Post # 1
The couple registered for only a handful of gifts, and from the looks of things, it will be a larger wedding (150 people is my assumption). The items are mostly basic household items like utensils, pans, trash can, table linens, etc.
The bride is younger and in college and they will be moving next year due to the military. The groom is mid-twenties and has some stuff must mostly bachelor, guy stuff.
I would think cash would be #1 but when Darling Husband and I got married, we hoped we WOULDN’T get cash or gift cards and really just wanted our registry items… and we moved across the country 3 months later.
Would you rather have an item from your registry, cash or a check, or a gift card to somewhere like BBB, Target, popular restaurant, etc.?
Post # 3
I would personally love a mix. I want my registry items, but if I got cash instead, I could go out and buy it myself. So either way, it’s amazing. I admit, I prefer money, because its so much easier to go out and buy things yourself and see it in person and stuff. I’m very picky! I’m worried when I get my registry items I won’t really like them.
:S but! I’m not picky enough to not use something I got for free haha
i think I’m neutral on gift cards. we always get a ton of them for holidays because its such an easy gift and we use them whenever we can. So I guess it works.
Post # 4
I will admit it, I really only wanted cash but we did have a registry because we knew that some people may be uncomfortable with that.
It sounds like the couple in your post probably would want cash too since they only registered for a few basic things.
Post # 5
We totally want cash, but did a registry for those who aren’t comfortable with giving cash. We are also saving for a down payment on a house. So any and all money we get at the wedding will go straight into savings for a house.
Post # 6
If they only registered for basics, I bet they’re really hoping for cash.
I voted registry items on the poll, though, because they’re things I could never justify purchasing myself but desperately want. Like crystal. I’d love to receive pieces off our registry, because every time we set our table for a special occasion I’ll remember our wedding and the guests who purchased it for us. But hey, I’m sentimental.
Post # 7
Agree with PPs, if they only registered for a few things, they likely want cash. Also, if they are moving soon, they likely don’t want a bunch of new things that they will have to pack up and move somewhere else soon.
Post # 9
Gift cards are nice, as they force you to buy something for yourself. I would do a gift card from wherever they are registered.
Post # 10
Not to sound tacky but we are hoping for cash… we have paid for our entire wedding and honeymoon ourselves with very little left over for spending while actually on our honeymoon. It would be nice if we had a little cash to use while on it… We have also lived together for the last 5 years and have a child so we have a house full of stuff…we dont need the traditional gifts like pots and pans and such but we did register for a few things…
Post # 11
Are you close enough that you could ask them?
I usually ONLY give gifts because I feel there’s judgment in how much money you could give, but given their circumstances, gifts might just be a burden. You could give small gifts that are easy to pack.
Post # 12
I’m like you – I wanted our registry stuff. Because I was afraid we’d say that we would buy stuff with the money we got but then never follow-through. And, well, that’s exactly what happened. The money went some to our honeymoon but mostly to bills and I still didn’t get the wine cabinet I really wanted. Ah, well such is adult life, I suppose.
In this case, though, I wonder if the small registry is an indication that they really would prefer cash. I feel like that’s advice I’ve heard a lot: If you really want money but feel an obligation to do an registry, just do a small registry and people will probably give cash.
Post # 13
Well, during my FB stalking, I found that they are registered at other store and the list has over 100 things on it – like bedding, specific kitchen stuff, and some small furniture and home decor…
Now, the military will pack and move everything so I don’t know if that’s an issue – it wasn’t for us anyway since I just chilled it the house overseeing everything 🙂
So, now with this new info, Registry, cash, or gift card!?
Post # 14
I definitely want things off registry, but if I receive gift cards or cash then I can purchase items off my registry at a discount after the wedding, so I’ll be happy either way. Plus, there are a few items at several stores we did not register at that I would love too. I would use the cash for that as well.
Post # 15
I would still get cash, because most of the time the dollars go further when the couple can use the registry completion discount. If there’s something that you want them to buy, you can tell them that’s what you thought of in the card and that you thought they might be able to best direct it to the things they need the most.
Post # 16
I picked registry items, because any money we get will go to paying off my Fiance 125k worth of student loans. 🙁 We are also most likely going to be moving either right before or after the wedding, but will be registering for many items.