(Closed) Which reception would you prefer as a guest?

posted 11 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Which reception should we pick?

    1pm ceremony, 2pm cake and punch, recognizing that that means minimal dancing

    3:30pm ceremony, 4:30 (maybe later?) soup and sandwich buffet, followed by cake, no alcohol

    7pm ceremony, 8pm reception with just drinks, cake and dancing

    Other - ideas to follow

  • Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I choose the last one because I do like dancing, but the earliest one sounds like a good idea too.  The 4 pm soup/sandwhiches I would rank the lowest because thats when you end up in awkward timing and guests wondering what goes til when and the food risks seeming cheap. 

    Post # 18
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Sorry I commented on your other post.  I just read this one and realized that you will also have Out of Town guests in the picture.  In this case, I would strongly consider having the 3:30 option and having some food in the equation.  I think it’s the least you can do especially for those who have to travel to your wedding.

    It sounds to me like you’re very concerned about the dancing/drinking aspect of your reception.  Would it be an option to hit a club after your soup and sandwich reception to statisfy those guests who are looking for that type of stuff?

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I like the night idea but I would add to the cake other desserts- like a dessert buffet- have family and friends help you make cookies brownies, etc, get some fruit… maybe some fancy caramel popcorn… it would be great!

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Ohhh another idea- if you do the 7pm one- obv you would tell them NO DINNER at the reception, but could you give dinner place ideas? And maybe talk to a favorite local spot about a small coupon that you could share with guests?

    Post # 21
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    I like the mid-afternoon option with soup/sandwiches.  Particularly if the locals are used to eating dinner at 5:30pm.  That way by the time the “meal” begins it’s close to their dinner time.  I’d personally would prefer to have the food over alcohol.

    Post # 22
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I don’t know how you feel about brunch foods, but I think they tend to be cheaper, ex an omlette sation vs. a steak carving station, maybe you could through a few food stations into your nightime option so people have some munchies and than the cake. Also you could limit alcohol to beer and wine. That will save a lot as well.

    Post # 23
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I like the last option, that is if you’re sure everyone will have eaten beforehand. Otherwise, you’re gonna have a whole lotta sloshed folks on your hands.

    Post # 24
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    My only concern with the 8pm reception is that if you’re serving drinks– you HAVE to serve some sort of food. Even if its burgers or sandwiches… you need something to soak up the alcohol or else you might have a major problem on your hands. Just alcohol & cake probably isn’t the best idea. 

    Ultimately, its your party & you’re responsible for your guests safety!! 🙂

    Post # 25
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    Busy Beekeeper

    I went to an afternoon wedding with a dessert reception and I thought it was lovely.  They had some dancing, seated tables and an MC.  It was economical and very well done.  I really wanted to do this format, but Fiance threw a fit. 

    If I were you, I’d do the 1pm wedding with a cake/dessert/punch reception.  Do the traditional dances, toasts etc.  

    Then, if there’s a place or bar (some hotels have great lounges)  that has a band w/ dance floor, spread the word that you will be there later in the evening and whoever wants to can come celebrate and dance the night away with you.  

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Wanted to say that our reception came in well under $800-maybe closer to $500 even. I just remember when we switched from lunch to brunch, the price dropped considerably. Our guest list ended up around 187 and we have 125+ RSVPs, but the caterer is preparing the major components for 150 (ham and both casseroles).

    Final menu-ham (spiral sliced, glazed & presented nicely on platters), hashbrown casserole, cheesy pinecapple casserole, fruit salad, sausage pinwheels & sausage balls, some type of puff pastry thing that tastes really good and I can’t remember what is in it (I want to say its a hot chicken salad, but I’m not sure)assorted seasonal breads (carrot bread, zucchini bread, pumpkin bread-no banana bread bc Fiance is allergic to bananas) spreads to put on them including a lucious honey cinnamon butter that I could eat with a spoon, assorted jams, mustards, etc. coffee with assorted toppings if guests desire with flavors to put in them, a citrus punch, sweet tea, ice water & the wedding cakes (brides cake is vanilla bean with cream cheese frosting & raspberry filling, grooms cake is mini chocolate cupcakes with chocolate icing).

    We had toyed with the idea of bloody mary’s and mimosa’s-but with our location now being the church social idea-nixed the alcohol. However, my mom is having an early luncheon the next day and serving both.

    Maybe this will help with your planning-if we weren’t on a budget, we definitely would have had an omlet station and also talked about fresh belgain waffles! We were going to do “harvest” toppings like spiced apples with brown sugar or similar things.

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