Post # 1
Fiance is not too into wedding planning, I could show him 101 different color variatons of blush flowers and the only resposne I would get for all 101 of them would be “oh, thats nice”…everything is just “nice”.
The one thing he is excited for, is picking out the Stefana. His face has only lit up twice in the whole wedding process (well three times if you count the proposal). First time was when the STD’s came in and he saw our names in print for the first time and the second was when we saw this first set of Stefana.
We’ve narrowed down our choices to three. Fiance seemed to really like the first set. He said it makes him feel like a king 🙂 I really like all of them that we have seen. It will probably take us some time to decide.
Tranditionally the Koumbaro/Koumbara get the Stefana…..except out Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man are NOT Greek and we are still trying to see if they will be allowed to stand for us as such in the ceremony. We dont feel right having them be responsible for our Stefana especially if we arent sure if they can be part of the ceremony. So Fiance and I will be getting the Stefana ourselves, yeah it might not be fitting the trandition since we are getting them ourselves but its the one part that Fiance is really interested and excited in. I figure what better way to symbolize our unity than picking out our crowns together.
So, just for fun. Which one of these do you like most?
SET # 1: Fiance was very reactive to these crowns but he was also reactive to the next two sets as well. The crowns are not worn like a headband like in the photo they are worn on top of the head like a crown.
SET #2: These are very simple and elegant and wont stand out as much. Fiance thinks they might be a little too dainty on him though. Hes 6’6 and has a huge head so he thinks we needs a wider crown to kind of balance out and not “get lost’ visually on his head, but he still likes them.
SET #3: Back to gold! There are kind of an inbetween of the first and second ones.
Post # 3
I like number 3 best. Less in your face that number 1, but doesn’t get lost like number 2. 🙂
Post # 4
Love the first ones! I wish I was Greek!!!
Post # 5
I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my friend’s wedding. She also had a koumbara who was Greek bc I couldn’t do it (I did offer to convert lol). She asked me if I would be comfortable splitting the cost with the koumbara/koumbaro. I had no problem doing it – I paid for half the stefana and lambades. I also designed the lambades for her and had them custom made with a seller on etsy (let me know if you want a recommendation, she did an excellent job and I can show you the lambades if you’d like). Even though I didn’t get to actually stand up there and be a part of the ceremony, I stood up on the side with the rest of the BMs and considered it as part of my gift to her.
That said, I like the last ones best.
Post # 6
@futuremrsk18: We might just have our siblings be involved in the ceremony since they are Greek and then have the Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid or Best Man mentioned in the programs and announced at the reception as the Maid/Matron of Honor & Bridesmaid or Best Man.
So many cute Lambades on etsy, I lose many hours of my day looking at stuff on etsy haha!
Post # 7
@AnaA: Thanks! 🙂 I really am torn between all three.
Being Greek has its pros and cons haha!
Post # 8
Ours are white pearls but I like the third one. What’s the dress look like? Unfortunately, the koumbari must be Orthodox.
Post # 9
@kermitandpiggy: Well Ive heard exceptions made with Catholic BM/MOH….but we know this is obviously not likely going to work with us. So we will end up using one of our siblings for the ceremony.
This is my dress (well i ordered it in organza which is a little softer and more flowy but the same exact design and fit just different fabric. In the photo I am wearing the taffeta version) Given the simplicity of my dress, all three will work perfectly.
Post # 10
Seeing the dress I think two or three would look good. I think number 1 looks to big/bulky.
Post # 11
@Footballwife: I was really picky with my friend’s lambades, which is funny considering I’m not Greek! LOL But I wanted them to be bigger/fatter and have a bit of bling and tulle and then some peonies on them. The seller did an amazing job. I thought the koumbara/koumbaro was supposed to be someone who isn’t a relative? I don’t think it will be a problem recognizing who the Maid/Matron of Honor vs koumbara is – I was announced as Maid/Matron of Honor, walked in with the best man (koumbara was announced as koumbara, walked in with koumbaro) and we each made a speech – she was introduced for the speech as the koumbara, I was introduced as the Maid/Matron of Honor. And I’m sure the only people who knew that I contributed to things like stefana, lambades and the cost of the church were the bride/groom and whomever is immediately close to them that they told, but I was honored and happy to contribute to that part of her ceremony, even if I wasn’t the one doing the crowns/rings part. I do want to say that the Greek ceremony is beautiful – you’re lucky you get to pick such pretty things for your ceremony, like the stefana and lambades!!
Post # 12
The first one is very Julius Ceasar to me. I’d go with the third.
Post # 13
@futuremrsk18: Yeah they can be family, friends, basically anyone just as long as they are Greek Orthodox and in our case it HAS to be a sibling because we dont have any other options lol Our friends arent Greek Orthodox and our cousins have all married into Catholic familes so we cant have a cousin stand for us either. If it came down to it we could have aunts/uncles or Godparents stand for us, but our siblings are in the wedding party anyways so it just makes sense to use one of them to stand for us in our ceremony.
Weve been so caught up in all the other wedding planning the past few months and were like “OMG! We get to pick out the fun stuff now!” We might keep the lambades simple though because our bridesmaids are all in sequin/beaded mismatched gold and blush pink gowns and with my poofy dress doing a gold stefana and ornate lambades may seem to much.
The ones you had made for your friend sound absolutely gorgeous!
Post # 14
I will have something like no.2, but I like 3 a lot too.
With the koumbara thing it seem t be a bit diffirent over there. Guess you are all americans/getting married in usa? We are getting married in greece and niether me or my koumbaraes are orthodox (bapitzed in the swedish church which is protestant), its up to our priest (priests we have 3).
Also they are not paing for anything, even if they “should” acording to tradition. Here they usually pay for all decorations of the party and chuch + stefana, lambades and the wine thingis (sorry Im swedish and dont always frind the english words ;)) and all that things for the ceremony. But we felt that it was not right sense I know they dont have the best economy. Its more then enough that they have to fly to greece. But I dont think our koubaro (which is greek) wil alow us to buy the stefana and this things so thats probebly what he will pay in the end (after som fight with my fiance as alwasy here;)).
Seems to be quite a lot diffirens between a american greek wedding and a greek greek one. But its really fun to learn about and nice to see more greek brieds.
Post # 15
@Footballwife: that sounds beautiful! my colors are also pink and gold (and mint). i guess it’s my friend’s tradition, maybe from her island or something, she said she couldn’t have a relative be a koumbara/koumbara, but luckily she had a close friend who is greek orthodox. maybe it was just her preference! lol good luck with all the fun stuff now 🙂