(Closed) Which part of the wedding planning stresses/stressed you out the most?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Hostess
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

The freaking ceremony/reception venue.

It has made me want to tear my freaking hair out.

First off, I live in an extremely low population area, there is hardly anything nearby. Some of our guests have to fly in, and Amtrak to wherever we have our wedding. And here’s where the problem begins :

– The towns that had the venues that we liked, didn’t have an amtrak nearby. Not all of our guests are renting cars, and the closest stations were an hour away! Wth.

– We prefer they both be in the same general area. A short walk is fine, but we don’t want to have to drive.

– We want to do our own catering, mainly because we have very picky eaters in our family, so want to do fazoli’s. A couple venues we liked wouldn’t let us bring in food.

– A few venues had a no alocohol at all policy. We would LIKE to bring our own alcohol, but we will hire a caterer in need be.

– Alot of venues were all-inclusive. No thanks. I found one that wanted 15,000 FOR A FREAKING BARN! /rant. [They were charging $10 per chair, $5 per chair cover, $10 per tablecover.. Um, I could BUY AND OWN for that price].

– I would prefer something rustic, which can mean SO many things. I don’t like banquet halls.

– Some of them were already booked for our date in 2014! Holy crap batman.

– Others wouldn’t allow us to have candles, flowers, or kids. Wtf?

– I thought I had nailed down the perfect venue, super cute B&B. They originally told me I could bring my own food, but THEN decided that they needed to cater. They wanted to charge $40 pp for a HAMBURGER AND BRATWURST meal. Um, no thanks. Then they told me they could work with me. I put together a menu of chicken marinara, soup, salad, bread & bruchetta, and they wanted $70 pp. I haven’t contacted them since. No thanks.
 

Needless to say, I’m down to 2 venues now, and I seriously hope one of them works out otherwise I’m going to elope.

/rant over.

EDIT : I also might add that we are $4500 into wedding planning and I am stalled until I get a wedding venue. There isn’t much else I can do until I figure out the layout/tables/chairs we’ll be using, and how much space we’ll have. It’s driving me insane!

Post # 5
Hostess
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

@leecy87:  I found one that I really liked, it was a drive but at least there was an amtrak nearby..

It was a 150 guest minimum though.. I will have 60 at most =/

It’s like.. seriously?!

Post # 7
Hostess
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

@leecy87:  Yeah, I understand them wanting to make money.. but I just don’t even know 150 people to invite without inviting people I haven’t talked to in 10 years. I wouldn’t even mind a service fee or penalty or something for not having 150. Oh well I guess.

Post # 8
Member
4014 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My biggest stressor so far has been the lodging issue. Our venue is in a small town and many of our guests are from out of town, there weren’t many options for hotels. There is one B&B with 3 rooms. Well, it turns out, the city just paid the owner of the B&B to renovate the cute vintage house that’s directly across from our venue! So I ended up booking that along with another little house 2 doors down that also rents to parties at the venue! They are both so charming and exactly what we were looking for! Everything will work out ladies, I promise!

 

Now I’m stressing about Bridesmaid or Best Man attire because I hate picking things out that others are buying, and they all have different tastes so I want them to still represent themselves! So far, they’ve picked their own style of dress in the same color and fabric and I feel a lot better! I’m sure the seating chart will be the next headache :/  One day at a time I guess!

Post # 9
Member
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

May sound small but the guest list is driving me crazy! Especially who to invite from work 🙁 They all want to come, an extra 12 people plus their spouse?! My guest list is huge already….

Post # 10
Member
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@jenilynevette:  My venue also has a 150 people minimum. It means that we have to pay for 150 meals even if less people show up. It would really suck if we had less people since it is like $50 a plate. Luckily we will have above that since we both come from huge families. So it isn’t an issue for us.

 

The thing I am most worried about is the seating chart. Trying to decide who should sit with who. Plus it is something I can’t do until July. I am not a procrastinator and like to get things that I feel are difficult out of the way. So, this has left me even more worried.

Post # 11
Member
2227 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Limited time and an impending wedding date made me have little meltdowns! I got married in the middle of school; I printed my invites durring my fall midterms & put off a lot of things (ordering flowers & favours) until after my finals. Unfortunately a lot of merchants were on holiday. Some of my orders had to be rushed and I wasn’t even sure if they’d arive on time!

 

Post # 12
Member
947 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Band, honeymoon and budget

Post # 13
Member
3429 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Thank goodness I’m not alone here

  • Finding a rehearsal dinner restaurant on the cheap within walking distance to our venue
  • Bridal party gifts 
  • Guestbook alternative
  •  BM dresses in different styles but same colors

BUDGET is probably the biggest cause of stress so far! 

Good luck ladies! 

Post # 14
Member
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Definitely the guest list has been the most stressful so far. I’ve gotten a ton of the planning done, at least the major decisions, but it has been unbelievably stressful finalizing the guest list. My parents are paying for the catering and venue, so they have a huge amount of say when it comes to how many people to invite! My mom has been dragging her feet for a LONG time about sitting down and going over the guest list. She has a lot of trouble talking about money and making decisions, and to her, this is sort of personal (she doesn’t want to cut anyone from the list and offend them). So we’ve been unable to decide on a final number of guests yet, let alone the guest list, so I’ve been unable to send Save-The-Date Cards (I did pick them out, and all I have to do is order them and get addresses together, its all just my mom holding me back!)

So frustrating!! 

Post # 15
Member
3429 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@starz88962:  Yes, Finalizing the guest list IS stressful! I hope you and your mom can figure it out while salvaging most of your sanity! 

My FH has now been named the wedding Nazi! We’re both paying for our wedding and if it were up to him there would be five people attending, Me, him, and each of our kids! LOL its Like pulling teeth! 

Post # 16
Member
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Budget. Makes me queasy every time I get a huge bill 🙁

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