. When we had only talked about it here and there but I had no idea if we would ever actually get married, I’d often get really depressed and anxious wondering if someday after being together for a long, long time I’d have to just break up and move on because I wasn’t going to get what I wanted. 

I AM getting totally antsy, though, and it scares me when people say their Boyfriend or Best Friend bought the ring months ago and they still don’t have it, because maybe mine isn’t coming soon after all!

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