(Closed) Which wedding traditions are you not having?

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
11744 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We didn’t do a bouquet/garter toss.

Post # 5
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@orchidaloha:  I haven’t given this a lot of thought, but I do know that NO ONE is smushing cake in my face. Spending hours getting ready and it ends with that? No, thank you. My Fiance will be choosing my dress with me, we will not be sleeping separately the night before, we are eloping, we are not having a wedding party, he has been wearing his wedding band since we got engaged…I’m sure there are more. I think a shorter list is what we are following. I can’t think of any of those 😛

Post # 6
91 posts
Worker bee

@orchidaloha:  When I get married I probably won’t do a garter/bouquet toss. I also don’t really like cake.
And I probably won’t wear a veil.
Annnnnd also won’t be doing a ‘send off’ most likely. Too much chaos for me. lol.

Post # 9
3194 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@orchidaloha:  no bouquet or garter toss! Also no cake face smashing. I would die after paying so much for makeup. 


Post # 10
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

This is what we won’t do and why:

– No dad walking me down the isle: we’re opting for the Swedish tradition instead, i.e. the couple walks in together to show that they both step into the marriage with joy and as equals

– No bouquet toss: After the ceremony we’ll head to my grandpa’s grave where I’ll leave my bouquet

– No garter removal/toss: I personally just find this tradition a little medieval

– No cake in the face: I don’t eat cake + I really don’t want food smeared over my face

– Not leaving for the honeymoon at once: We’ll stay behind for two days to celebrate my brothers and then my birthday


Post # 11
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  • No head table (sweetheart instead)
  • No cake (pie instead)
  • No bouquet/garter toss
  • No send-off
  • No immediate honeymoon (we still haven’t taken it, but plan to go in the fall)

Post # 12
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@eocenia:  I really like the Swedish tradition that you described! I’m not Swedish, but I may steal it. I don’t want everyone staring at me 😛 Also, I heard that Sweden has been voted the #1 place to live…yet again, lol.

Post # 13
1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Here are some of mine:

-No bouquet or garter toss

-No cake in the face

-No veil

-No “something blue”… blue is my least favourite colour, wouldn’t match at all with anything else in the wedding, and I don’t want to have something just because it’s blue

-No flowers – other than the bouquets I’m making for myself and my bridesmaids, there won’t be any flowers as centerpieces or decor

Post # 14
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We didn’t do a unity candle…we had a traditional catholic ceremony with mass so we decided that was long enough. Why add another 5 minutes to it for people to stare at each other awkwardly while we stare at a candle that took 30 seconds to light, also awkwardly, while a lovey dovey song plays LOL


I begged my husband not to smash the cake in my face…but his Bridesmaid or Best Man bet him $20 he wouldn’t do it…well at least we got an extra $20 out of the deal LOL and he got smashed back and worse LOL the worst part was the cake went down my dress so I had to go to a back room and go fishing for cake in my boobs LOL

Post # 15
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh man, i haven’t thought of writing them all down:

  • No bridal/wedding party


  • No bouquet toss or garters


  • No aisle or walking anyone down it- we will walk in together


  • No first dance


  • No father/daughter or mother/son dance


  • Not leaving for the honeymoon right away


  • No sendoff


  • No cake


  • No showers or pre-parties


  • No send-off



Post # 16
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re breaking lots!

  • No wedding party whatsoever… no Maid/Matron of Honor, bridesmaids, Best Man, groomsmen, flower girl or ringer bearer.
  • No showers or bachelorette parties (I think they are uncessary, and I even personally think showers are rude… so none of that for me!)
  • We’ll be staying the night together the night before and see each other during the day before the ceremony.
  • I did 100% of my dress shopping with just me and Fiance… and he was actually the one to find my dress on the rack. So yes, he’s seen it.  <— the reactions I get from people about this are incredible.
  • No ‘unity’ rituals during the ceremony — short n’ sweet. Also non-religious. No aisle runner or other ceremony decor (just using the great outdoors). And no bubble-blowing or confetti-throwing during recessional.
  • No “grand entrance” to the reception.
  • No bouquet or garter toss.

I’m sure there’s lots more, but those are the big ones.

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