(Closed) Which one should I choose as my MOH?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
1378 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

fairytalecowgirl:  So now I don’t know who to choose. I really want it to be my little sister, but she lives 1000 miles away and won’t be able to help with a lot of stuff, plus it’ll probably upset my best friend. <br /><br />

Your sister is already going through a lot to talk to you. I would ask her to be a bridesmaid, and ask your friend to be Maid/Matron of Honor. That way, Sister is still involved, but the burden of planning falls on the Maid/Matron of Honor, who is physically closer to you, and has less hoops to jump through in the beginning. I think if you make your sister Maid/Matron of Honor you’re asking for an upset from your estranged family. 

Post # 3
46817 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

fairytalecowgirl:  How old is your sister? It sounds like she is still rather young if she isn’t allowed to have a phone. Also, are her parents aware that she knows you are her sister? If not, don’t you think it would take them by surprise for you to ask her to be your MOH?  Would they allow that? and help her to get to the wedding?

If her parents are ok with it, then given her age and the distance she lives from you, I suggest you ask them both to be co-MOH’s. Your sister won’t be old enough or close enough to help arrange things like a shower or bachelorette (should the birdal party choose to host) and the friend can assume those responsibilities. Your sister’s title would be more honorary.

Post # 4
2669 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

Will your sister even be able to stand by you?  I would make my BFF Maid/Matron of Honor because she’s always been there for you.  Can you maybe make both of the MOH?  Two special people both deserve such a special role, imo.

Post # 6
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

fairytalecowgirl:  I have four girls total, and I have two MOHs! There was no way I’d pick between my sister and my best friend, so I’m having two. No one has batted an eyelash 😉

Post # 7
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

fairytalecowgirl:  I would pick your friend as your Maid/Matron of Honor. Or have your friend as Maid/Matron of Honor and sister as Co-MOH/Junior Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 8
2505 posts
Sugar bee

By all means, pick both. If you do, you may wind up scoring some points with your birth family, but even if that doesn’t happen, you’ll still be giving special honor to the connection between you and DS.

Because she really is very young, your other Maid/Matron of Honor can guide some of the things DS won’t be able to manage because of the distance and her age.

I personally think the idea of CoMOH or Junior Maid/Matron of Honor is just kind of a wordy way of saying the same thing you’d be doing anyway.

It is your wedding, and there’s nothing wrong with having as many MOHs as are important to you. Do it 🙂

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