Post # 1

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Busy bee
So TTC ladies, which part of the cycle is worse for you, waiting to ovulate, or waiting to test for your BFP?
I’m only in cycle 2, but I so far, I feel like the waiting-to-ovulate portion of the cycle is worse for me. At least in the TWW after ovulation, I could potentially be pregnant. Before ovulation, there’s no chance at all, and it bums me out!
Post # 3

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Blushing bee
I find the TWW worse, I have to try so hard not to symptom spot. Though this is our first cycle TTC and I had knee surgery at the very start so I wasn’t even thinking about ovulation then! It actually worked out well cause once I was up and about again I did an OPK and it was nearly positive so we were able to BD without feeling like we were waiting for O.
Post # 4

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Sugar bee
Good question! I’m only in cycle 2 too, and I agree with you. With the TWW, at least it’s kind of exciting, and what’s done is done. Plus it’s less time to wait. When waiting to ovulate, there’s SO much time before you could be pregnant, and it’s a little stressful to figure out BD timing.
Post # 5

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Honey Beekeeper
Waiting to ovulate. It can doesnt happen until anywhere from CD22-35 and even as late as 70 something. So waiting indefinitely and being on my toes to make sure I don’t miss it is waaaaaaaaaaaaaay worse than a known 2 weeks.
Post # 6

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Honey bee
waiting to ovulate. My O date has ranged from CD15 to CD19 so I never know when it will happen. With the TWW, I know when I will have an answer either way
Post # 7

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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods
I think the 2WW is worse. I’m an early ovulator (10-12) with a long LP (16 days) though. Plus I cut out drinking drinking during the 2WW, and allow myself a few before O, so hanging out with my friends during the 2WW and trying to find excuses as to why I’m not drinking (we haven’t told anyone we’re ttc) is exhausting, along with trying not to symptom spot.
Post # 8

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Bumble bee
I think the TWW is worse. Symptom spotting and thinking about it constantly. Also my cycles have varied from 26-30 days, and as I am not sure on my LP length yet (last month was first time using opk and knowing my LP) so the waiting and not knowing if I was “late” or not was killer!
Post # 9

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Sugar bee
@IAmTheShadow: Because I don’t really know when I ovulate and timing is so crucial, I find it way worse waiting for that. At least once it’s over you know there’s nothing you can do about it! I also have long cycles so waiting for O is much longer.
Post # 10

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Sugar bee
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
I found waiting for O to be the worst because mine was pretty irregular. It was always a surprise when it would finally happen, but AF was always 14-16 days after confirmed O, so I always knew when it could be expected and when I could realistically start testing.
Post # 11

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Busy bee
So this is odd – I thought most people would say “waiting to test/for AF” is worse, and the poll supports that. But most of us commenting here feel like waiting for O is worse, lol! I totally agree with what all of you ladies posted about waiting for ovulation – not knowing when it’s coming is super annoying, and when you’re TTC, knowing that you also only have a short window when you do ovulate to get the BD action in – it’s just stressful!
Post # 12

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Sugar bee
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
@IAmTheShadow: Maybe the poll doesn’t reflect it because there are a number of people who just assume O on CD 14, so the TWW is the big wait for them.
Post # 13

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Bumble bee
I as really lucky that my O was regular and AF also came every CD28. I found ‘waiting’ to test the worst. When I was waiting to O, it was still fun and exciting and I felt like I had more control over the situation (have sex/not have sex), I found I enjoyed myself more because I knew I wasn’t pregnant, I had a few drinks ate sushi and just live normally. After O I was constantly worried about every little twinge and pain, I was a horrible symptom spotter. I was always thinking ‘what if’ so I refrained from drinking, and eating things that I shouldn’t if I was pregnant, because I thought it better to be in the habit now. Also dealing with the BFNs was horribly depressing for me. I didn’t mind dealing with a BFN on OPKs, because it was more of a ‘oh well maybe tomorrow’.
I also felt like a super sex goddess around O, when AF came it was bitches-be-wearing-sweat-pants-week.
Post # 14

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11283 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
Definitely to test / AF as it could be a life changing result. I look forward to testing O so you can do something positive towards getting a +.
Post # 15

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Busy bee
@PoppyH: Hahahahaha! True story about the flip from sex goddess to sweatpants queen. Me too.
@ScottishMrs: Huh, good point. I feel like there might be some truth to that.
Post # 16

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Honey bee
definitely waiting for o… I mean once I O, I know I’m not going to know anything for x amount of days so no anxiety there. Waiting for O can happen at anytime… so hands down worse.