(Closed) Which way is correct.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Mr. and Mrs. (man’s first name) last name

Example;  Mr. and Mrs. Michael Smith

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

And address widows as Mrs. Michael Smith

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Both ways are correct.  It really depends on the couple.  I would be pretty upset if it was addressed Mr. and Mrs. Dude Nerdface.  I’d much prefer Lady and Dude Nerdface–I’m 50% of the couple!  Obviously others prefer it another way.  

I usually do the Mr. and Mrs. Dude Lastname for older couples, esp ones who I address as Mr./Mrs. and Dude and Lady Lastname for younger couples who I always address with a first name.

But strictly Emily Post speaking–both ways are correct.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Urgh I hate it when the woman just gets lost.  She has her own name!  I addressed all of our invitations to Mr. & Mrs. John and Jane Lastname.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Urgh I hate it when the woman just gets lost.  She has her own name!  I addressed all of our invitations to Mr. & Mrs. John and Jane Lastname.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@Meowkers: Funnily enough you’re not supposed to separate the man’s first name from his last name, so technically in that format the woman’s name should come first.

The things you learn when planning weddings…lol.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Moja Milosc: It might be “proper” to address a widow as Mrs.Michael Smith, but I’d tread carefully there. If my mom (a widow) got something address to Mrs. Patrick OurLastname she’d definitely be upset becuase they didn’t use her name but mostly because it’s a painful reminder.

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