Post # 1
My FI and I have decided on a U-shaped table for our small wedding. We want to feel connected to our guests and have an informal, family feel. Our venue is encouraging us to have a really big U. It means guests will be quite spread out and it will also invade the dance floor. The benefit of the big U is that we can have our first dance inside it. Other than that, I much prefer the look of a smaller U. As a guest, which would you prefer?
The smaller U (not our actual venue, but a similar table arrangement)
The larger U (also not our venue, but similar to what our venue wants to set up)
Which do you prefer?
Post # 2
To be honest I don’t think it matters at all. I had to look several times to see the difference.
Post # 3
LOL! I am feeling a bit “bridezilla” about this point! The way I see it, with the first arrangement, my guests can easily mingle and chat between the tables. In the second one they cant.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Your guests are not going to mingle and chat between tables in either arrangement. They will talk to the people that they face and that are directly on either side. They are not going to turn around and talk to the people sitting behind them, as that would be both awkward and rude to the people they are actually sitting with.
That said, I still prefer the smaller U.
Post # 5
it’s hard to see from this how much space the smaller u has but if the people are too close together I can picture awkward ness when chairs are pushed back to move around, especially if you’re really close to the people at your sides. Plus the serving staff may find more space easier. I don’t think people would turn around for either of them
Post # 6
ne11y23: The reality is that no matter what shape the table, guests can only politely talk with the people on either side of them and directly across the table.
Any further than that requires the people on either side to either lean forward or back, and they can only do that for so long.
With the small “U”, the people on the inside of the “U” would also be able to turn around and talk with the people behind them, but that’s kind of rude to the others at the same table.
Post # 7
ne11y23: is the difference tge number of people sat across the top bit? If it is, could you base the choice on who/number of people you want sat on what is essentially ‘the top table’ bit of it?
Post # 8
ne11y23: I love U shaped lay-outs! Hmm how big is the space in the venue? Both options in your photos are proportionate to the size of the rooms and I think that’s important. You wouldn’t want a large set up dwarfing a smaller room or a closer set-up making a large room feel sparse. I don’t there would be too much mingling at dinner as people would most likely feel it was rude to turn their back on the people sitting opposite them to talk to someone behind.
Post # 9
Thanks for the feed back everyone. If you view the pics on a smart phone, there doesn’t seem to be much difference between the two lay-outs. Basically the first one has 6 people at the end of the U (“head table”) – which suits us perfectly. We aren’t having a bridal table so we are sitting with our parents. The larger U has space for 9 people. I just worry that spacing out 6 people in a 9 person space (it would be the same for our guests on the “legs” of the U) will feel a bit weird and a bit formal.
Thanks for helping me out with my first world problem. Your advice helps me to see that either way it will be ok.